The Ripple Effect Of Bad Initiation

Hey there. I'm Vanessa Marin. I'm a licensed sex therapist and a New York Times bestselling author. Today I want to talk to you about the hidden dangers of bad initiation. So if your partner initiates in a way that you don't like, like let's say they mumble want to do it, you may think of it as just a few moments of temporary annoyance. But here's the thing. If your partner is consistently initiating sex in ways that you don't like, the impacts are going to be so much bigger and so much deeper than just those few moments of annoyance. You might start to notice your attraction to your partner decreasing. You might start to notice that you have less and less desire for sex. You're probably going to have less frequent sex because your partner is not initiating it in ways that you like. And even when you do have sex, even when you decide like, okay, didn't love that initiation, but I'll say yes anyways, the sex that you do have is probably not going to be very good because it didn't get started on a good foot. And it can even lead to less non sexual physical intimacy, frustration, fights. It really can impact every aspect of your sex life and your relationship. So it's very important for us to learn better ways to initiate. Check out the caption for some strategies to up level your initiation so you can actually create the intimacy and the connection that you are both wanting.