What happens when your partner isn't into your fantasy?

Name: What happens when your partner isn't into your fantasy?
Uploaded: 2024-11-21T11:00:56+00:00
Duration: 27 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: A short conversational clip from Vanessa Marin's YouTube content in which Vanessa and Xander Marin discuss that it is normal for partners to have…

21 Nov 2024 · 0 min

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A short conversational clip from Vanessa Marin's YouTube content in which Vanessa and Xander Marin discuss that it is normal for partners to have fantasies or preferences their partner doesn't share. They use food preferences (mussels, clams, hazelnuts) as an analogy to show that differing likes/dislikes do not imply relationship incompatibility; instead partners accept differences.

It's also very normal and very common to have a fantasy that your partner is not into or vice versa. I think people get so freaked out about this, like, oh, we're incompatible. We always make food comparisons. And it's such a good comparison here. Like, Xander and I don't like all the same food. Xander loves mussels and clams and I think they're absolutely disgusting. Like, you can.
Hear it in her voice.
He loves hazelnuts.
Oh, like.
Hate even saying the word. But I don't look at that and think like, oh, my, my God, what does that mean about us? Are we not actually a good match for each other? Maybe we're not compatible. It's just like, no, we accept. No, we're different people. Of course we have different likes and dislikes.
Also, I don't want to eat clams, mussels and hazelnuts every single meal.