855 | Vishen Lakhiani: "True Intention Comes From Within."

So the problem many people have is that their goal lists are goals or visions or ideas that come from the outside world. It's not coming from within them. It's coming from what media or television or your parents or your family tells you you need to do. You need to be driving that sports car, you need that beautiful apartment with a pool. You need this, you need that. But true goals, true intention comes from within.

That's Vishen Lakhiani. And this is the Depression Detox Show. Hello and welcome back to the Depression Detox show where we share ideas and stories to help you live a happier life. I am your host, Malik Josephs. Happy Friday. Thank you so much for vibing with me today as we have author, speaker and founder of mindvalley here to discuss his four step process to get you closer and closer to achieving your goals. Here's Vishen Lakhiani. Enjoy.

Great. I want you to keep those three goals or ideas in your mind as we go through this presentation because you're going to use these as a reference point. So Smeha's question was, how do I move towards my goals? I have so many of them, but all of us face these barriers, these blocks. Now I want to share with you what I've learned. Now this doesn't mean it's scientifically accurate or that it is the best way. I want to share with you what I learned layer by layer over the last 25 years from different teachers. Because my job in the world is to be the aggregator. My job is to aggregate all of personal growth through all of these multiple incredible individuals and wisdom teachers and present them to our mindvalley community with no bias for just my own work. So I want to start with the first teacher. Now this is Jose Silva. How many of you here have heard of Jose Silva? Amazing. That's really great. Jose was born in Laredo, Texas. He was a Mexican. American psychologists worked for the US army and created what back then in the 60s was known as the Silva Method. The Silva Method was one of the first great personal growth programs I studied. I studied it when I was 14 years old. Now the first clue in terms of how do we move towards our goals was an important idea from the Silva Method. And that idea was to visualize your goals and to make positive statements about your goals when you are able to go into what is called the alpha level of mind. Now the alpha level of mind is a rested brain frequency. If regular brains are beating at 14 to 21 cycles per second, Alpha is slower. It's 7 to 14 cycles per second. Jose Silva started to show here in America that this vague concept that we often call meditation is not just for resting your body, but it is an altered state that you can use to spark coincidences, synchronicities, and all manner of movement towards your goals. So this is the first clue, accessing altered states. So the first question is, do you have a practice that allows you to access an altered state? Meditation, of course, is the number one form of altered states that where when you're in that altered state, you are reflecting on the outcomes that you want. Okay, ask yourself this question. Are you doing this? Yes or no? Because this is the first step. Now, in today's world, altered states have become a trillion dollar industry. Steven Kotler, the mindvalley author, wrote a book about this called Stealing Fire. Everyone From Silicon Valley CEOs to Marines are using altered states right now for everything from biohacking to intuition and so on. It's a trillion dollar industry. Jose Silva was simply one of the first people who turned it into a methodology for visualizing and moving towards your goals. He never used words such as the law of attraction. He rarely used words such as meditation. It was about the scientific concept of lowering brainwave frequency to the alpha level. But that is essentially what you're doing when you have a meditation practice. That was clue number one. Now, clue number two came to me in 1998 when I stumbled upon a book called Conversations with God by this man, Neale Donald Walsh. Anyone recognize that work? So Neil, of course, is a Mindvalley author. Jose Silva, by the way, is also Mindvalley, is going to be bringing his newest work to the world. He passed away in 1999, but some of his best work was created in 1996. The new Silva method is coming to the world. True Mindvalley. So that's going to be happening this year. Neal Donald Walsh is currently a Mindvalley author. His program is called Awaken the Species. Now I learned something really interesting from Neil. The universe wants allies and the universe is fundamentally good. The universe is a big fricking deal. So we were in a seminar in Barcelona, this was part of Mindvalley University. And Neil was teaching a three day seminar at Mindvalley University in Barcelona based on his newest work, Awaken the Species. And there was a woman in the audience. I was sitting at the back near the av, and there was a woman in the audience who stood up and said, Neil, all of this stuff you speak about, about how we are particles of God and so on is great, but I still Wake up every morning sometimes feeling depressed and sad and worried, and I just feel bad. What do I do in those scenarios? And Neil said, it's really simple. Remember this. Your life is not about you. Rather, your life is about the lives of everyone you touch. When you make your life about the lives of everyone you touch, you will never wake up feeling anxiety or worry or stress again. He went on to say, you must adopt this philosophy so powerfully that when you walk into a room, your intention should be to heal the room. This is the second clue. You should pretend as if you are chosen by the universe to fix the world, to heal the world, to enhance the world. When you walk into this room, even though there are 950 other incredible individuals here, your job, your intention should not be, what will I learn? What will I get from other people? But how am I going to serve? I want you to make that intention. Now, when you walk into the room, your intention should be to heal the room. Ask yourself a question about serving. Close your eyes. Right now, a question could be, how will I light up someone's day today? An intention might be, I'd love to make three friends today. Because friendship is a form of serving, too. Okay, so back to the stage. Clue number two to get to your goals. First one is altered states. Think about reflect your goals when you're in an altered state practice such as meditation. Number two, operate from life with an aim of serving. I call this Neil's law. Operate from life with an aim of serving. Not, I want to create a company so I can exit at a million dollars, but I want to create a company because this company has the potential to serve the in this following way. That's rule number two. Now, the third one comes from this woman. Does anyone know her? She'll be taking the stage shortly. She might even be in the room. So Lisa Nichols was one of the most prominent teachers in a movie called the Secret. It emerged in, like, 2003 or 2005. There were multiple versions of it, but in the final version, Lisa was so powerful as a teacher that Oprah put her on stage. And her storytelling ability, her ability to inspire, was incredible. Now, what I learned from Lisa in terms of moving towards goals was something that Jose Silva didn't really speak about in his work, but is truly important. And that is the goal or the outcome that you are aiming for must be something that fills you with positive emotion. In other words, emotion is a force multiplier. So the problem many people have is that their goal lists are goals or visions or ideas. That come from the outside world. It's not coming from within them. It's coming from what media or television or your parents or your family tells you you need to do. You need to be driving that sports car, you need that beautiful apartment with a pool. You need this, you need that. But true goals, true intention comes from within. And when it comes from within, you tend to have more emotion towards it because you're not blindly following someone else's path. So that's clue number three. Now there's a clue number four. And it came from this teacher, Marie diamond, who you will be seeing on stage tomorrow. She might be here. Marie operates in mysterious ways. But yes, Marie diamond is going to be here tomorrow, on Sunday. By the way, Marie diamond is here in LA because she's about to be knighted. So starting tomorrow, she's being knighted today. Starting tomorrow, I have to call her. I believe it's Grand Dame Marie diamond, something like that. But she's incredible. Now, Marie is one of the most powerful healers and energy workers in the world, and she has a very interesting rule. So I asked her once, why is it that sometimes my goals come to me with supreme ease, sometimes they don't? And she said, what you got to understand about the world is that it's not just about intention. Marie says it's about one third of what you create in your life is your intention. One third is your destiny. It's what your soul has decided you need to experience. And sometimes that might be painful. One third, she said, is feng shui, or the energy of the spaces around you. Now, I don't fully understand that concept yet. So we're going to bring Marie on stage on Sunday tomorrow, and we're going to have a talk about that, okay? Because I want to understand this with you. But this was Marie's advice. Now, I'm still figuring out the feng shui part. I honestly don't know if I fully buy it, but I do understand that one third or not all of my life is generated through pure intention. There's a large portion of it, Marie says one third, that is your soul's intention for you. In other words, it is people that you are meant to meet. And it's predetermined. It's situations you're meant to go through, and you're meant to experience these situations. And sometimes it's pain and failure that you're meant to go through so your soul can learn, and you want to surrender into this. So we'll explore more of this tomorrow, now, and what this means Is accept uncertainty. If you have three goals, one may just not be in your soul's path. That's okay. Two out of three is still pretty damn good. But you accept that uncertainty and you embrace it because you know that that failure is going to teach you something. Okay, now clue number five comes from this man. Can anyone recognize him? So I met Michael Beckwith in Portugal recently. We were having our A fest event there. Michael was one of the key speakers, and we were sitting down for breakfast and we started talking. Michael is the spiritual teacher at the Agape Spiritual Center. How many of you here go to Agape? It's amazing. If you haven't been to Agape, go check out Agape. It's a spiritual church here in la. And Michael is mesmerizing on stage. So Michael told me over breakfast, so many people in the world today are obsessed with this idea called the law of attraction. And Michael said, look, I was in the secret, but I can tell you the law of attraction is wrong. The universe doesn't give you what you want. The universe gives you who you are. And so Michael said, don't think law of Attraction. Think law of resonance. In other words, you have to be that which you want. And then the universe responds. Okay, fifth clue. So as I started layering on these teachings from these different spiritual teachers, what I started noticing is that my life started accelerating in really mysterious ways. Thoughts become reality incredibly fast. I decide that I want to give a talk, and I don't want to get attached to what I'm going to talk about or sweat about it. And I get a mysterious phone call from Algeria. But I'm not special. All of us have that ability. So these are the five things I want you to embody in your practice. Okay? The first is access altered states. You must have a meditation practice. The most successful people in the world today have a meditation practice. Number two, intend to serve. Make your life about more than just you. Make your life about giving some benefit to humanity. And it is okay if you don't know exactly what that is yet. Setting the intention will make the answer come. Third, build exhilaration. Build emotion into that which you're trying to bring thought into the world. Accept uncertainty. You are going to fail. That's okay. Society puts so much of a stigma on failure. But if you understand that failure is okay. Bruce Lee said, for example, the point of a goal is not to hit the goal. The point of a goal is to move towards it and learn. That's what we are talking about. And the final thing is the law of resonance. You have to be that which you want to experience in the world.

Big thanks to Vishen Lakhiani for stopping by. If you'd like to watch today's entire talk, you can head over to YouTube and type in Vishen Lakhiani, personal Growth speaker. And if you'd like to connect with him, you can go to his website, which is vishen.com His Instagram is also vishen. His YouTube channel is mindvalley. His latest book is entitled the Six Phase Meditation. The proven technique to supercharge your mind, manifest your goals, and make magic in minutes a day. And if you'd like to hear more talks with Bishon, feel free to go to our show description where there'll be a list of all the past episodes that we featured him on the show. And also in that show description will be all the ways to connect with him and the wonderful work that he's doing, as well as a link to the entire talk that I mentioned a little earlier. All right, that is a wrap for me. I appreciate you. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day. I hope you have a fantastic weekend ahead and I look forward to seeing you back here Monday. So until then, stay strong. Later.

Sam.