Let’s Do This

Name: Let’s Do This
Uploaded: 2023-12-18T15:30:15+00:00
Duration: 26 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: A short excerpt from Vanessa Marin’s YouTube video 'Let’s Do This' in which she reflects on initiating sex within a long-term relationship. She describes…

18 Dec 2023 · 0 min

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A short excerpt from Vanessa Marin’s YouTube video 'Let’s Do This' in which she reflects on initiating sex within a long-term relationship. She describes initiating sex out of frustration (e.g., "it's been a while") and how anger and resentment can make the act feel transactional—like checking an item off a to-do list—rather than an intimate connection.

Oh, I have for sure initiated sex with you in this exact circumstance where I'm like, it's been a while. Now I'm mad that it's been a while, and I'm mad you haven't been the one to initiate. Now I gotta do it. And, like, you can pick up on that vibe. Like, it doesn't feel sexy. It doesn't feel enticing. It turns it into sex. That's like, just crossing something off the to do list instead of a genuine connection between two people who love each other.