Coach Ambereen shares a tense car moment with her daughter and invokes Shams of Tabriz's rule that most problems stem from misunderstanding. She suggests pausing or using silence can prevent things from getting worse.
Hey, hey. Beautiful day to you. I pray that today you have moments filled with presence, blissfulness, just a whole lot of goodness. This is your family driven certified high performance coach, Ambreen. I would like to kind of show up here and provide you with some insights, some tools, even some narratives and perspectives that we can change while going through my own journey of motherhood of three adolescent kids. And I know what you're all thinking, like, how do I still have my hair? Yes, yes, yes, I do. Actually, I would be lying if I said that there aren't ups and downs in my home. Just right now, as I pulled my daughter into the house, we had gone through like this whole, like this thing that happened in the car. And I was reading something I want to share with you. This comes from the 40 rules of love, and these are actually by Shams of Tabriz. So he was a philosopher and poet long, long, long, long, long before our time. And he said something rule number five kind of helped me understand the situation a little bit. Most of the problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstanding. So this is what happened. My daughter, you know, I went to go pick her up and I was talking to her friend and we were just laughing. And she came and she was laughing. It was like a full on. It's like a fun moment. And then, you know, of course you part parted ways. She sat in the. Sat in the car and I was like, just horsing around with her. So I took like a. A foam bowl and I'm like boing to her face and she just reacted. I would say she overreacted, but hey, you know, that's on her. And I was like, what was that? So she took it and she just got aggressive. And the first thing I did was I kind of like paused to understand where did I play a role in all this, right? And I didn't really find what I did because I said, nusiba, this is unacceptable. I'm just horsing around and being fun and playful. You're taking life way too serious. I said, you are. Just kind of noticed myself biting the bullet. And I said, you know what? I'm bringing you better shush your mouth and lead by example. So I did quiet it down, took my music, put it back, put it on actually, and just drove her home without saying anything. And I realized that sometimes not saying anything is probably a great way of communicating. That way there aren't a misunderstanding, especially when it comes to linguistic mistakes, like the Shams of Tabriz says. I pray this message has served you. And if it has, drop in the chat below what you took away from it. That's a great way for me to know that I'm impacting you, that I'm doing something that's actually serving individuals just like yourself. Because, hey, you know what? Family is the most difficult and biggest challenge that we mostly have in our lives. And I'm here for you. I'm here to support you in that. So I'll talk to you soon. With that said, sending you a ton of umbraji filled with courage and positivity and radiance and purity and authenticity. This is X Mom signing out. Bye.
