How Do I Say This: The Bristle Reaction

Welcome back to How Do I say this? A series where I, a couples therapist, give you specific scripts for your most common communication frustrations. Okay, first of all, do not, I repeat, do not ever tell your partner in those words that nothing they are doing in the bedroom is working for you. They will not recover from that one. Instead, you can play my eye exam game. So here's how it works. Tell your partner, I want to try out some different oral techniques on you or whatever else you want to do. Try two different techniques and ask your partner, which one do you like better, this one or this one? Then switch roles, have your partner try on you. So this game is a great way of allowing you and your partner to try new techniques on each other and give each other feedback, but without having to say nothing you've ever done has ever worked for me. Also, I gotta say, there are so many people who just do not like their partner's moves in the bedroom. And this is one of the many reasons why my husband husband and I started creating technique based guides. So we have guides for foreplay, intercourse, butt stuff, all sorts of things. And they are such a fun way to explore new techniques, but in a way that feels playful and exciting, not insulting. I'll put some information in the caption about how to check those out. Let me know in the comments down below what is something that you are struggling to tell your partner and make sure to follow this series to see if I pick your question.