Coach Ambereen explains how unprocessed emotions silently affect everyone around you, from partners to kids to colleagues. She offers four steps: release stuck emotions through meditation, protect your energy as your household's leader, use personalized tools, and practice self-kindness. Your emotional state shapes your relationships more than you realize.
When I say the words co-regulate, what's the first thought that comes into your mind? Now hold on to that thought because we're going to explore how that thought, that non-verbal communication, is really a reflection of your energy. I want to be the first and foremost to say thank you for showing up to make your family development a priority. Let's dive in, shall we? Here's the truth. How you co-regulate is how you, you actually process and manage your emotions, your actions, your reactions, and even your thought. Earlier I had asked you, what do you think co-regulate means? What comes to your mind when you— when I say those words to you? Here is your challenge, okay? And the reason why I'm doing this is so that we as parents, as couples, as humans, as beings can learn from each other. I want you to drop in the comments, what was the first thought that came into your mind when I said the word co-regulate? Now, I know this takes courage and it's a little difficult, but imagine you can be the catalyst to somebody else's liberation, Their freedom, a change in perspective, how they show up as a parent, how they're living their life, what they're tolerating from their marriages, all because you gave them a little understanding of what co-regulate really means to you. So drop in the comments. Now let's do this. Let's take an example, a real-life example, as to how this non-verbal communication Of how you're regulating speaks volumes in the energy that you are creating. Go back to a time and space where your parents told you everything is fine, but you knew deep down inside something wasn't. You were frustrated, irritated, angry, or even distant from each other, but they told you everything was fine. You didn't really believe them, did you? Even when you were young. So what makes you think or believe that when you're doing the same thing, when you're not managing your emotions, that your kids, your spouse, your siblings, your family isn't feeling the exact same way? They know that something isn't right. Why? Because your emotions are a great way to communicate through energy about how you're feeling. What you're allowing, and what you're even giving yourself permission to tolerate. Now imagine your boss is making your life super difficult. Like 75% of employees, you're contemplating about leaving work because he or she isn't the leader that's really filling your cup. When you go into work, you are feeling exhausted, drained, overwhelmed, frustrated, irritated. Like you are not being seen, heard, or even appreciated for all the efforts that you're bringing forth. That's a tough place to be, isn't it? Then there is your home life where your marriage started off remarkable, amazing. The first few years were just impeccable. You were filled with joy. And now after 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 years, Marriage feels more like a chore. You are disconnected from yourself. You're disconnected from your spouse. You're disconnected from every single thing that used to nourish you, that used to fill your cup. That's a pretty difficult life to live in. And I understand. I completely empathize with you. Why? Because I've been there. I've done that. So no judgment here. What I want us to do, you and I collectively together, Is I want us to embrace exactly where you are right now. Your emotions, the funk, the fact that married life is more like a chore that you have to checkmark versus a companionship that you get to enjoy and live into. Hold on to that thought and let's keep going. Now, you may be wondering, So now what, Ambereen? I have a realization that I'm not co-regulating my emotions really well. Well, if you know me and if you follow my work, if you know anything about the things that I do to make your family development a priority, I'm gonna give you simple and effective tools to really bring back more harmony, more healing, more happiness, and more health into your life. So here's what I want you to write down. Yeah, I want you to write it down, folks. Let's go. First, I want you to recognize that feeling, that emotion, and I want you to find a healthy way of releasing it. What's worked for some of my clients is a simple release meditation. I want you to close your eyes, and when you notice this emotion showing up, where you are not regulating your emotions well, or this frustration and anger, I want you to keep your eyes closed and say the word release to yourself 10 times. And as you repeat the word release with your eyes closed, take nice long deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth, letting things go. Second, you are the leader of this home. Your number one job is to protect your own energy so you're not poisoning your kids because you haven't chose to heal and let go of the past and get caught up for— with all the adulting stress of life. No, I'm serious. You're poisoning your home by not working on yourself and making your family development a priority. Third, I want you to click on the link in my bio, on— in this description And I want you to talk to my clone. That clone has been designed to really explore with you customized ways and tools that'll help support your exact situation. Talk to it. It's been created with just you in mind. And lastly, I want you to be kind to yourself. I want you to show up with love and compassion and grace for yourself the way you do with every other relationship in your house. Why? Because I know you're a giver. I know you love to pour into people. I know you like to serve people. But remember, when your cup is empty, you're not taking care of yourself, your emotions, letting go of the things that are not serving you. It's all kind of coming and becoming a part of your reality in your life. As always, thank you so much for staying this far and listening until the end. I'm sending you a ton of Umbergy filled with love and light and a whole lot of goodness.
