Coach Ambereen (branded “Ex mom”) narrates a short personal anecdote about her son repeatedly choosing to wear Crocs instead of newer shoes. She reflects on feeling irritated, traces the irritation to a fear of an undesired lifelong pattern (not using gifts), and proposes a simple daily habit change—asking her son at breakfast which shoes match his outfit—to shift behavior and improve their relationship. The video closes with an invitation for viewers to comment and a warm sign-off.
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Hey, charitable day to you. I pray that today you find ways to contribute and give out of the kindness of your heart without expecting something in return. I. I realize that charity has a way of just being attached to money. However, what if we began to think about the actions that we do, the kindness that we express as a way of charity? Who knows how it comes back and when it comes back. However, I'm super excited and pumped up talking about today's topic because it's very personal. So my son was going to school today, and he's been wearing Crocs. So, you know, as a Pakistani woman who's an immigrant, Crocs are not something that we wear to school. It's not something that we do. However, I've worked a lot to be ex mom, and I let him, you know, do those simple things. However, what I realized is he's hardly wearing all these amazing shoes that he asked for, or whether for his birthday or for whatever special occasions. And he likes shoes that he really adores. So much so that he just won't even wear them. That's right. So as a mother, it started to kind of irritate me, and I noticed my energy shifting today. So we were leaving out the door and I said, hey, bud, the bus is already here. I can't find my Crocs. I can't find my Crocs. And lo and behold, they were on my feet. Of course he can't find them. And so I gave him the Crocs. And then I said, when are you going to start wearing those shoes of yours? And I noticed that in my energy there was frustration and irritation. So I was like, oh, that's not cool. So he wore his Crocs and ran out the door, only to miss the bus. But we have another stop that's like a safekeeping for us. So he walked over there, and then I did a little bit of deep journal dive to find out why was I irritated. You know, was him wearing Crocs? What was it? I realized that he's exhibiting patterns of somebody who I know who will just purchase things or get gifts and just never, ever use them. Not for days, not for weeks, not for months. That's for years, sometimes for decades. Like, this person will pull things out and say, oh, I got this like eight years ago and it still hasn't been used. And so I started to connect dots and I understood that, oh, my frustration wasn't with the fact that he's just not wearing them. It's with the fact that I don't want that to become his pattern because then later they'll complain about outgrowing his shoes and all the other stuff. So what am I going to do differently? Because we're all talking about coaching, is how we can actually discover what's going on, make the rightful decisions to really move forward in a direction that's going to serve us and, of course, our families. So what I'm going to start to do is I'm going to ask him, you know, when he's having breakfast, hey, bud, which shoes do you think will go best with your outfit today? Which one will literally complement what you're wearing today? And I know this simple trigger the way that I'm asking him because I'm curious and I'm understanding and I'm uplifting him and I'm putting the right outfit, you know, so to speak, together for him. I think I'll start to really shift the directions and I'll let you know later, hopefully next week, how it goes as to how many more shoes he's wearing and now waiting them to outgrow his feet. All right, I know it's a simple one today. However, I do believe that it's these simple shifts that we have to have daily as parents and really in the long run benefit us in our relationship with our kids just to build more harmony, peace and love in the homes. If you really like this, go ahead, comment down below. What is one thing that really irritates you about your kids and how are you looking to really go into the ideal situation of becoming and rising out of that simple, you know, simple, I guess irritation through a moment of reflection and then for some actions to really go along with it. With that said, sending you a ton of umbergy. I know the energy is a little low today because I'm at the library and a whole lot of goodness. This is Ex mom signing out. Bye.
