Should we open our relationship?

Name: Should we open our relationship?
Uploaded: 2024-08-08T10:00:02+00:00
Duration: 50 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: A listener (Vanessa Marin) describes her husband's fantasy of watching her have sex with another man and asks whether they should open their…

8 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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A listener (Vanessa Marin) describes her husband's fantasy of watching her have sex with another man and asks whether they should open their relationship. She is not fully opposed but fears the emotional consequences (guilt, jealousy, changed expectations) and is unwilling to risk harming their marriage. She asks for a gut reaction from the respondent.

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My husband's fantasy is to watch me have sex with another man. He thinks it would be really hot. And while it's fun to fantasize about, my husband actually wants this to happen. We have had many very open discussions about it. I'm not completely opposed to it. However, I feel that it would change our marriage in one way or another. I don't feel like it can ever be a fun thing that happens here and there. I think that even if we were both 100% okay with it beforehand, it's likely that one of us would feel bad about it afterwards. For example, I might feel eternally guilty about it while he loves it. Or I might love it and he might become extremely jealous. Or I might feel uncomfortable with it. But now that my husband has experienced it, he might want me to keep doing it or not be satisfied if I didn't continue doing it. It sounds very fun and sexy. Hypothetically. But even if there is the tiniest chance that it might harm our marriage, I'm not willing to take that chance. Xander, what is your gut reaction here?