What if we said it's not the vacation? 🏝️ #marriedlife #vacationmode

Name: What if we said it's not the vacation? 🏝️ #marriedlife #vacationmode
Uploaded: 2026-04-08T19:00:54+00:00
Duration: 1 min 35 s
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Vanessa Marin argues couples don't need to wait for vacation to revive their sex life. Instead, tap into the lighter, more playful version of yourself…

8 Apr 2026 · 2 min

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Vanessa Marin argues couples don't need to wait for vacation to revive their sex life. Instead, tap into the lighter, more playful version of yourself that emerges when responsibilities fade. Identify what made intimacy effortless on your last trip, then bring those qualities into everyday life.

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Your marriage and your sex life don't need a vacation. They need the version of you that shows up on vacation. I mean, I'm never going to tell you not to go on vacation, but hear me out. Who is the version of you that shows up on vacation? I'm willing to bet it's somebody who's a lot lighter, more playful, more spontaneous, more relaxed. You and your partner show up on vacation and you stop acting like roommates and start acting like people who are actually into each other. So it should come as no surprise to any of us that most people will say that vacation sex is the best sex they've ever had. Now there's no denying that it just is easier to access this part of yourself when you're on vacation, when you don't have responsibilities, when you're away from your usual space. But the important thing to remember is that you are capable of accessing this part of yourself back in your regular life. This version of yourself still exists within you. It's not like you turn into a completely different person on vacation and you can only ever be that person on vacation. So the next time you and your partner go on vacation, or when you just reflect on the last vacation you went on, ask yourselves, who was the version of us that showed up on this trip? What kind of energy did we bring with us? What did we do? Why did intimacy feel so much easier between the two of us? And then talk about realistic Specifically, what are you guys able to bring back with you into your day-to-day life? Because at the end of the day, you and your partner deserve to see the vacation versions of yourselves more than once every couple of years.