What Percentage of Your Life Do You Actually OWN?

The only reason that I'm spending all of this time, resources, personal resources, personal time into building culture holdings, the overall ecosystem that is like this investment firm into creatives, sports, entertainment, media as a whole, is because I don't want to get, I don't want to turn 55 and have regret. Like the company and the ordinary company is so important, intertwined with my belief and my spirit. I believe God gave me this company. If I didn't feel like that, then I wouldn't have no regret attached to it. And I can't necessarily say that I would be investing the same way.

And we're back with another episode of Fu Money with Ty and yo, it's my man Ty, man. I'm yo. This is a show about wellness, an ignorant conversation about wellness. Ignorant conversation about wellness and, you know, wellness. You can't talk about wellness without talking about your life.

Right.

I think Ty's one of the people that I, I, I recognize will talk about his personal health, his personal life, his personal when considering wellness, especially when you start talking about careers and business. But it always starts with how you feel, what you're doing to improve yourself and things of that nature. So today's topic, Ty, you, you sent over a couple of different ideas, but there was one in particular that really kind of jumped out.

The topic for the day is what percentage of your life do you own? And I think that when you live in your day to day life, I don't think people think about that. Right. Because the consensus is that when you own something, you have influence on how you control it.

Yeah, Right.

And I think that controlling your life, having ownership over your life has different pockets and different perspectives. So one of the things to think about, when you think about the question, what percentage of your ice do you, what percentage of your life do you own is do you control your time?

Okay.

Right. Are you, do you have a manageable overhead? Do you have kids? Right. And your health, like your physical health, your mental health, do you have a good grip on your health?

Yeah.

The reason I point out those four things is because if you got kids, then, you know, kids kind of run that.

Let's start right there. Let's start with kids, right? I don't have kids, Ty. You don't have kids. But we both know people with children.

Yes.

Children demand a lot of time, a lot of energy, a lot of space. Do you think that incorporating children into your life, like, how do you, how do you retain any ownership when it feels like a child kind of takes up a majority, like a Majority stakeholder.

I think that even with children, you should figure out how to still control how to own your, your life because it's gonna be, it's gonna positively benefit the children.

Right.

It's almost like some people are like more, it can heighten your awareness about how much of your life you own, AKA you control. Because now you have a certain, a different level of obligation that you just can't get rid of. It ain't like a to do list, like check it off and it's done. Like that's there and it's going to continue to be there for 30, 40, 50 years, right?

Yeah.

And so the obligation to that, I think is so important that if anything, that experience should have you questioning how much of what percentage of my life do I own? Right. So if we talk about life in a span of like measurable things. 24 day.

24 days.

24 hours in a day.

Yeah.

Right. Seven days out of a week.

Yeah.

Out of those 24 hours, that is what our life measuring timeframe is. How much of that do you control on average? You know, because if you control it and you're passionate about your kids, you ample. You, you, you, you dedicate that time to your kids.

Yeah.

If you control it and you're serious about your mental health and your physical health, you, you, you, you dedicate that time to that. If you control it and you are very serious about managing your overhead, you spend time thinking about that, you know, and if you control it now and you have the liberty to do whatever you want to do. So the percentage question is, is it 10% of a 24 hour day, 15% of a 24 hour day? You know, we control when we go to sleep. We own that. Right. So that's a part that's like nobody else can really dictate that far as in the actual act of sleep. If you sleep for five hours versus eight hours, then that's different. That is somebody that is something is causing you to sleep less and sleep more.

It's irregular.

Right. And then so it should be regular.

Right. Like if you're in control, you should be able to regulate how much time is spent in these.

Yeah.

If, if you want balance, like, if you want balance. But if you are, you know, working two jobs, you know, and one job is part time, one job is full time. The moment you walk into that job, you know, you, you don't own your, your, your, your, that percentage of your life is dedicated to that.

Right.

You don't really own that experience. Right? Yes. You applied for the job? Yes. You're getting paid for the job, but you have to speak to someone in a certain way or put in some type of documentation to be able to remove yourself from that actual time slot to tend to something that might come up to be more important.

Yeah.

To you?

Absolutely.

Not that your job, not important.

But there's things like kids, like mother.

Dad, different things, you know?

Yeah. Like if someone gets sick and you need time off and they tell you like, hey, you don't have any more time off, that's very possible. And that shows how little you control that need. That's why I think without having kids, you feel like you have obviously more flexibility because you don't have someone that is permanent. There's a permanent person. I was just house sitting for a friend. They got three cats now. They had the flexibility to leave, but also asked me like, hey, can you watch over our cats and our plants? Now if I want to just go over there and I do nothing, their cats and plants would have suffered.

Right.

But they still had the flexibility to leave. They didn't leave me with no kids. I. I don't think they would have been able to take that trip if they had three children. I'm not watching three kids 21 days different. You know what I'm saying? But, you know, that's why I like having pets. You know, you can find someone to maybe help out and support you. But again, having the time frame or having the life set up where you can be like, hey, I'm gonna leave my home for a month and both have freelance jobs. But something I realized that when I freelance or I pick up a gig writing, that's when I realized how little I control my time when I sign up for an assignment. Right. Because that assignment has a deadline.

Right?

Right. So anything in my life that is separated from that has to now be taken into consideration. It has to be taken into consideration because I agreed to do something. And now that I've signed up for this, this has this type of time constraint. I have to move everything around that. Now, when I don't have that time constraint, I obviously own way more of my time. And I can decide how I want to decide to do this or do that. But I think that's the thing about accepting certain gigs and jobs, because it can suck up and absorb so much of your time, and it can almost become like a fixation. Like, I'm so fixated on this thing, I've stopped taking care of myself, stop being able to discern how much of myself I actually own. Do you feel like that happens? People just get swept away in their lives and they actually don't acknowledge how little they control?

Yes, I think that life happens fast, especially when you're not intentional. Daily.

Daily.

If you're, if you allow yourself to be in a rat race, there's a certain percentage, there's a lot of percentage of your life that you don't really own. And depending on the seasons, it's okay if you don't own a lot of percentage of your life because there's certain processes that happens in life that grow, you mature, you give you more wisdom and it prepares you for your 40s or it prepares you for your 50s where you might have more ownership, more percentage of ownership of your life than you did in your 20s. Yeah, but that experience between 21 to 35 or 38 gave you a certain amount of time frame for you to be able to say, I don't like this, I don't like that, but I'm going to do this, I can't do it that way. And then you can propel intentionally into your next chapter of your life while having a better grip percentage wise over your. The ownership of your life.

Do you feel like you need to be by yourself at times to figure that out though?

Like, I think it's intentionally thinking, sometimes it's by yourself. Sometimes thinking is a dialogue with somebody else. I wouldn't say venting, but like a open ended debate or open ended conversation about a topic. But I believe that solo time in a healthy way gives you a lot more clarity about yourself and how you're.

How do yourself want to move forward.

Without outside influence influencing the initial thought process. But it could give more context once you've came to a conclusion on what.

You think you want to do, how.

You want to do it.

That's the thought process.

Yeah. Do you think you own more your time today than you did 10 years ago?

Absolutely.

Yeah.

10 years ago, absolutely.

What's the biggest difference?

Although. Although I fear having regret, but I can stop and really not do nothing for an extended amount of time. When I say nothing, meaning what I do today, like how I see me moving around, doing these meetings, flying, I can literally say, let's say how I'm operating right now. I only own 40% of my life, how I'm operating right now, all the moving around, all the traveling, whatever. And let's say I'm like, fuck this, I want to own more of my life. I want to own more of how I see things that can go up to me owning 65% or 70% of my life, where all I'm thinking about is that 30% that I don't control, that I don't own, that I have to give in order for me to own that 70%.

Right.

But instead, I'm at this 40% pace around. 40% where I own only 40% of my life. Because I'm obligated myself to so many things to try to build something that I believe that if I don't do it, I'm going to have a grip. Right. So for me, the control is dictated off my ambition.

Yeah.

And what I don't want to experience, and that is regret.

Mm. Okay. Have you always known that was the way you wanted to kind of build your life? No.

I just came to grip with the terminology of regret 20 days ago.

Oh, that's like the start of your fast.

Like August 6th. I was in Martha's Vineyard, and I was with my guy, Troy. Troy Jr. Actually, his. Troy called his son. We're driving and we're talking, and I'm like. It just hit me. I was like, man. So I think I have such a. A deep fear of regret. Probably just because I was how I was taught or what I raised, what I was raised. Seeing that the only reason that I'm spending all of this time. Resources, personal resources, personal time into building Culture holdings, the overall ecosystem that is like this investment firm into creatives, sports, entertainment, media as a whole, is because I don't want to get. I don't want to turn 55 and have regret. Like, the company and the origin of the company is so intertwined with my belief and my spirit. I believe God gave me this company. If I didn't feel like that, then I wouldn't have no regret attached to it. And I can't necessarily say that I would be investing the same way. I would probably be, you know, on an island investing, but, like, maybe just having a team of five instead of a team of 20. And it probably wouldn't be as many companies that's trying to be operating. You know what I'm saying?

Yeah.

I think I might still be doing this because this is not, to me, a heavy lift like the rest of this shit, you know what I'm saying? Like, this is kind of like golfing. Like, it's a.

It's a.

It's a hobby I enjoy, and it's information that I think is important for me to get out to the world to share, especially for black and brown people and just entrepreneurs, whatever. But all this Other shit. If I didn't feel like I would have a regret, like real regret at 55 for not attempting, not trying, then I wouldn't be doing it. So my fear of regret makes me have a lower control over my life.

Yeah.

Versus if I, if I didn't feel like this was so intertwined with me and the purpose of it, I would.

Have been like, yeah, I'm scraped.

I'm just gonna take this, this, this x X amount of money and just put it into a fund, manage investments. I'll have like, you know, this music business, you money and probably wellness and that'll be right. What I'd be doing, I wouldn't even be. And I'll just be doing nothing but investments. Real estate, tech, like everything just would have been investment. I would have spent about 80% of my time on a day to day basis just looking at deals to invest into. I wouldn't even be doing a lot of shit if I didn't feel like there would be a regret attached to it.

But do you find comfort in knowing that you won't have that regret?

1,000%?

Yeah.

If I didn't find comfort in it, I wouldn't be doing it as well.

Yeah.

I had to make a decision and I was able to just be able to articulate something that I felt for years.

Yeah.

On August 6th, August 7th. Some shit like that to be able to say, yo, this ambition shit, these, starting these new businesses, these partnerships, this like sitting down with artists and meeting with athletes is all a part of me being like, I'm going to ride all the rides. So when it's all said and done, I can look myself in the mirror and be like, I don't have no regrets. I'm 55 years old. I tried to do every single thing that my heart desired. Some work, some didn't. And now I can just enjoy life. I don't gotta, I don't gotta have nothing hunting me.

Yeah.

From a business perspective or idea perspective.

But would you say. Because I guess the question about how much of your life or what percentage of your life did you own? The undertone of it made me feel like you should own a majority of your time, the majority of your life. You show.

That's.

But this, that's, that's the, that, that's the, that's the dream.

That's the dream, Right.

American dream.

But the, the real undertone of it is like how much you sacrifice to do what you really dream of doing. Because sometimes you won't actually own that much of your Life. But what the outcome may be. My. My. Just like, I don't know, like, you can appraise your ownership differently. I think after everything, if you can do everything that you really want to do, I. I would really ask people, how much percentage of your life do you feel regretful about just based on. Just. Did you go for it? Did you not go for it?

Did you.

Did you think you can't, man? Side tangent. There's a movie out right now called Dee Dee, and it's about a family. First generation Americans are the kids, the parents are from Thailand. It is a mom, a son, a grandma, and the father isn't in the home. So you really get the kid dynamics. The grandma and the mom, and the mom paints. And her paintings in the movie are amazing. Her son does not care. Her son's friends come over, they're like, yo, these paintings are amazing. She's like, can we please talk about them? Because she's got rejected for contest. Her kids don't care. And there's a scene in the movie where they kind of get into an argument, the son and the mom, and she's trying to comfort him, but she's like, I could have been in New York painting portraits before even having you guys. Like, I could have came to America. I could have lived this dream. But I'm here with you. And part of me felt like, wow, she really had that heavy regret about what she could have did. But in reality, I think she also knew that I still paint. Like, I still live my life now. My new dream is my kids. That had to evolve. But there was a version of her life where if she would have been like, hey, I'm not gonna get married. I'm not gonna have children. I'm gonna go chase my dream in New York City. I wonder how many people actually feel that way. Like, they look at their lives and be like, man, I have a lot of things. But in the back of my mind, there was a moment where I wish I would have did this instead.

I'm pretty sure there's a lot of people that have that thought process. I mean, I'm not one of those people, but.

But that's what I'm saying. I think it's interesting that you were able to find a pocket in your life where you can be like, I can go for everything I want. I can ride all the rides. I know I'm sacrificing this parts of my life, these parts of my life. But again, you're looking at 55, which is still so young. Like, 55 is, like, very young. Like, 55 is not old. That's not.

You're not like, I think I've been talking to my mom. Right. I'm like, what you doing today? Why, you know, I ain't doing nothing. My mom been retired for like, 12, 13 years at this point.

That's sweet.

She just turned 61, and I think she owns a good portion of her life because of. She only really have one obligation, and that's like, to her brother who she, you know, he's mentally, you know, challenged, so she's taking care of him and. But he's older, so it's not like he's like a baby baby. He's in his 50s, you know what I'm saying? I think that's really her only real obligation in this current life. And she's 61.

Right.

So if, let's say if her brother was just normal and can operate on his own, she wouldn't have another thing. She'll be as optimized.

Yeah.

Because she's like, I don't have my kids. I don't got no complaints.

I can take care of myself.

I can take care of the household. And so I think that is the, like, the aspirations to, like, there's ultimate freedom when you hit 60. Unless you want to be a business person, unless you want to keep driving that. That. Unless that what drives you. Yeah, I. I don't know if, when I turn 60, I'm gonna have the same type of drive for the things that I have today.

Yeah.

Now I turn 60, I don't know, man. I might just have a big drive to just help with mentorship and only invest.

Yeah.

Because me investing is a part of mentorship. Because when you open up investing, you. You stay young because you're always looking at the future. You're always looking at what's coming across. So for me, I know I'm going to be investing my entire life, but in my investing, my time is going to be what is going to be the limitation of it versus revenue. You know what I'm saying? And for me, the older you get, the more of your life. You better. You better figure out how to own more of your life the older you get.

Yeah.

Because you don't want to be super old and you can't control your life because that means that somebody. You're at the beck and call of somebody else. You don't know if that somebody else is going to be, you know, kind, gracious, Right.

None of that shit, or even, like, appreciative of you being older and having to give up so much of your. Because I think the older you get, the more it starts to sound like lifespan. Like you're giving up your lifespan to put yourself in environments that potentially might not serve you. Like not being able to say, hey, I'm just going to invest. Like if you had to do more, let's say you had to stay on tour, like you had to be on Tour when you 59, that's crazy. But some people do, and I mean some it's, they love it. But there's also another aspect of it where something didn't really work out. Maybe they didn't make the right investments. Maybe they didn't control enough of their time when they were younger or even knew how important that was. You just kind of stay in this cycle of working for someone or working for something.

My thing is when I'm in my 50s, 60s, I want to do management.

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But in.

A completely different way. I only want to help managers that are already working. It's already working for them. I don't want to, I don't want to help no manager. Just trying to figure it out. Yeah, I'm doing that, I'm doing that now, right? But when I get in my 60s.

If I'm going to be dealing with.

Management and talent management, I'm only helping people that already got it figured out. And I would advise them, hey, I can only help you if you are going to helping people that have not figured it out. That's the trade off.

But I ain't going to be doing it.

But I'm gonna put some level of like thought process, like, man, you should be helping the next person. That's the trade off for this. You're not just getting this just because you got something going on. That's been a trade off for it.

I like how you talk about almost like graduating to the next stage. Like I'm here right now, this is not permanent. This is where I'm at currently. But when I get to this stage of my life, I know I won't be doing this.

Definitely not.

I won't be doing this. And I just, I see with my parents, the rink, they'll have owned it for 20 years in November. And in that 20 years there's still things they have to deal with that they was dealing with 20 years ago that I just know my dad don't need to be dealing with kids fighting at the age that he is right now. Like, he's not. He's not the same 35, you know what I'm saying? And. But unfortunately, the ownership of it, the dynamics of the customers that come in, the things that happen, that hasn't changed, that hasn't developed into something where it's like, okay, we don't have to keep doing that. And that's something that I see for my folks, that I want to see change. I think, like, there's certain aspects of the ring that you shouldn't have to keep dealing with.

Right.

The older you get. But the way they see it, it's just like, well, who else is going to take care of this? I mean, when they leave. When they leave, do like, I'm going to go see our family in Virginia. They could be gone for two days, Ty. It's like a whole nother place. I feel like if I leave here, people just start thinking. They just. Their brains start working. They do what they want to do. It's like, I gotta feel like I always gotta be over you to keep this thing running properly. And, you know, hopefully that won't always be the case. But I like your mentality to know, like, hey, once I get to a certain stage, I'm not. There's no way I'm dealing with that no more.

No, because this is the thing, right? And this is the harsh reality of it. If you were dealing with something 20 years ago and you're still dealing with it 20 years later, that's your fault. That means that from a business perspective, there hasn't been a certain level of development of systems, proper hiring, or you just want it.

You just want to do that.

You know what I'm saying? It's like there is a thing about the complainers that actually want to be doing what they're doing, but they gonna still complain about it.

You think so?

Yeah.

I mean, this is already happening. It ain't like something that's a theory. I think people find identity in the things that they can help fix that they can help. They can depend on them.

Like, they understand it.

Yeah, they understand it. Feel like, you know, there's a certain heart that comes with knowing, like, oh, man, if I'm not somewhere, something won't work. Some people love that experience because it gives them a purpose to always have something to, like, resolve or something to, like, fix or whatever the case might be. You know what I'm saying? And that might be where they're. Where they're at in that part of their life until they're not there anymore, you know? And so there's parents like that, there's business owners like that. There's people that's 20 years old, 20 years old, 22 years old, that's like that. I can't necessarily say that. I want things to like, if I can fix something and it be fixed forever, that's what I want to do. And I want my actions to like, speak towards that. Because if something, even if it's making money, if it's making money and that money is growing every year, I still think that you can't really appreciate that at a hundred percent, is if you always got to be present to oversee it doing that. You know what I'm saying? Like, you got to be present to oversee it making the money. Now you can't enjoy fully the experience of the money because you always gotta be. Especially if it's like a brick and mortar type thing.

So I'm always just like, man, how can I make money that. From things that I don't have to constantly have to think about, I don't constantly have to touch. Right.

And.

Cause I do want to spend a good part of my life. I mean, I was looking at this study. I've seen it three or four times. This popped up on Internet where they're like, the average lifespan for a U.S. citizen is like 68, 68 years old. So it was like, that means that 50 is not your midpoint of your life. 38 is dang. Okay, so I'm like, I'm at a midpoint in my life.

Is that how you felt when you read it?

Yes. When you're looking at the data, you.

Know what I'm saying?

Because they just pulling historical data, it doesn't mean that it's generalized. It's a sample. Pop this a sample population.

Right, Right.

But even if it was 74. Right. That's still like, you know what I'm saying? You up there, it's still 36. Like, that's. That's 37.

Yeah.

You know what I mean? That's the mid. That's the between. You know what I'm saying?

Hey, I guess when you really think about it, if your late 30s is like the midpoint or like the end point of your life, I mean, you probably just learned how to like how to really live or at least how you know you're gonna construct your life to get to where you really want to go.

It says 76. Cause it was like, 38 is the midpoint so it was 76. It was the average. So I'm saying.

So I'm thinking, so you turn 50, you got what, 26.

Oh, yeah. The reason it would read, the reason it was bringing it down because, like, people waiting today or 65 to retire.

Oh, wow.

So if the lifespan is 76 on average.

Yeah.

You wait till you 65 to retire, it means that you're gonna have 12 years to really enjoy your life. It's like, that doesn't sound like a really exciting thing.

And as if you retired, you're like, yeah. Optimal health have the ability and flexibility to, like, live where you want and, like, live the life you want, you might not have. And that's really sad, actually. You really think about it, because that's just a general number. This is just an overall. American citizens are not living to 80. 85, 90.

Oh.

It's a lot of illnesses, obviously. I've been on this. I was on this fast. So I was reading so much about health.

Yeah.

And I was clicking on it. So Instagram, feeding it, the Google, feeding, YouTube, feeding it. And another thing that popped up was the thought process of your, like, how your diet can dictate so many different things. Give or take a freak accident happens. Right?

Yeah. And.

You can have somebody that smokes cigarettes that's turned. That's 90 years old. Right. I think there's. There's plenty examples of people that have had bad habits throughout their life that live long.

Yeah.

So for me, I'm just like, I don't want to take that chance. I'm gonna just live healthy and let God handle it, enjoy my journey, you know? But I want to be conscious that by 55, like, I'm already controlling a good percentage of my life now. Owner owning a good percentage of my life now, when that decreases is because I have decided to go in some partnership. I've signed myself up for something else.

Right.

Right. Which I'm trying to do a lot less of moving forward.

Right.

But that is the ambition part. That's the part that kind of like drives that. That for you. But speaking back towards that, if I'm. If I'm hypothetically gonna live until 76, that means that I'm 40 now. If I. If I turn the clock. If I turn the clock off on a work day at 55, that means that I got 21 years.

20 years.

So that means that if I got. If I have kids at, let's say, 45, I have kids. That mean that my child would be 10, I would be able to see My child to the beginning of their 30s, making sure they set up properly, making sure they get everything they need.

At the least.

At the least, if we're, if we're, if, if the data is, is what is going to apply to me.

Right, Right.

But that's because I've already, at 55, retired or working in a retired space. You own more of your life in that different aspect of things.

Right.

So, you know, being joyful and finding.

These different things is really what we trying to like, walk through is like, are you even asking yourself these type of questions? Right.

Yeah.

That's like the best practice of this particular conversation. It's like these are the questions that you're asking yourself. And it starts with the overarching question, how much, how much of a percentage of your life do you control? Then you start walking through what these potential sub questions are.

Yeah.

Do you have kids?

Yeah.

Does that affect it? You know, your physical and your, your.

Mental, you know, does that, does that affect it?

Do you control your time now?

Yeah.

Right. You know that. How are you managing your overhead?

Yeah.

These are different ideologies that will take away or add right. To that percentage of that shift in scale. And is realistically that, you know, what, half of the year I don't own my life at all, but the other half of the year I own about 70% of it. Right. It's a sliding scale consistently when you start looking at a deep subject, but the thought is to trigger the thought.

But I guess. But I guess that's why I asked about, like, being by yourself enough to even like, really process this way of thinking, because I feel like so much of your life, you're moving so fast that you never stop to think. You don't stop to consider. And, you know, the communal aspect of life is really great. You're seeing what other people are doing. But how much are you looking at your own personal life? Your own personal. You call it a diagnostic test? Like, how often do you run a diagnostic test on your life?

I don't think a lot of people do, man. Like, I would be curious to see any studies that does a sample audience of how many people spend time by themselves? At least two hours a day on average. Like, what's the average that people spend by themselves to think and depress. You know what I'm saying?

Depress. Hold on.

Am I saying it? Oh, decompress, decompress, decompress. How many people sit in dec. You don't want to depress. Decompress and be like, okay, let me think about next two years.

Oh, yeah, yeah.

Let me think about it. Even if you don't got a solution, but just having intentionality on thinking about it.

You ever read the seven Spiritual Laws of Success? I started listening to the audiobook this week. And on the first, I think the first thing they talk about is how you should be spending 30 minutes in your morning and 30 minutes at night in silence. Like just. You cut it all off, Cut all the noise off. Get to yourself. Because a big part of understanding, the spiritual logic says, is your understanding of self.

Right.

How closely you're tied to yourself, your personal journey, your higher power. And I was. I was impressed at the idea of, like, just sitting in silence. Man, Ty, ain't no silence. Like so many people live. There's a TV on, there's a phone ring, and there's an IG thing. There's a tick tock.

There's a real thing about people that can't sit in quiet. Like it's a real thing. It's like silence scares people because it makes you. It forces you to think about what's going on inside of your head.

But that's why I'm like, how often do people even get into a place where they're in here? I think there's a great amount of avoidance. I know. Covid taught us how people do not like spending time by themselves. That was a very great indicator that being alone is not something a majority of the world can handle.

Well. Covid also taught people that they make bad decisions. Picking spouses.

Oh, wow. Really?

I mean, the divorce rates during COVID was crazy. People started to realize that they don't even really like who they. They married or who they're dating. Because you spend so much time.

Yeah.

Work, sleep out. You never really have to. You don't have 24 hours a day to just sit and look at the person. You decided to do it.

Yeah.

For a year.

For a year. Yeah.

Nah, this is great.

I guess you're right, because I did. I thought divorce rates were just up because they've been going up. I thought they would. I just thought this was the trajectory. But to your point, there's so many reasons to attach yourself to somebody that does not require you to stay amongst this person for a long enough amount of time where you have to, like.

And you'll grow out of that relationship and not even know it because there's.

So much going on, you know?

So y' all can grow completely different places, but you won't even realize because there's so much going On.

But I guess what you were just saying about how if certain things stay the same, like they don't change over time, then you're like comfortable in something that could actually be your relationship as well.

Oh, yeah, yeah. It's just automatic.

It's like, I just know that that person is here. I trust them, they're gonna do that. But I'm not really happy with this relationship, but I'm loyal to it. I'm like, people have different reason why.

They stay married or the kids or this or that, whatever the case might be. But when it's all said and done, this topic is more so driven to make people think, make people be like, wait a minute, let me sit down in silence intentionally and ask myself, what percentage of my life do I own? And if I come up with an answer that I don't like, what am I going to do to change that? Right. And the four things I would suggest that you should do to think about changing that is, if you have kids, think about a strategy around how you can still control your life while still servicing your kids. If you are looking at your overhead, start paying attention to that because that can put you in a shiny prison and have you, you know, having to.

Go places that you really don't want.

To go because you got to pay for that Lambo, you know what I'm saying? And then you have, you know, ask yourself the question, like, do I control my time today and what does that mean to me? How does that mean to me? You know, and all these different things. And then the fourth and final thing is mental and physical health. Where am I at on that clock? Where am I at on that scale? What am I at? Where am I at on that spectrum?

Yeah.

And I think thinking about those four things will help you determine how much of your life that you actually own. And you can start getting to the, the bottom of, you know, those conversations.

And I like, as you say, like, if you don't like the answer, problem solving, you can solve that problem and you can work toward it. I don't think this is about getting there immediately. Like your life can be long, especially when you control it. Yeah.

I mean, if you catch the show, you're 28 years old, you got time.

Yeah.

If you're 21 years old, 22 years old, you're catching this information. You got time. If you 48 years old, you catching this information, you don't got as much time as a 22 year old, but you might do.

Yeah, you really might. You might do. You might.

But that's just based off your journey and all those different things. So that's why this topic was so important to me.

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