Reading An Excerpt Of My Book, Sex Talks

I spent years chasing my individual version of the fucking fairy tale. I wanted to be perfectly sexy and confident, seducing my partner with every look and touch. I fixated on my partner's experience and ignored my own, trying to give them the impression that we were clicking during sex. I faked pleasure, faked orgasm, faked pretty much everything. All in the service of sexual perfectionism. But my performance wasn't good for anyone, and I doubt yours is either. Sexual perfectionism leads to sex that is high on awkwardness and pressure and low on enjoyment and intimacy. It even chips away at your sex drive. Why would you crave such an anxiety inducing experience? But perhaps the worst side effect of sexual perfectionism is that it leaves you stuck. You're unsatisfied with your non fairy tale sex life, bored of repeating the exact same routine. But you're also too self conscious to suggest or start something different. We all want to see ourselves as someone who is great at sex. So we stick with what we know out of the fear that if we try something new, it won't go perfectly. The devil you know is better than the devil you don't. Right. But in this book, I'm asking you and your partner to step outside of your comfort zone, be vulnerable and take some risks. So we've got to work together to overcome your sexual perfectionism.