Coach Ambereen (speaker) shares a first-person parenting anecdote about one child newly entering high school whose grades are falling due to missed assignments. Rather than punish, the coach gave grace and enlisted the eldest son to role-model, help his younger brother organize assignments and prepare for a test. The vignette highlights sibling support, autonomy/responsibility, and the value and courage of asking for help; it closes with a positive, encouraging sign-off.
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Positive day to you. I pray that today your moments are just lit up with goodness and with love and with joy and with excitement and enjoyment. Hey, it's your coach, Ambreen, who is focused on how to build those family units and relationships, truly optimize your life, and hopefully pour in the best of who you are to those that matter to you and me, of course, as well. Thanks for tuning in. Today we're going to talk a little bit about school. So I sat here kind of thinking of, what do I want to mention, what do I want to bring forth today? And it would be disservice for me not to tell you. Raw, authentic moments that I've challenged, like I'm challenged with all the time. One of them is my. My. Is my kid. So one of my kids is actually now in high school, and two of them are in high school, but this one just entered high school, and he's still operating from, like, a middle school mindset where he thinks that the teachers will kind of keep catering to him, asking him to do better or to, like, extend the timeline for him or help him study or all these things, which is not the case. So what's happening is his grades, they're tanking. They're just. They're going down. And as a mom, I'm like, never take a breath and be like, okay, we're in a phase of learning and growing and figuring out what works. Once I get him to a place or once we get to a place where it's going to be, the process will just work. After figuring things out, we'll be okay. So I gave myself a ton of grace, got emails from quite a few teachers, more than I wanted, kind of being worried about his grade and his performance. And the theme is consistent. He's missing assignments, and that's something he can easily do. So yesterday, as I was heading over to go play some volleyball with. With a group of people that I do, I thought, what can I do to serve him? Because he's got a test coming up. How can I make it easy? And I thought, bingo. Use the brother. And I asked my eldest son, kind of gave him this beautiful task of role modeling and leading. And I said, hey, but can you kind of help him figure out, you know, the assignments that he has to do? He has got some, like, study guy to do, and if you could just help him prep him for his grade, you know, for his test, that would be so great. He said, oh, okay. And I was like, okay, well, the two of you go upstairs and with your iPad and figure it out. And they did. And my eldest, you know, sat there, talked to me in the morning about, hey, mama, this is what we got done. This is what we accomplished. And just this sense of autonomy and responsibility that he showed me is a beautiful thing to now watch. And the younger one can now understand that, hey, I can lean on my older brother to support and guide me through this journey of high school, which I think is so profound, because in these tough moments, what I'm intentionally doing is getting the two of them to unite, become closer to each other's backbones, to, you know, to be able to support one another and show up and say, you know what? Hey, I need help. Which is really hard to do because we all know asking for help is one of the most courageous things that we can do. So asking for help, and then the second one, you know, the other one saying, yeah, I got you. And this beautiful, simple, I guess conversation or practice or habit will just keep evolving until the both of them are closer together, living more harmoniously with more peace, while accepting who they are and encouraging themselves to be just that, themselves. Fully sending you a ton of umbergy and a whole lot of goodness. X Mom signing out. Bye, folks.
