we’re diving into one of the trickiest relationship traps: defensiveness. Listen to episode 202 ⬆️

Name: we’re diving into one of the trickiest relationship traps: defensiveness. Listen to episode 202 ⬆️
Uploaded: 2025-04-03T23:07:15+00:00
Duration: 26 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Vanessa Marin and Xander Marin explain how defensiveness traps couples. The key: both partners can have different, valid experiences at once. They use a…

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Vanessa Marin and Xander Marin explain how defensiveness traps couples. The key: both partners can have different, valid experiences at once. They use a personal tattoo story to show how this works in practice.

Like, how do we manage defensiveness in our relationships? How do we navigate it? For me, the most important thing is to recognize that two things can be true at the same time. So your partner can have an experience, you can have an experience. Those experiences can be completely different from each other, and they are both true and valid and real.
And if you're having trouble remembering that or accepting that, or all Vanessa and I have to do is look down. For me, it's right here. I got and tattooed on my floor.
Literally on our bodies to remind us that two things can be true at the same time. This and this.
It is not an or. It is an and Life is in we. We live in the and.