Lead with Intentions: Family & Influence: An Uncle & Nephew Bond (Coach Ambereen's Family)

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Hey, folks, Coach Ambreen here. As serving as your family and adolescent coach today, my intention for the day is to have a forgiving day as I say that I welcome you on Lead With Intentions on Xingo tv where you can go ahead and tune in and watch channel 250 and 251. Please remember to download the Xingo TV app on your respective app stores, iOS or Android. Also make sure that you do know that Xingo TV is actually can be downloaded on the Google Chromecast, on the Roku devices, on the Amazon, and you can stream and watch this show live on any device after 2016 on forward. So. So with that said, I hope as you're downloading our app that you are rating us and letting us know what you are liking about the app. And then also let us know like, hey, where are we falling short? What can we do better to serve you? With all of that said, I want you to know that today's guests are really cool guys. Like these guys. You see that? They're already laughing and smiling. That's how cool they are. These are my little babies, blooming and blossoming into wonderful and amazing men. This is actually my. My nephew Taki, and my cousin. And it's been a beautiful journey. I really want to take some time and have them introduce themselves or maybe each other so we can actually launch the show and add a lot of value. Welcome, boys.

Hi. Thank you for having us.

All right, so how is it going? Who's enjoying who ingovers?

Okay, so this is Taha, also my uncle.

Sorry, We.

We do a lot of stuff together. We've grown together. And yeah.

This is Takhee. He is my nephew, and he's honestly been my best friend my whole life. So I can't ask for anything more.

And these are my little babies. Like, this is my family. This is the first time I'm actually bringing on family. And maybe you can tell the energy level is just a tad bit higher because they know how I am and they actually can take it. Right? Whereas the other person on that seat will be like, whoa, that's too much umberji coming my way. But I really want to take some time and get to know them better. I want you guys to be able to understand what it is about this family, about my family, where there is a beautiful bond, like where you're growing together, you're having fun together, but then relationship is so very important. So, Taha, could you please let us know what does it mean to lead with intentions for me?

Leading with intention. Is the idea that, like, you want to live every single day as if it's your last. You want to live every single day in the sense that you want to go to bed at night and you be proud of that day. That's what I believe that will leading into with intentions mean.

All right. And so when did you start living a life like this? I mean, you're pretty young. Were you 18 years old?

Yes, ma'. Am. You started. I don't know.

You.

I don't know. Probably one day, maybe. Probably like a couple years ago. You just. It just kind of clicked in your head that you want your life to become better and more productive. You want to be actually proud of your life. So you make steps into doing that gradually, day by day.

Yeah. I mean, you become a pretty wise soul if that was a discovery at the age of 15, 16. What about you? What do you. What comes to mind when you think of intentional living?

I'm kind of on the same boat. It's more of every single day. I want to have a purpose. I want to be able to accomplish something that I want to do. I want to be able to. I want to be able to say that I did something that day. I want to be able to, like, say that I had something and I did something, not that I was just sitting around doing nothing. I want to have an intention of purpose for every day.

I love hearing that. And do you. Can you share with our audience who actually want to pause and say, thank you so very much for tuning in? I hope you have a blast as much as I do and get to know a lot of these young men that are. That are blooming and blossoming into this beautiful relationship that I actually adore as well. So Taqhi, actually, his name means something, and the wise soul that he is, I think, has something to do with his name. Can you share with us what that means? Taqhi.

It means taqwa. It means having a fear of God. So you want to, like, you know, it's more of, like, having that fear. And so you want to lead and you want to, like, actually grow, and you want to be able to, like, make something of your day.

Yeah. What if I were to say to you, taqhi doesn't really mean to lead with the fear of God, but it means to lead with God consciousness. How will your narrative shift?

It would shift, and I would have more of a purpose towards God every day. I would go more towards being more closer to God in that way.

Yeah. So moving forward, what does your name Mean.

Having a purpose with God and collecting and having more purpose with God.

Yeah. You want to make sure that you are conscious, because a lot of the guests that I bring here, we are living intentional lives because we are conscious. We are awoken beings. We are not trying to live mundane lives. We're trying to actually live a life of intentionality, purpose, and mission. And the reason why I think I brought the two of you on as well is to show people that you don't have to be 65 to actually start living an intentional life. You know, what's one thing that you can share with us that is personal to you so we can actually get to know you a little bit better?

Like what?

It's personal.

I have a younger brother that looks up to me and adores me and thinks of me as a role model. And I wouldn't trade him for the world.

I can attest to that. Not only little brother, but he is the pai John, which means older brother for all of his cousins. And they all look up to him tremendously, from pulling his hat off to pulling on his hoodie or even jumping on him as he's walking. Takhee is there to serve at any given moment, and we are so blessed and our family to have him as a part of us because he has really bought a next level of consciousness into our lives with the life that he has dealt. So what about you? You know, Cheyenne, what Or you know, what is one thing that you think would add value to our conversation and really give our audience an insight into who you are and how you live?

With me, my dynamic is completely the opposite compared to Dahlia, with him being the eldest of his. Like all cousins and family, I'm the complete opposite. I'm the youngest in both sides of my family by a significant amount. Me looking up. I have three older sisters. Me looking up to them every single day. So with that, it's. You kind of live life in a different sense because you. You're always surrounded by people who are older than you. You could say, yeah.

And what I want to actually dive in is some. A hunch that I just have thought that popped up in my mind. How do you think it has been for the both of you to be raised by such strong, determined women versus having the same amount of influence with. With men in your life?

I can go first. I think for me, it really showed me the women's side of everything. You know, as you go, you don't really. I guess most people don't really think about the women and how like their side of things and how they would go about things. I think with like the way I was raised, I have more of a calmness and I think of things I would like in a more like thoughtful way. And I think through things versus like just rushing to it and I just have like a more like calm and demeanor about it.

What about you, Mr.

Okay with me, I believe it's in the sense like growing up how, you know, with my mom and my sisters, you, whenever you are in different situations, you think about perspective and other people's perspective and thinking about it like that, it creates more of a calm minded space for you to think about different situations in a more, let's say like process, I guess, like step by step process for you to have the best result possible.

Okay, so you know, what's one, one thing that you can share with all of our viewers here to kind of let them know where has the guidance of women in your life helped you make the right decision? And then maybe one of you can choose where it's made you fail, you know, because we can do both.

You got it right. Okay. And the guidance of women, let's say this honestly. In situations where, okay, we can be rational here, men, we tend to be more like, more like straight to the point, like more like hot headed when it comes to certain situations. But whenever I get to that point, I always have someone in my family to, you could say, put me in check and tell me you have to do something in this manner. You shouldn't be acting like this. Think about this, think about that, to think about other, like to bring everything together before you go into the situation. It makes everything so much more easier and simpler. Especially when it comes to like a mental state. It makes everything much more smooth mentally and much more calm.

It's beautiful to hear that you have graceful role models in your family and around you. What about you, Taki?

I would say kind of along the same boat. It makes you just help you process things. You don't just like rush to dishes decisions. You don't take anything, you don't take anything at the first word. You kind of have to think through it and process it and think about it and really analyze what you're doing and all that stuff and really think about what your end goal is and how you can process and figure out how you can get the steps you can take to get there.

Okay, so what is it? What is the time where you felt like, man, I don't, I don't want to really hear it. I don't want this woman's narrative and perspective. Where has been a time in your life when you face that? And I also, this is a tough one, I know but I believe in the both of you. You got, you got this.

For me I can say when it comes to my older sisters. What was the question again?

I said when you are thinking about this narrative where the women have been really great role models and kind of level set your mind to say, be so logical. Try to put both of the sides together and then act from your best decision. When's been a time where we as women can be very emotional and traditional and things like that. And then we're kind of at you like saying things and you're like bruh, I don't really want to hear about this. Where have you had this decision in your life where you, you're pursuing something even if it's against the odds of what other people are saying?

I would say maybe in, in times when, in times of like sadness or when you're not, when you're feeling down, the emotional side can really become a big thing and it can really take over. But like you have to be like cool headed and calm and that I think can really help you and attribute to like just being calm and thinking through that process.

Okay, well let's move on. Let's move on a little bit more into your own personal interests. What is something that lights you on fire or that you love and adore doing?

Hanging out with this guy, really like.

Every morning you wake up and say oh God, thank you so much. I get to hang out with him one more day.

One more day.

One more day. Yeah.

What about you?

What's a real answer for you?

Oh no, I think that's real.

It is for me, honestly it is most likely just like meeting new people and talking to different people and just having like I like to have like one daily interaction a day with a random person and that it just, you know, I'm not sure how to describe it in any other way except for it just like, it just makes me like feel good, you know, that's all. That's the main thing to it. Also hanging out with this guy.

You're second by the way. Ducky, you're second.

Second behind the random.

You saw you show someone how to sit next to him. Man, I love it. Yeah, I think, I think what you're saying is beautiful but I really want to dive in. Understand Cheyenne, is why is that something that brings you joy? Because I see it on your face. I see how it Makes you happy. What about the interaction with the stranger is above Taqi?

You know, that's great.

Okay. I would not say it's above 30, but what. What I could say is this. I. I guess, like, most. I wouldn't say, like, it's been like this my whole life. Probably like a year ago, I started to really think about the fact that every single person on this earth has their own different life, different stresses, different everything. Right. They have their own, like, conscious. It's. It just, like, in my head, if I could raise someone else's day just by a little bit or just, like, just get someone, like, talking a little bit in overall, just make someone feel better about their day, it reciprocates back to me and makes myself feel just. Just as good. Knowing that I have the ability to do that at the end of the day.

Yeah, that's. I think, understanding that there's a bigger purpose on this earth. Right. That the impact that we have on other people is limited to how much. How much we give. Right. There's a beautiful book called the Go Giver. One of my favorites was a book I could not put down. Like, I wanted to take it to the bathroom. That kind of book. Right. And so. And I don't do that stuff. And this book is this music, beautiful journey of evolution and the abundance that comes into our life when we put other people before ourselves. And it's this ability to add value into our own lives by just being our authentic self. And I love that because you guys know that I have a name for that. Like, for me, that is Umberji. Everybody knows that.

And.

And can you describe to our audience who's watching, like, what. What do you guys see? What is Umbergi? Please share some fun stories.

What is Amberji?

It's.

It's like. It's a Persona. It's a. It's like a. How do you describe it?

It's a. It's. It's crazy, but it's.

It's different. Yeah, it's a.

It's a purpose. It's an energy. It's guided towards people. It's. It's something that you want to do. It's something that, like, you. You push out to reciprocate to other people and, like, uplift them and make them feel better.

Yeah, that's. That's very much true. So Amberji is this. This pure energy that's just lit by. By what we call noor in Arabic, which basically means, like, pure light. That's the divine purity light and the Great thing is it's so authentic that nothing can dim it. And it radiates to shine love and positivity and goodness into people's lives. But it's got this really cool edge because it has a sense of courage where you're like, okay, that. That. That's crazy. And when I discovered that for my own self, I was at a very low point in my life. Very low point. And do you guys ever. Do you guys ever remember me at that point?

Yeah.

Yeah.

How was the Umberge different then?

You didn't have an emergency, really? Right. Because embrygy is something that you developed over time. It really wasn't like there. You could say.

It was. Yeah, it was. It was enclosed. It wasn't really coming out the way it is now. It wasn't popping out. It was more subdued and in the shadows.

Because the whole point of Umberji is to spread it, you know, like, bring more of it, to expand it to how light is. You know, you've expanded to cover the whole room. When the room is dim, you're not really the. The light isn't really going anywhere. You know, you're not expanding onto others. You can barely expand onto yourself. Yeah.

Those of you are listening to these gentlemen, I do hope that that notebook is. Is really close with a plan pen that is just going. Okay, because I'm going to go back and watch this episode. I haven't never done that before, but this one is filled with so much inspiration that it's like, hey, this should be shared with everybody, you know, because we have a. Literally, like a 20 year old and an 18 year old, an uncle who is younger than the nephew. He is my. My uncle, my dad's brother's son. Okay? And so I have fed him, I have changed him. I have bathed him. One of the things I hated doing was feeding him with a bottle because he looked just like my uncle. And I was like, God, I will wipe butts all day. Please, God, don't make me feed this kid. And I would tell his mom, I would be like, you know, like loving aunt. I. I could do everything for him. Just please don't make me feed him. And he's like. He was like. Which basically means, like, you rascal, you have to feed him, too.

And.

And I've seen him bloom and blossom, you know, into this beautiful man that he is now. And, you know, I have seen Taki. Same thing, right? So Taki came before. He was like the f. The second. Second product, right? My youngest sister. I actually started changing her diapers when I was five years old. And then I watched like I don't know, probably hundred kids. My mom had a daycare and I kind of became the lead. My mom left in 202006 with a three week old baby and me. And the whole house was under my territory. All my siblings, all their routines. Packing lunches for everybody, making breakfast, lunch and dinner, watching about eight kids ranging from three weeks till I think it was 10 years of age. And so I think about it in a way where when I was 21, you guys have heard me talk about this often, right? That I thought Forever 21 is something that I always will say because I at that point I knew what Umberg was, right? And then it dipped. And then when it dipped, it was like it was gone. And you guys didn't feel it. Well, by the way, hello world. This is my nephew. His name is Abu Bakr, my sister's son. Who's that? Can you raise your hand? Want to wave at him? Come on. Nice. Go ahead.

You got it for us.

All right. Totally candid moment. Nothing was planned. I actually didn't close the door to this room. So if you will excuse me for just a few seconds, I will be right back.

No, we got.

He just shut up.

Yeah, you got my photo bomb video?

I guess.

I don't know. I don't know, dude. I don't know.

Wow.

All right, we are back. Thank you so much for being patient and waiting.

Said you got Live Bomb, like quality Bomb, but Live Bomb. I don't know.

I don't know. What else could he call it?

Yeah, Live Bomb. Why not? Why not? I'm glad he was able to see you guys though. So we're talking a little bit about energy and you guys are like alluding to what Umberg is, right? So I tapped into it at the age of 21 and then it was gone. Like Cheyenne, you said it was literally gone until after my divorce. I had to come and come back and build myself up. Where has that there been a time in your life where you had to get really tunnel view to build yourself up and rely on yourself?

I would say just ending high school, starting college. That transition was kind of rough because, you know, all your friends go away. You kind of just by yourself. So you have to really figure out yourself and then you can kind of grow and then you can find new friends. But I was like really struggling and I was like, I had to kind of find myself before I. Because all my friends went away and I was just by myself and I was kind of figuring out myself at that point.

And what have you figured out since then?

Figured out what I, like, I know my major. I figured out what. What drives me, what motivates me, what makes me want to do stuff, what. What things I actually like to do.

All right, so you can't leave us hanging. What is it that you want to do and what's driving you?

I would say, like, so what I. What driving me is, like, my family, making them proud, you know, making myself proud. Making money, obviously is always there, but I would say just making sure that I. I'm happy and that the life I live is what I want it to be and not just like something else that someone else would. Would like.

Okay. And do you kind of know why you want to go into that career path?

Yeah, I would say my career path is sports management towards marketing. So I really want to. I love sports, so having anything with sports is amazing. And managing people. I'm really good at it. You know, being the eldest, I have the ability to navigate different. Different kids in different ways and make them do things. So I think it would be really nice. And I really think it really works for me because I. I just have the knack for it.

Yeah. He's got 15 years of experience, if not 18, if you're counting that high as well, you know, so. So who's. Who is whose role model?

I mean, I'd be yours.

No, I think.

I think we're equally. He drives me, I drive him. We drive each other.

Because here's the thing, we push each other. There's certain things that he does that I look up to and I need to put work on, and there's certain things, of course I do, that he needs to. You know, it's. Because the thing with us, too, is that we're different people and we have different strengths and weaknesses. Learning from each other and being around. From being around each other, our weaknesses, which is the other person's strength could, you know, get better at and then vice versa, you know?

Yeah. Like, he's really. He's really inspired me to, like, talk to new people and random people the way he says. And so I've even tried to, because I used to really be really secluded about myself and not talk to that many people, but now with. With him, and that's just like, it makes. It broadens me and makes me want to actually talk to new people. People. And I. I'm less shy when it comes to talking to new people and experiencing new things.

And also with him, he is very extraordinarily good at setting goals and creating a process to complete them.

I.

My whole life, I've always struggled with procrastination and just like, him being. Being in class with him and some other stuff. And when it comes to, like, oh, I don't work, it really helps me to see. Okay, to get something done, you need to do it like this, you know?

Yeah. So it's. It's lovely that you talk about procrastination because that's something that we worked on in my own. You know, you guys don't have an adolescent group coaching program. So as that's going on, I'm learning more and more about kids, you know, and how they function. And I've got this kid in there who is the most optimistic, conscious kid you can imagine. Okay. He's only 15, and maybe not even 15. It's like, still about to be 15. And he was like, I'm a procrastinator, so I want to work on. And by the end of that call, you know, in this whole group coaching session, every single kid who came up had a plan for a calendar plan for the month where they had their quizzes on there, their test on there, their products on there, and their work breakdown. And the expectation is set because if you want to succeed in life, you got to print it out, have it in front of your face. So how can Taki. How do you think you can help him? Or maybe who have you learned this from? This structure, plan, get it delivered, methodology?

I would say from my mom.

Definitely.

She's. She's very analytical, she's very organized. Everything is a step by step process. You. You have to do this step before you do this step. You don't really jump the steps. You. Everything goes step by step. And she's just like that. She. Everything's analytical. Everything is on Excel spreadsheets, everything is numbers. Everything is there right for you, and you have to just continue to keep going up.

It's insane. It's actually insane.

And the fun part is I've been trying to. To migrate her onto an online system. I'm like, just do it all online. But no, she refuses to have that usb which she will plug into her laptop. And so one of the goals I have with your mom is maybe you should broaden that horizon to, like, technology. And, like, they'll keep you safe.

Yeah, it would. It would save up on time, that's for sure.

Yeah. And you can access it from anywhere. Right? So you're listening, Ops. We're really cheering you on and hoping for an upgrade onto the online system.

With her Android.

Yeah, she's magical. You know, I've seen my sister become a powerful source and a force for her own self. And her commitment and dedication was to Tahi. Something happened in her, you know, before that she was the eldest, but I was always a leader. She was the eldest, but I was taking care of every kid. She was the eldest, and I was having to like, share all my clothes, shoes and everything with the whole family. But something changed in her when she had her son and she was only 20 years old when she had him. Right. She was very young and the sense of responsibility came into her life. And since then I've seen her just upgrade, you know, and then. What do you think are some challenges? Actually, let me ask this question. What do you think are some challenges that you see in your own families? Would she want to kind of change?

Just like. Dude with the broad answer is just stress, you know, like stress and managing it? Because of course, with family you could be very poor at managing stress. And the way that you react to how you manage stress could be very, very bad. And that's, that's the main, that's the main, main thing when it comes to me and my family. You just have to know how to manage stress and how to react and respond calmly under pressure and the right way.

Okay.

And how do you think you do things differently from the people that raised you when it comes to managing stress?

I would say I don't really get like nervous. I. I like to keep, I guess some. A sense of like a saw, like, you know. Okay, yeah, calm mind. The calm mindness. And I'll say this, if I'm at a calm mind and things still aren't like working, I still don't understand something. That's when I'll get a little worried. Right. But for the most part, I feel like whenever you get into any type of situation, life throws you in. The most important part of that situation is how you react to when it initially happens, the beginning of it. And if you react to the beginning of it in the proper good way, you will be fine. In any situation, you will be fine.

And then, you know, you're talking about, mostly your mind is calm, so you can make those decisions from a place of equilibrium. Do you have people in your life who are kind of a sounding board when you're not really that calm? And if you do, do you?

Yes, I definitely do.

And how important is, are those people? I call them the VIP success group. They're My mastermind. And those are the people that I will tell my dreams to, my aspirations to, my, you know, the things that are really, like, even too crazy to share with you guys. Right. And so how important is it to have a group of community that you can really rely on to make the best decision of integrity for yourself?

It is so important because one thing is, is that the last thing you want to do is throw everything onto yourself. You need to have people to assist you. And with me, especially the people that I around me, like my sister, my best friend, him, they were all different people. And we all honestly, like, we react and our motives when it comes to different things are different. So whenever something happens, whenever I go through something, the way that I perceive it and the way that I think about it, he will find it different. Because we think about different situations in a different manner. We think about, like, one point more than the other. And it's good to know a different perspective. And because your perspective could be blind if you don't know the other perspective, it helps so much.

Okay, I see you nodding. What's. What's resonating from this conversation?

No, kind of the same thing. I. Having a group of people by me and close to you is amazing because it. It frees you in a way. It makes you. It makes you not have to hold everything in if you don't want to. You can let it out and people won't judge you. They're not going to say anything about it, and if anything, they're there to help you. They're not going to go against you. Whatever you say, it's not going to hurt them. Those people, those people that are really close to you, they're going to try to help you, and they want you to grow, so they're going to help you with growing, and they want you to get better.

I actually want to take a moment right now before I dive into the next question to just do a reset. You know, for those of you who are watching and tuning in, I hope you are having. It was a fun, loving, hearting conversation, and now we've gone into wisdom. I'm gonna try to lift it back up. Okay. We're gonna give you energies throughout the show, but before we do that, I shared with you that my intention for today is to have a forgiving day. There's a lot that I need to let go of to welcome abundance and growth into my life and also a very different type of success for me. And so I, you know, I really would want to know from. From Taki what is that? Intention. And Shayan, keep thinking about yours too, because I'm coming to you. What's your intention for the day?

My intention for the day is to be productive. I have this meeting. I also have, you know, I have homework, I have to do a couple papers, a couple assignments that I really want to get done, and then I also want to have a couple of things that I have to do at home, and I want to get all that done, and I just want to be productive.

All right, onto you, Mr. Taha.

Definitely the same thing. Productivity. But also I want to take some time out of my day just to like, just to, like, take time with my family and just relax, because I have. I could say that it's been these the past couple of days, I haven't been able to give that time to my family, just to, like, sit down with my family and just talk to them. So I definitely want to do that today. So productivity and family.

So can I ask you something? Why is spending family time not productive in your mind?

Of course it is productive in a sense, but in the sense that that is, it's a different type of productiveness. Productivity could be in the sense of you physically accomplishing something, such as assignments, getting like, do running errands, getting a grade, getting a job, stuff like that. But then there's also like a social productiveness, which is in this sense, family, where you are speaking to another person and you're just having a good time with them. So to rephrase my. My first, like, what I first said to have like a physically, like, you know, productive day doing.

Yeah, I feel like you, I think, are leaning more towards energetic. Maybe productive is not the thing. Maybe you want to have a lot of energy today. So that way, until the end of that minute before you go to bed, you're like, wow, I got me a dose of Umbergi today. Right. So the reason being is I really want to take a pause, you know, from this interview. I'm super grateful for Taqi, that sharing that he wants to have a productive day and pushing Taha to really say you want an energetic day. Because when you are energetic, you have so much to give. Right? There's this element of joy and happiness and just congruence that comes your way. So you know that every interaction matters so much, whether that be doing an assignment, whether I'd be coming on the show, whether I'd be spending quality time with family. And it is always my intention, you know, as a family and an adolescent driven coach, to really shift the narrative of how we look at productivity. Because your family is one of the most important relationship that you have. And if you can't take out time for them, that relationship is no longer something you're investing into the most important, not as strong. Right. So who would you say, and thank you, by the way? I think the most important because I'm the same way. I'm like, you know, and like. Okay, so let's take a step back and kind of, you know, a question was asked before we actually got on air. And Taha, do you remember what you had said? You know, like, what would people say about the actual relationship between us?

Yeah, that you're like, what did I say? That you're just practically a mother figure.

No, what I said is what you were asking is, do we introduce. Do you introduce me as uncle? Because I'm really not his uncle. Right? That's true. You're really not his uncle in. In the American dictionary. But when we talk about family, these are like our homies. They're like our people. Right? Like, your first cousins are kind of in it with you. You know, they've been since. Since young. And I want to ask you, you know, the both of you, this question, and I really want you to provide to the individuals here who are listening and giving us the most important, you know, commodity, which is their time and really tuning in to understand what is this bond, this uncle and nephew bond. Who is somebody in your family that you think is a good role model? Because you're saying it's so important to have those types of people around.

Definitely my sister. Definitely my. My youngest. Well, she's the youngest out of three sisters because she is very, very blunt to me, and she will tell me the things that I won't want to hear, you know, and you need that in your life. You need that to be able to grow, and you need that to be able to change things for the better of your life. Because change is always good. Always. There's a situation that change wouldn't be good, because in a situation that change could be bad. You're learning so much out of it, but 100. My sister.

So we're gonna give another shout out here to at Maria, Cheyenne's sister, because, hey, why not? This is a family game today. Okay? What about you, Taki? What's going on there, Tinga?

I would say my role model is my mom. Again, just the way that she goes about things and the way that she does things, I follow it the way that, you know, it the way that she Thinks is how I think we think alike. And just the way that I've seen her grow and then the way that I've seen her, the way that she does things is for me, it works and it's amazing. And I just follow that and you know, like, seeing how productive she is at work and all the things she's done for me over the years is, Is amazing.

And what is it that you want to do that you. That you men want to do for your families to show them that they matter?

Provide.

Yeah, just make them proud.

Like, be loving and. Yeah, just make them proud.

Just build a life that, like, you could, they. You could, like, they can. I can say this. All right. Build a life that whenever they speak about you to someone, they just. They can speak about you with a smile on their face. Face.

I like that rule. That's why you repeat that for us, please. All right, folks, here we go. Time for quotations.

When speaking to another person, your family should be speaking to them with a big smile on their face.

Yeah. Because that's when, you know, the most authentic version of you came out, right? Because you're like, this is it. It's limitless. Yes, it's a little crazy, but what good is life without a little crazy, right? I want, I want to kind of dive into a. Maybe something. Something light hearted. What is it that's something that you guys enjoy doing? Maybe a sports or a hobby that you can share with. With people and, and actually, let's dive in there first.

He's big on football. Like, big, big on football. And for, I guess me and him, but I'm more like. We both go to the gym and play basketball a lot. I say I'm more, more on the basketball side and he's more on the football side. But definitely, like, those are like the big three when it comes to us.

Yes.

So important to us.

Sports is a major factor in both of our lives. You know, I've played sports for like 12 years of my life, if not more, if not great for me for so long. And, and I still play now every single week. I have to get some kind of sport in or else I don't, I don't feel. It doesn't feel the same.

You gotta get the blood flowing. You gotta get your body feeling good. You always have to. For us. We always want to stay active. That's the main important thing with us.

And so now you guys are all talking, all smiling and laughing, like the both of you know what's going down. But here we are trying to feel it. Right. Why, you know, you share the sports is important because you want to stay active, you want to move. Why else are those touch points? The gym or you going out every single week to play with. With somebody? Why is that sense of community important for you guys?

It's just like, you know, it's like a. Okay, I can say it's a sense of brotherhood because when you are just like out and connecting with others and like when you honestly spending time with others in general, just mainly in general, but with us is much more easier and much more enjoyable through sports. That is so much. And it could do so much for you in every single aspect of life. And it's honestly the best thing that you can do possible for us.

Yeah, for me, it gives me like a median to find new people. You know, I can use that to then find new people and talk to them and get to know them and things like that. But I also think that it's just, it's like he was saying a brotherhood. And it's just like a bond around that game. Like, that bond is. Is something that, you know, I've played football in high school. Some of those guys are my best friends. Like, I still talk to them to this day. Like, that bond is not. Not going to be broken. We've. We, you know, we blood, sweat and tears, like they say, all together in that. On that field.

So, yeah, I, I love this because the both of you have been raised by so many women, you know, and Cheyenne is like the only boy cousin that we really had in our vicinity. Which kind of the perspective for you. There are what, 14. 14 granddaughters. And he's like, you know, the second or no, the last grandson, the baby grandson, you know, and there are only two of them. Exactly. So he's been with so many women and then now they're having to shift and pivot into like this place where you're like your brotherhood, bad, sweat, tears, you know, like, it's. It's lovely. So take us to that world that we've seen, like this beautiful wisdomful journey from you guys. Take us into that place where it's like boy talk the fun.

Okay with me. It's like this in. In the sense of my whole life I've been surrounded by girls. I always want a brother growing up. Never got it, but he is the brother I never had.

Same for me.

Truly the brother I never had. And I cannot even like under exaggerate that. Like, like it's significant. And because another reason that I am surrounded by girls the guys do I, that I do meet in my life, the guys who I make friends with in my life, I, it, it really becomes like I see them as my brothers because I don't have that physically in my family. So best thing is to have that with your friends and that's how you really get close and that's where you build lifelong friends that you will never, never lose.

Yeah, I mean, he's my brother, you know, before Rayyan, you know, 11 year gap even then, you know, that, that, that the other person that you want for me, it was always him, you know. And yeah, since you were little, I just.

Okay. We actually are, you know, how much? About five minutes or so left of the show. And this has been a really fun journey. You know, maybe we'll have you guys back here again. So I want to know, how do people get in touch with you guys?

I'm on Instagram, but it's T A Q. I. I don't think there's a dot after the I, but yeah, you can. Again, that's my social. You guys can hit me up on there.

My social on Instagram, it is tzz underscore and I'm pretty sure that's my social on everything.

I. I actually think you guys should create a new brand. You guys should really call it, you know, a nephew and uncle bond that you both promote because this is very rare. And thank you so much for letting us tap into it because this bond that I have seen is not something that is traditional and typical for you to say. He's actually my, my brother and he's a brother I never had because we are so not only close in age, but we want to grow together. We want to build together. We inspire each other to be our best and we push each other to grow. What is. You know, we're now in the last, last phase of our show and I like to do this thing called an intentional wrap up where I'm going to ask you rapid fire questions and I want you to answer actually in just a word or a sentence. Right. And the person that wants to go first is raise your hand so that way I can just point and you guys can go. Ready for the first question is what do you want to leave behind for the world?

I. I just, I just want to. I want to leave behind my, my presence. I want to be able. I want to be able to, like some people say my name. When people talk about me, they're happy and they say with the smile and, you know, it's not something that you know, that they're shameful about that. They don't talk about. I want them to talk about me. I want them to be proud of me, and I want that to have everlasting effect. All right, so that was more than a sentence.

This is one word that turned into, like, two sentences.

All right, you keep it to a word. Let's go.

Two words. Being genuine.

Oh, love me some of that. Okay. How would you know you've led an intentional life?

By looking back at it.

Just like, you know, accomplishing my goals.

You look back at it with a.

Smile, being proud of how you accomplished your goals.

If you could create one law that everybody had to follow, what would that law be?

Oh, oh, oh, so good. The golden rule. I treat others the way you want to be treated. It has to be a law like, you'll go to jail if you don't do that.

Go to jail. What is going on? Okay, that would be. Okay.

Yeah, that's a good one, right?

All right, You. You come up with a new one. Okay.

Any day, I would say, like, be happy.

Be proud as a war.

Yeah. Be proud of what you've done.

Yeah, I get that.

Celebrate yourself, right? Because it's all a journey. You're gonna have ups, you're gonna have downs. But on those downs, you still gotta remember that there's a low and different. So what's one lesson that you want to share with our audience that has made you who you are today?

Okay, like, as you were saying, I was just thinking about this. If you are in a very low place in your life, just know that there's always an up. Like I say this. When you're in a valley, just know in this world, there are mountains that you can always climb. And you always get out of that valley by going in and go up the mountain.

Let's go, folks. Right.

Like.

All right. What about. What about you?

Yeah. I would say if you're ever feeling alone or by yourself, don't think that you're. Don't think that you're ever alone. There's always people around you that can help you. All you have to do is reach out to them. Just don't be afraid of that. And if they're true friends and true people, they'll tell you what you need to hear, and they'll be honest with you.

Okay, this one last one, I want you guys to both answer on the count of three, okay? And then I'm gonna, of course, zoom in. Think about this question, okay? Take three seconds. What is the key to A healthy relationship. Alright. One, two, three.

Communication, trust.

Okay, so there you have it. For those of you who have tuned in thus far, trust and communication are key to a healthy relationship. And that is what I hope and pray I can leave behind for these two as their cousin, as their khalajan. I think it is so important with the work that I'm doing right now with the adolescent group coaching program and the fact that the kids are coming back repeatedly every single week virtually to grow, to listen, to learn, to strategize. How do you actually build out a plan for a whole month and just give your productivity and elevation? How do you live into this authenticity? Because that is key. Because if you lose yourself, you lose much of life. Exactly what we talked about is they told me there was no Amberji. Amberji had died at the age of 22 because I got married. So as we're diving in together, you know, if you think you are somebody who's listening right now, whose kiddo needs support, whose kiddo needs that hand and that guidance and the mentor, you know, go ahead, reach out to me. It's just coach and brain across every single social media platform and DM me. All you gotta do is hop on a quick call, completely free, 30 minutes, no obligations at all, you know, So I would love to serve you on that point. With that said, thank you so very much, the two of you, for joining us here today. Thank you for giving us all his goodness. Fist bumps. As we wrap up this show, I would like to let everybody here know that this show can be heard on Spanglish Radio Network. Please check out, check out Spanglishworld CA for all the news and the programming. Spanglish world. Watch it, hear it, read it, download it. But most importantly, live with intentional, but live with intentionally to better yourself.

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