Let's Talk About Blue Balls

Name: Let's Talk About Blue Balls
Uploaded: 2023-04-19T10:30:07+00:00
Duration: 1 min 19 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Short YouTube monologue by Xander (partner of sex therapist Vanessa Marin) addressing the myth of "blue balls." He explains that while temporary arousal…

19 Apr 2023 · 1 min

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Short YouTube monologue by Xander (partner of sex therapist Vanessa Marin) addressing the myth of "blue balls." He explains that while temporary arousal without release can cause mild discomfort, "blue balls" is often exaggerated and should not be used to coerce sexual activity. He recommends self-relief as a simple solution and emphasizes consent—never coerce a partner.

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Hey, I'm Xander. I've been with my wife Vanessa, who's a S x therapist for 15 years now. You might have seen her viral TikTok where she talks about how she and I make out for 10 to 30 seconds every night. Now, we've gotten a lot of comments about blue balls, so let's talk blue balls. First of all, blue balls just isn't really a thing for people of all genders. If you get turned on, you want to have, you don't have, yeah, you're going to feel a little bummed. That's normal. That's okay. Now, if you are turned on for a really extended period of time and then you don't have that release, yeah, maybe you're going to feel a little bit of slight discomfort. But here's the thing. You can take care of this problem yourself so easily with your hand. The problem is blue balls gets used as a way for men to coerce women into having with them or taking care of them into in some other way. As if, like, men are totally helpless against being turned on. And like, oh, my God, you got to do something for me. It hurts. Bottom line, it is never okay to coerce someone to do something with you that they don't want to do. If you're making out for 10, 30 seconds, it is not going to hurt. I can promise you that. But if you're a dude that is still complaining about blue balls, then be a big boy. Use your hand.