🚨 Stop doing this in your relationship! 🚨 #marriedlife #marriage #relationshipadvice

Name: 🚨 Stop doing this in your relationship! 🚨 #marriedlife #marriage #relationshipadvice
Uploaded: 2026-03-31T00:33:00+00:00
Duration: 2 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Xander, married to a sex therapist, explains weaponized incompetence: pretending you can't do something so your partner does it instead. 55% of couples…

31 Mar 2026 · 0 min

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Xander, married to a sex therapist, explains weaponized incompetence: pretending you can't do something so your partner does it instead. 55% of couples deal with it, and it kills sexual intimacy. Both men and women do it.

Where does this guy go?
We've lived here for years. How does he not know where the pot lids go?
It's fine, I'll just put it away myself. Oh great. Does this sound familiar? Hey, I'm Xander. I'm a regular dude, but I'm married to a sex therapist. Now, has your partner ever asked you to complete a task and you found yourself asking so many questions Your partner just ends up doing it themselves? Well, there's actually a name for that. It's called weaponized incompetence. While you're probably not doing this on purpose, it can cause some real issues in your relationship and your sex life. 55% of couples have said they've experienced this, and people of all genders can be guilty of doing it.
So what do you do if your partner is feigning incompetence? Check the caption for details.