Do you wait until you’re starving to eat?

Name: Do you wait until you’re starving to eat?
Uploaded: 2024-05-06T10:15:02+00:00
Duration: 58 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, compares eating to sex: we eat for curiosity, boredom, and connection, not just hunger. She argues people should…

6 May 2024 · 1 min

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Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, compares eating to sex: we eat for curiosity, boredom, and connection, not just hunger. She argues people should recognize the same range of valid reasons to have sex, not just spontaneous desire, and stop blaming themselves for low libido.

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Do you wait until you're starving to eat? I'm a sex therapist, but today I want to talk to you about food. Now, when it comes to food, we recognize that there are plenty of reasons why we eat, and many of them don't even involve hunger. We eat because we're curious about how something tastes, or we're bored, or we want to have a shared experience with loved ones. We eat because food is fun and satisfying and exciting and interesting. Sure, sometimes we eat because we're hungry. But we usually don't just sit around waiting until we're absolutely starving to eat. So here's my question to you. Why can't you view sex in the same way? If you're like most people, you beat yourself up for not having a higher sex drive. You feel like you're just supposed to crave it or want it, have that feeling of needing to have it. And you may even feel like something is horribly wrong with you or even your relationship. But just think about what your sex life could look like if you recognize that there are plenty of other really good reasons to have sex that don't include desire.