Xander Reacts To The Bachelor

Name: Xander Reacts To The Bachelor
Uploaded: 2023-02-27T11:30:19+00:00
Duration: 1 min
Channel: Vanessa Marin
Description: Xander and a friend debate whether long marriages like Xander's parents' 30-year union represent a golden standard or a product of circumstance. The…

27 Feb 2023 · 1 min

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Xander and a friend debate whether long marriages like Xander's parents' 30-year union represent a golden standard or a product of circumstance. The friend argues that past relationships lasted partly because women had fewer options to leave, not because couples were happier.

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I model what I want out of my parents. You know, they've been married for 30 plus years. You know, they hardly ever fight and they just modeled what, you know, a perfect, healthy relationship looks like. And you know, like, it's, it's not easy, it's not common nowadays.
It sounds like a really innocuous comment. Like it's, it's rare nowadays, but I think it's actually really interesting because you're, what you're implying by saying nowadays is that it used to be different, that like somehow back in the day, relationships used to last longer, couples used to be happier. I think that's kind of bullshit because it's like, well, yeah, back in the day, women didn't have the opportunity to divorce, to ask for what they want to leave. I don't think that couples were ever happier back in the day. They were just in relationships that weren't able to end, where people weren't able to ask for what they want or say what they need and didn't have the privilege or the opportunity to get into arguments or to leave.