Vanessa Marin breaks down why people think they have low libido when they actually don't. Performance anxiety after one bad experience, mismatched timing with your partner, fear of rejection, emotional distance, exhaustion, or just different baseline drives can all feel like lost desire but aren't the same thing.
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Maybe it's not low libido. Maybe it's you lost your erection one time during sex and you're freaked out it's going to happen again. Maybe it's not low libido. Maybe it's just that sometimes she wants it in moments that you don't. Maybe it's not low libido. Maybe she's rejected you so many times you're afraid to initiate again. Maybe it's not low libido. Maybe you just don't feel that emotionally connected to your partner right now. Maybe it's not low libido. Maybe it's that she wants you to prove your attraction to her by being ready to go at all times. Maybe it's not low libido. Maybe you work 60 hours a week and you're just exhausted. Maybe. Maybe it's not lo libido. Maybe she just lies there and makes you do all the work. Maybe it's not low libido. Maybe she just has a relatively higher sex drive than you and neither of you realize just how normal that is.