Resentment

Resentment is actually on you. So it's like, not somebody else's fault. The person that's treating you unfairly, mistreating you, Your partner definitely may be acting like a jerk. They may be doing things that are unfair or unkind or whatever it is. But the buildup of resentment itself comes from you not expressing your wants, your needs, or your boundaries. We're not saying that, like you, your partner has a blank check to just be a jerk to you and do whatever they want. But we are saying that the actual experience of resentment, it's different from my feelings are hurt or I'm upset that you did that. Resentment is like this buildup over time where you have not ever expressed to your partner, I don't like that. That's not okay with me. Or you haven't enforced boundaries around it. And so over time, it turns into this stronger feel.