Coach Ambereen addresses rising anxiety in adolescents, noting behavioral signs (withdrawal, poor concentration, avoidance, difficulty with eye contact) and urging parents to acknowledge the problem rather than dismiss it. She teaches a practical grounding technique—the "333 rule" (name 3 things you see, 3 things you hear, move 3 body parts)—and claims repeated practice can reduce anxiety and prevent longer-term harms such as depression and cardiovascular impacts.
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Gracious day to you. I hope today you are able to just realize that sometimes all we need in life is a little bit of grace. I am coach and brain, for those of you who do not know me, back at service, here to support you and your loved one, which is something that I love and adore doing. Today's topic is something that is really troublesome for me even to vocalize, let alone to accept that this is becoming the norm of our society, especially with our youth. You see, when we were growing up, we never heard anybody say, oh, I'm anxious, or I have anxiety. We didn't even really know what those words meant. You know, we would just kind of sit down and play, you know, with our. Our friends, with our family, with our extended family, with our neighbors, and spend a lot of time outdoors. And we would never sit in a place feeling like we had to withdraw from life, you know, or that we had trouble concentrating or even the fact that we avoided social. Social situations, which is something that I think a lot of adolescents are facing nowadays. You know, if you're a parent, I'm sure that you're able to see these things, but sometimes we don't want to recognize them as difficulties that our kids are going through. Often we're told, hey, you know what? It's just an ace thing. They'll get over it. I apologize for being the bearer of bad news, but the research and the studies and the data shows that it does not just leave by itself. Anxiety is something that is really some. It's really unique in a way that kids who feel it really have a lot of difficulties with simple things. So they'll kind of feel like their mind goes blank. They'll even have difficulty making eye contact with you or a random stranger or with students in their own grades. They'll just try to avoid social situations, even though they really want to find a way to connect. And this dilemma is facing so many of our youth. I think it's really important for us as parents to realize and embrace the fact that it's real. And maybe my child does have anxiety. And so start to look out for some of the signs that I've kind of mentioned to you, as if this is something that's an identifier for your child. And if it is, try this technique and see how it works for you. So it's called the 333 rule for anxiety. And what this rule does is kind of breaks the pattern of the child being in a state of anxiety for a long period of time. And it gives them A simple tool to recenter, rethink and refocus. I want you to work with yourself. If you're somebody that feels anxiety, hey, try it out before you actually, you know, offer this to your child or maybe to somebody else that you see going through anxiety. Name three things that you can see. And what this is going to do is going to shift the attention from where you currently are to your surrounding. And you're just becoming more present and aware. So the first one is name three things that you see. The second one is name three things that you hear. And that could be, you know, I hear the heater because it's cold out, I hear the water running, or I just hear my own voice. Sometimes they might even say, I hear my own thoughts. Regardless, it's okay. It's a great way for them to see what actually is around them instead of the, the story that they've created in their own minds. And then I want you to encourage them to move three body parts, right? So that could be something as simple as our eyes looking side to side, your hands just because you feel like it and you know, just take a step, whatever that is. So this 333 rule, it's kind of set out to actually help us help children, help our loved ones refocus. It's a simple strategy to that actually grounds anxiety and overwhelm. And what you'll start to see is just simple practice of 333 will provide you with more tools for your own toolkit as parents. It'll actually give your kids and equip them with a simple strategy that actually can work and has been effective in spotting anxiety but in actually progressing to decrease it. So you see, if you don't take the time today to encourage your children, your loved ones, your adolescents to break the cycle of anxiety and to actually learn how to deal with actually has tremendous long term damages. And when I say damages, it really does lead to depression. It will have elevated cardiovascular diseases for them. It could even actually have them have higher blood pressure and who knows what else is there. So as I am here every single week, every single day, every single month here serving you and your loved ones, I want you to actually start to see some patterns, some things that you're noticing. Does your child make eye contact? Does your child avoid social situation? Does your child not finish work on time? Are they afraid of making mistakes? You know, do you see them rising above and believing in themselves and do you or do you see them pause because it became too much and too overwhelming and hopefully that can actually start to begin to open a dialogue where you can actually start to transform your child's life or just be there to support them on their journey. With that said, I'm sending you a whole lot of umbraji and tons of love. Take good care.
