THIS miscommunication caused a problem for us in the bedroom…

Early in Xander and my relationship, we had a huge misunderstanding about my orgasm. So the way that my orgasm works is, like, the closer that I get to it, I often get quieter and quieter because I'm really focusing on the experience, on the, like, building intensity and sensation.

Getting locked in.

Yeah, like, getting locked in for that experience. But what Xander was experiencing was that I was going from being, like, loud and making noises and talking to him to all of a sudden being very.

Quiet, which felt, like, bad. Is she. Is she close? Is she not? It seemed like she was, and now she's not.

But we had this conversation where I was able to share with him, like, oh, no, no, no. That's actually, like, a good thing that I'm going quiet. And we, like, figured out different strategies to work around it. But all that to say is that sometimes there might just be a misunderstanding about what's actually going on in those moments.