Mental Load and Sex Drive

Name: Mental Load and Sex Drive
Uploaded: 2022-10-03T06:30:07+00:00
Duration: 49 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: A short conversation between Vanessa Marin and another speaker explaining how carrying the mental load harms sexual desire. They list direct…

3 Oct 2022 · 1 min

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A short conversation between Vanessa Marin and another speaker explaining how carrying the mental load harms sexual desire. They list direct mechanisms—stress (described as a leading sex-drive killer), resentment toward a partner, and difficulty enjoying sex when distracted—and suggest discussing the topic with a partner and listening to a related podcast episode as a first step.

Let's talk about mental load and sex.
Drive all right, so let's be real. Carrying mental load is never fun, but it can have a particularly devastating effect in the bedroom. Here are just a couple of the ways mental load impacts your sex drive.
It creates stress. Carrying mental load is hard. It leads to feelings of overwhelm and exhaustion. We all know that stress isn't good for us, but did you know that it is also the number one sex drive killer?
It can also lead to resentment. If you're already feeling frustrated about the amount of mental load that you're carrying, you're probably going to start to resent your partner. And it's hard to feel desire for someone if you're also feeling resentment towards them.
You might be carrying the mental load of your sex life. So are you the one reading books, scheduling sex, figuring out birth control, following sex positive accounts like ours, or suggesting which of our courses you and your partner should take together?
And it can make it really hard to enjoy sex when you've got so much on your mind. It's really hard to let go and have fun in the bedroom. And if the sex you're having isn't feeling pleasurable, isn't feeling fun, then of course you're not going to be craving it either.
One of to start fixing this issue. A great place to start is by listening to our podcast episode about mental load with your partner.