Issa and Gui discuss why sleep deprivation destroys new parents and how a support network makes the difference. Without help from others, the math doesn't work: exhaustion breaks down everything else.
If you don't sleep well, you don't live well. So stop with this illusion that if you sleep less than you need, if you sleep less than you'd like, it won't have any effect because it will have very serious consequences. So hearing from a sleep specialist who, after a fragmented night, because she had a newborn, had difficulty concentrating. That's it. After a bad night's sleep, your day will be very difficult. We say that sleep isn't a bargaining chip. It doesn't mean that if you slept little today and make up for it tomorrow or on the weekend, you'll be able to recover that lost sleep.
It's an illusion. It's a complete illusion. We don't recover sleep that way. So sleep lost today is sleep lost. Forget it. Right. You can even try to make up for it a little. But no, that day was wasted. Right. Of its functions.
So if. When you opted for two nights of sleep, why did you have that reasoning? Let's try to deconstruct this a little, actually deconstruct it. Delve deeper. Why did you initially think, oh, no, twice a week will be enough? We had no idea what was coming. We had no idea. Well, I think in the beginning, my mom stayed with us a lot. Right. And you're in that euphoria for the first 15 days. Yeah, it's all very new. I understand. Hold on, let me see. My dad was helping a lot too. So we were very divided. We weren't entirely at work, neither he nor I. So we were living in that world. Right. And then there comes a certain point when you realize, man, this is going to last for a long time, and.
What am I going to do from now on? Right. And it was at that moment that we talked, said, it's not possible. Right. And we thought about these inconsistencies, like, oh, oh, it'll get better little by little. But it doesn't get better. It gets much worse, then it gets a little better, then it gets much worse, then it gets better. And you say, wow, now it's going to happen.
That's in our case, right?
Yeah, in our case. Yeah, but. Exactly. That's why. So we didn't want so much unpredictability anymore, I think, compared to now.
That's it, Issa. Just making it clear to everyone that we do the whole routine according to the script. Okay? Hmm. So look, what needs to be done for him to improve his nighttime sleep. Jeez, Improve his daytime sleep, his naps on time, the right routine, his sleep routine, and the studies say darkness Baths, music, everything's fine. Beetles for kids.
I do it. I do baby for babies.
It's all beetles for baby. Really organizing the routine so we can give him the best possible quality of sleep. But it's child to child, right? So there are days when he sleeps wonderfully well, and there are days when he doesn't sleep well. Probably at some point there was some discomfort he couldn't explain, and he wakes up to it. Right. So they're babies, and we had to figure that out the hard way. Right. Doctor Sleep had to understand that he doesn't sleep.
But that's what I find fantastic about your story. Because you're young.
Exactly. If you're 32 too, and Dr. 34.
34 you4're super young. Why am I saying this? I'm 10 years older than you.
Gui a fragmented night for me today. My goodness. A I get overwhelmed when I was in my early 30s, you know, and I was living in a work environment where I was very sleep deprived, I would get sick, but I would numb it, you know, with a little medicine. A little medicine. And now I'm done. Uh, for me, sleep deprivation is the biggest crime I can commit against myself. Yeah, you.
No. So, uh, I'd like you to bring up the following, Especially the doctor who has this. This repertoire. Right. Of medicine for those who can't get help in the wee hours.
Yeah. You can get help in the wee hours. Right. There are many people who can't get help in the wee hours. How can this couple. Let's go. Because the responsibility is on both of them. How can this couple try to be healthier, even knowing they'll face periods of sleep deprivation?
So we always say, and it's always a recommendation. It's true.
Right.
That the support network should be activated whenever possible. This is very important for both the mother and the father there. Or even worse, cases, Right. Where the mother is alone. Imagine. Right. With this child, you don't have a father to help. So we're talking about cases that go far beyond medicine, Right? Right. The socioeconomic status of each person. And it's difficult to say. Right. As we discussed here, you have a totally irrational being that depends 100% on you for everything, right? From cleaning to even breastfeeding, which is feeding the baby. So the mother, unfortunately, will have to be conditioned to that condition of the baby as well. So what would be the tip? It would be to try to do everything to really improve the quality of their sleep. Right. So have a routine. Establish it from the beginning. Children, Babies won't prevent produce melatonin, for example. But they'll start to have a really significant production of melatonin on schedule right around three, four months of age. So all the signals they have for day and night come from the external environment. So you really have to be there, right? Schedule everything a routine, a very fixed routine in everything consistent, you know.
If you like this cut, imagine the whole episode. So go to the episode description, get the link, share it with your loved ones and enjoy. Subscribe to the channel so you'll always be the first to know what's happening here in the interior. See you later. This episode is sponsored by Clear Blue, a PG brand.
O processo de reconhecer limites, mesmo quando a vida parece exigir sempre mais.
Depois de tantas histórias, aprendizados e pausas necessárias, o @interior_iza está de volta
