AShellarien Lang-TEDXWilm2018

Hello, this is Reverend Dr. A'Shellarien Addison, and I'm interested in being a speaker at your TED Talk Wilmington for Women. It's my passion to empower women, and so one of the things I really talk about is what do we say to ourselves and how does that affect how we live our lives. So I'm an author and I've written about 5 books just dealing with how women really think about themselves Um, one of the books, the latest book I wrote is called A Conversation with Myself: Healing the Internal Voice. So I do a lot of work with, um, so I'm a chaplain, I'm a hospice chaplain, and I am a military chaplain. And so I spend a lot of time counseling about end of life, about self-care, PTSD, just counseling. What am I saying to myself? How is that affecting what I'm thinking, my behavior? So one of the things I spend a lot of time doing is just helping people just look at that tape that's playing in their head and how it affects what they think about themselves. And so one of the things I want to talk about in a TED Talk would be, what am I saying to myself? Why am I saying to myself? And what can I do really to replace it? Because you can't not think about it. What you could do is replace it. So that's, that's what I'd like to talk about, um, for women especially. We do a lot of things and we wear a lot of hats and we're taught to be givers and sacrificers. And, uh, one of the areas where we lack is self-care because we're taught that it's selfish. Um, but just like when you get on the airplane, if you don't put your mask on first, you won't be able to breathe. So I can't breathe, I can't help you breathe either. So If you pick me, I think that would be a wonderful thing to give me opportunity to spread the word that we really need to think about what are we saying and how did we learn what it was we're saying to ourselves. A lot of times it's not even our own words, it's other people have told us who we are.