Your Initiation Attempts Are Probably Failing For One Of These 3 Reasons...

Your attempts to initiate sex are probably failing for one of these three reasons. Hey there, I'm Vanessa. I'm a licensed sex therapist. Reason number one, you're ignoring the emotional connection. If you and your partner have felt disconnected all day long, jumping straight into initiating sex is likely going to feel way too jarring. Instead, focus on trying to connect with your partner emotionally. First pro tip, Use their love language. Reason number two, you're being too grabby. Here's one of the biggest complaints I hear from women. My male partner tries to initiate sex by just grabbing at my breasts or my crotch. This kind of physical contact is not a turn on. It's uncomfortable and it makes her feel like an object rather than someone that you actually want to connect with. Reason number three, you don't know your partner's initiation style. In my upcoming book, Sex Talks, I talk about these six initiation styles because we all like sex to be initiated in different ways. And if you don't know your partner's initiation style, you're essentially setting yourself up for failure. For now, just ask your partner. What is your favorite way for me to initiate sex with you? Are you making any of these initiation mistakes?