Vanessa Marin says most couples want more romance but never define what that actually means to them. You're probably chasing vague ideas from movies instead of figuring out what romance looks like for you.
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If you want more romance in your relationship, you first need to start by getting really clear about what the heck it is that you truly want. That phrase. Like, oh, I want more romance. What does that mean? Like, it's just so generic. With romance in particular, like, there's this way that we can feel the desire for more without fully understanding what that even means for us. What I think is actually happening in those moments is it's sort of like the toxic societal beliefs creeping in of like, oh, it just kind of was another average day. I didn't get swept off my feet today. I didn't get some grand romantic gesture like, what's going on?