Hot take: the couples who can turn each other down properly are the ones having the best socks!

Name: Hot take: the couples who can turn each other down properly are the ones having the best socks!
Uploaded: 2026-04-21T20:09:51+00:00
Duration: 57 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: In this conversational segment, Vanessa Marin discusses how couples can improve their sexual relationship by fostering comfortable rejection and clear…

21 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this conversational segment, Vanessa Marin discusses how couples can improve their sexual relationship by fostering comfortable rejection and clear communication. She suggests swapping the phrase “Do you want to have sex?” for “Are you open to sex?” to reduce pressure, initiating intimacy earlier in the day, allowing partners to say no without providing a reason, and offering alternative bonding activities like cuddling or a walk when the mood isn’t right. These strategies aim to align expectations, reduce misinterpretation, and keep partners feeling connected rather than drifting apart.

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couples who are more comfortable rejecting with each other actually have more often.
Oh yeah. So we need to get used to the idea that we're not going to be turned on and in the mood in the exact same time. So one thing that works really well for me is rather than saying, do you want to have sex, we change it to, are you open to sex? So just that one word swap, that reminds me in the moment I don't have to be magically turned on, I just have to consider the possibility. Another thing that we do is we'll initiate earlier in the day like, hey, I'd like to have sex with you at some point today. Like, are you open to that? You're allowed to say no for no reason whatsoever, but we want to help our partner recognize that it's not about them, it's about the situation. So suggest something different, like, hey, could we sit on the couch and cuddle instead? Could we go for a walk around the block? Like, something else that will feel connecting and bonding so you don't feel like you're just going separate directions.