Speaker explains a coaching method of replacing clients' "old stories" with deliberately repeated "new stories" across life areas (business, finances, relationships, health, personal). Emphasizes daily vision-crafting practice, embodying the feeling of the new story even before it happens, avoiding over-identifying with clients' limiting narratives, and briefly models empathetic coaching language that holds a preferred future for the client.
This is the new version of the old story. New story. So what we've done is divided this by area of life, business, finances, relationship, health, personal. Because they have stories for every area of their life. So we have this. Tell a new story, create a new life. And so what is the old story? What is the new story in their business? And then my new story makes me feel how. So ask them, how does this new story make you feel? It's all about getting into the feeling of that and talking about the new story, even if the new story isn't actually happening yet. There is another saying that Esther Hicks says, which is, um, don't face reality. Create your reality. Stop facing reality and create your reality. Because when they get stuck in what is, then they will never get to what can be. So create the new story, even if it's not the story yet, because the more they keep telling the new story, that's what will become their. Their new reality. So now we have this in each area of their life. And so you can pull this up all the time. I'll just tell you. I do the vision crafting every day. Every single day. And sometimes I'll wake up. If I. If I didn't take good care of myself the day before, I didn't get enough sleep, I might wake up, and I'm not, like, on the right side of the bed or whatever. And. And that's why I do this every day. It's not like you just decide it's your new story and then you're done. You go back to it, because we have that set point. It's our thermometer. And as soon as we start getting out of the comfort zone and it gets scary, we fall back into our old story. That's what happens with your clients. So one thing you can do for them, because you want to have empathy. You want to have empathy, you know, but then don't. Just give some empathy and then say, okay, so, you know, I totally hear you. I know that must be so hard. So, first of all, you as a mentor, don't plug into their story, because it'll take you down. It will take you down. And so it's just. I, you know, I feel for you. I totally understand. It's hard. Can I be your coach for a moment? You know, because I. I see that you feel you're here. I see you here. This is how I see you. This is how I see this playing out. This is how I see this version of you. This is how I see your new story. And when someone stands for us and holds that vision. It's like, wow, they're holding that for me, and I can step into that.
