Why do men get so mad when we reject sex?

Does your partner get disappointed or upset when you turn them down for sex? This is a complicated situation, so let's make a cup of tea and talk about it. First of all, let's be super clear that you are allowed to say no to sex whenever you want. And I am not talking about a partner who gets genuinely mad or pressures or guilts you into having sex with them, because that is a big enough red flag to consider ending the relationship over. What I am talking about here is something a lot more subtle. Your partner feeling bummed out that they're not gonna get to connect with you. Now, here's the thing. Your partner is allowed to be disappointed or bummed out. They were super vulnerable. They put themselves out there and asked for something they want. And anytime we do that in any area of our life and we hear a no, it stings. They wanted to feel close to you, and you weren't open to that. Here's something that I think so many of us get wrong when it comes to sex. It's not just a purely physical act when your partner is initiating with you. It's because they want to feel close to you. So imagine that you had gone up to your part and said, hey, I want to feel really close to you right now. And they said, no, you did not do anything wrong. You are always allowed to say no. It's just important for us to recognize that it makes a lot of sense to feel bummed out when you hear that no. Now, the key to making this all so much smoother and less stressful is to learn how to turn your partner down in a way that respects that original desire for closeness.