“If He wanted to, He would”

Name: “If He wanted to, He would”
Uploaded: 2023-06-04T10:00:18+00:00
Duration: 1 min 5 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Short YouTube conversation featuring Vanessa Marin and another speaker arguing that partners should not be expected to read each other's minds. The…

4 Jun 2023 · 1 min

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Short YouTube conversation featuring Vanessa Marin and another speaker arguing that partners should not be expected to read each other's minds. The speakers emphasize the importance of explicitly telling partners the specific things that make us feel seen and loved, and critique social-media portrayals that imply a partner should intuitively know and provide desired surprises.

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And I'm pretty sure that you are that love of mine.
Couples therapist.
Weighing in here.
Yes, of course.
We all want to have partners who make us feel seen and appreciated and do kind things for us, right?
But videos.
Like these are skipping over.
A very crucial step, which is us.
Telling our partners the specific things that make us feel seen and loved.
So in this video, it looks like she is extended attic to get donuts.
And champagne and this purse. And that's great.
For her, but another.
Woman might.
Actually hate all of those.
Things, might.
Actually hate them so much that she wonders, do you even know me? Why would you try to surprise me.
With these things?
So I think videos.
Like these, while.
They look very.
Cute and fun, they.
Really skip over that crucial step, and they make it seem.
Like a good partner is one who can just read your mind, know what you want, and just do all of those things for you automatically. Because if he wanted to, he would. But the bottom line is, we're.
All adults.
We can't expect our partners to be mind readers. We can't expect them to know what we want and need. We have to be willing to do the adult thing of sharing with them what makes us feel so loved and appreciated.