Stop People Pleasing

Go through that. Why is people pleasing a sign of dysregulation? Because it's, you're in the state of fawn. I want to feel loved. I want to feel safe. You don't feel safe. The foundational issue is that you do not have safety in your nervous system. So you have maladaptive behaviors such as high flight, freeze, or fawn that will try to protect your nervous system. So like, think about when you're cave people, right? You had different strategies that you used so you could have self-preservation and you'd feel safe in your nervous system, like saving your body. But you used to be a lion, right? Now it might be a timeline or a budget or a P&L or a needy research, a courageous conversation, right? Where you're like, I'm terrified to tell this, I'm freaking, they're not doing great. That can make you as the owner feel very dysregulated and scared to have those conversations. You might be a fight kind of personality and avoid it.