Face Sitting

Maybe I started videoing today. We are talking about face sitting.

Oh, yeah.

So we randomly posted about face sitting on our Instagram account a few days ago, and we were blown away by the number of DMs that we got about it. So we decided, all right, we have to make a video about face sitting, obviously. So face sitting can be done in a number of different configurations. But what we are gonna be talking about specifically is when the woman or the vulva owner sits on her partner's face. This also sometimes is known as queening. Like, whereas the giver's face is the throne and the queen is sitting on top of it. So a lot of women in particular, like, reached out to us on Instagram and said that they just didn't realize that face sitting was even a thing. So they thought that their partner was just joking about it or they'd never even heard about it before. So it's. We actually wanted to read you one specific DM from a woman that was very indicative of the messages we got. She said, I've been married for 13 years, and my husband always says, come sit on my face. I always thought he was just being cheeky. So last night I actually did it. And afterwards, he said, thanks for making my lifelong fantasy come true.

Wow.

I honestly didn't think that was even a real thing. I feel so silly now that I didn't try it years ago. Also, he now wants me to buy some of your guides after hearing where I got the courage to actually do this.

Oh, that's some good advice.

So, in particular, I think there was this dynamic that came up where a lot of women didn't realize that their male partners were genuinely very into this face sitting. So this is the kind of stuff that we just love to talk about, like, things that people didn't even realize were things.

All right, so if you didn't realize it was a thing, what we are going to do today is talk about how to actually face it and what is so great about it. But first, if you're brand new here, we want to say, hi, we are Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa is a sex therapist, and we've been together for 13 years.

And our account is all about giving you the tools, tips, and techniques that you need to create a truly extraordinary relationship inside of the bedroom and out. So if you already know you're interested in that, just go ahead and hit that subscribe button. All right, so let's talk about first, how to do face sitting. So a lot of people were confused about, like, the exact mechanics of it.

Oh, yeah.

So what's happening is that you're on your knees, you're straddling your partner's head, and you're facing their head, like, not facing down by their feet. You can do it either way for sure. But I think for a lot of people, like, the best starter position is more facing their head.

Yeah, I think a lot of women were just assuming it was like, squatting on the toilet. You can do it in that configuration, but we recommend doing it the other way.

To start out with another huge source of confusion was like, are we sitting or are we hovering? And so we shared a number of really funny videos from men in particular, being like, no, I don't want this hover business. I want you to sit on it. And there were some hysterical comments of women then responding, like. But, like, are you gonna be able to breathe?

I don't wanna kill you.

The men were saying, like, you know, if I die, tell my family I went out doing what I loved. Stuff like that. So I think that you can really experiment with how much of your body weight you want to rest on your partner's face. Start off like you're gonna be on your knees. So start off doing more of that hover, and you can gradually increase the pressure on your partner's face and communicate with them the whole time. Like, have them tell you more, more, more. No, I can take more. Because I think, in general, women, like, really underestimate just how much men love this, just how much they want that feeling of being, like, smothered and covered and having some pressure on them. So experiment, Check in with your partner. But you're probably thinking that your partner can handle way less than they actually want.

All right, so let's talk a little bit about why this works and why this position may actually be preferable to your partner. So first of all, this position as the giver, or, you know, giving. This is tricky. Receiving the face, sitting, or giving the oral sex, the partner on the bottom. It can actually be a lot more comfortable than your traditional oral sex position where you're lying face down. Because in that position, you can kind of be, like, pinching your neck a little bit. Yeah. Craning your neck. And over time, it can start to feel kind of uncomfortable. You are also able to use your hands in this position with your neck in a very neutral position. So great on the neck, and it can be much easier kind of on the hands and wrist.

So you can use your hands, like, internally. If your vulva owner likes that, you can use your Hands to, like, wrap around the butt, give it a little squeeze.

Yeah, you can do a lot. Yeah, you can do a lot more with your hands. And also, on top of all of this, there is a really great view. And I guess it's kind of a similar view that is available in the traditional oral sex position, but it's just a little different and novel and maybe preferable.

All right, so let's talk about why the vulva owner might enjoy face sitting. There are some really great benefits to this, too. So first thing is that it gives them a lot more control over the stimulation. So you can put more pressure, less pressure. You can kind of move your body around to direct your partner to where specifically you want them to go. I think one of the big complaints that a lot of women have about the traditional oral sex position where you're on your back and your partner is on their stomach in between your knees, is it feels like you're not really doing anything. You're kind of just lying there. A lot of women and vulva owners feel, like, very uncomfortable with this, so you're doing something much more active in this kind of position. There's also a great focus on the clitoris, which is awesome for vulva owner pleasure, so you can really direct your partner there. And again, like Xander was saying, you can get that variety of stimulation as well, so it can be a very, very great position.

And then finally, if you're interested in experimenting with power dynamics, this is also a great position to try.

Yeah, if you're in, like, a male female pairing, you can kind of like, you know, the woman is being. Could play around with, like, being more.

Dominant or assertive or, like, grinding.

Yeah. The man could play around with being more submissive. Even if, you know, if you're. Whatever gender configuration you are, you can play around with the person who's on top, like, kind of being that more assertive person. You don't have to do that with face sitting if that's not a turn on for you. But it's definitely. It can be a fun little wrinkle if you guys are into it.

Oh, yeah.

All right, so that wraps up our intro to face sitting. So if you're looking to improve your oral sex skills, because that's what's going to be happening during some face sitting, then we just want to point you to our amazing foreplay guides. We really walk you through, step by step, exactly what to do and when. I think a lot of people feel nervous about performing oral sex or using their hands because they just, like, don't really know what to do. I mean, where else do we get a chance to learn this stuff, right? So we really made these very detailed step by step guides and they're so much fun to share with your partner. So we will put the link to that in the description box below.

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