If the physical touch in your relationship has begun to feel a little loaded… this may be why!

Did you know that sex is one of the top 3 reasons why couples divorce? We refuse to let that happen in our marriage. So here is one of our simple and practical divorce-proof habits that keep us feeling connected.

Most couples have fallen into a habit without even realizing it. They only touch each other during sex or right before it, and over time that starts to create a major problem.

Your body starts to connect touch with a motive. So when your partner reaches for you, instead of feeling warm and connected, you feel on guard. Eventually it gets to the point where you develop what we call the bristle reaction, when you feel your body tense up when your partner tries to touch you.

The good news is the fix is really simple. More non-soxual touch. Touch with no motive. Touch that doesn't lead anywhere. A hug in the morning, holding hands on the couch, a quick shoulder rub while they're working. These small consistent moments teach your nervous system that touch is safe and that it doesn't always have to lead to socks. Over time, it breaks the association and you start to feel more connected, more at ease, and more open to intimacy when the moment is right.

This is honestly one of the simplest and easiest things you can do for your relationship, and you can even start today. Follow for more simple and practical divorce-proof habits to keep the spark alive in your marriage.