YouTube video (Vanessa and Xander Marin) discussing why sex on vacation often feels better than at home and offering practical tips to recreate that experience. Key reasons cited: fewer responsibilities, novelty of location, rest/energy. Tips include communicating about what felt good on vacation, scheduling regular trips, refreshing the bedroom (mattress/sheets/candles), and experimenting with behaviors tried on vacation.
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We need to start a video. Most people think that vacation sex is amazing, but they wonder why we can never replicate that feeling of vacation sex at home. So we decided we had to make a video about vacation sex. We're going to talk about what makes it so great, why is it so special? And we're going to give you some tips for having that experience. Experience even when you are back at home. So first we want to know, where did you have your best ever vacation sex? Let us know in the comments below.
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All right, so first of all, we gotta ask, what makes vacation sex so sexy? It's not for everyone. But if it is for you, then here are a couple of reasons.
Yeah, I think it is important to point out not everybody loves vacation sex. Some people say it actually feels like there's a of sense, a sense of pressure for it to be amazing. So not everyone loves it, but I think the majority of people think that it's better than it is back at home.
Well, the first reason is that you're away from your typical life. And that means that you are probably not working. You probably don't have any or very many responsibilities while you're on vacation. And if you have kids or others that you care for in your life, there's a good possibility that they are not with you on vacation. Or maybe you have some support on vacation, some activities for them to be doing so you've got a little more free time. Second, you are in a new or a different location and this can feel really fun and exciting because of the novelty factor, especially if you're staying somewhere fancy, fancy hotel, resort. It's clean, it's sexy, it feels fun to be doing it in a new place. And finally, you are probably going to be feeling more energetic and rested. Oftentimes we go on vacation to rest, to have more energy. So those are some of the good reasons.
Okay, so let's talk about how do we bring that feeling of vacation sex back home with us?
The million dollar question.
Yes. So a lot of the things that Xander talked about obviously can't be replicated at home. You can't transport that sexy hotel that you were staying in back into your bedroom. But we do have some tips to bring some of that energy back. So one thing that you can do is have conversations with each other while you are on that vacation and talk to each other about, like, what is so enjoyable about this?
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What do we like about this? What feels different? And start to talk about how could we replicate this experience that we're having once we get back home? So there are a couple ways that you could do this. Maybe it's just that you identify like there's something so special about vacation. We cannot replicate this. So we are gonna make this commitment to go on a special vacation with each other once a year. This can be a great thing, especially for parents. If you make a commitment to take some sort of trip with each other. It doesn't have to be every year, but whatever frequency feels manageable for you. But a trip that it' just the two of you getting to have that time together and away from all of life's other responsibilities. On the totally other end of the spectrum, it could be something a lot more practical. So maybe you're lounging around in that sexy hotel room realizing, like, these linens are just so nice, these pillows are so nice, this mattress is so nice. So maybe it's even something like a little bedroom refresh. Maybe you finally replace your 20 year old mattress, or you get yourself some fancy new sheets, or maybe there's even like a candle that they're burning at the hotel and you just really like the scent and you can bring that home with you. One final element that it could be is maybe the two of you are just allowing yourselves to be a bit different when you're on vacation. So maybe you experimented with new positions, maybe you tried out a new fantasy, maybe you tried a little bit of dirty talk for the first time. So I think it's really easy for us to kind of blame it on the vacation. Like, oh, that was just that special, really amazing vacation sex.
We got lost in the moment.
Yeah, it's like we forget. No, like we are the people doing those actions and we can still do them back at home. We can bring that same energy back home. So those are just a few of our tips for recreating that vacation sex magic back at home.
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