Coach Ambereen (X Mom) uses a personal anecdote—sharing a loved one’s photo without permission—to illustrate how to own mistakes while practicing self-compassion. She describes taking responsibility, apologizing, allowing the other person time to process, resisting harsh self-talk, and shifting focus to changed behavior and future forgiveness; she closes by inviting viewers to reflect and comment.
Innovative day to you. I pray that today you do things just a little bit differently so you can be a little bit more edgy, grow a little, and even learn something about yourself. Who knows, there might be a change of perception there. Hey, it's coach Ambreen here serving it up again. As your family driven coach, I love to provide these simple, insightful tools, tips, perspectives, hopefully breakthroughs as well, where you can really tap in to a better version of you, where you can grow and excel. So that way you can impact your family and your loved ones just a little bit more, a little bit better. All right, so today's topic of discussion is a mistake that I made. Yup, I make a lot of those. We are humans and I think one of the biggest challenges that we have is owning our mistakes but then not being mean to ourselves because of our mistakes. So I did something very simple. I just kind of shared a picture, you know, of a loved one in an, in a, in a bigger group. And these people in the bigger group are just people who actually would love to hear the news. They are super joyful and excited and have good intentions, most of them. Right. However, what I got is a reminder from somebody, you know, like via text message that, hey, did you ask permission before doing that? And so I said no. I didn't really think I needed, like, in my mind, I didn't think I needed approval because here again, we as human beings do things from our perception. So if somebody were to share one of my pictures or, you know, something that I had shared and pass along somebody else, I'd be cool, like, great. You're having more people smile, feel more joy, be kind of part of my life, even if it's indirectly. And so I said no, I didn't. And I took full ownership of that mistake. And what I did is I actually messaged that person who was, you know, the responsible person here. And I said, hey, I just wanted to let you know that I did this, you know, I shared out of goodwill, just excitement and joy. And I, you know, did not mean to hurt you. And if it did, my sincerest apologies. And so this person noodles on it a little bit, marinates, which I really love, a level of maturity that shows up when we are able to not be reactive but really be proactive, think about those thoughts and what's coming up and then respond back because once you say it, you can't undo it. So same way, like, my mistake, right? Like, once I did it, I can't undo it. And he said, you know, I'm very upset with you. That was something personal I didn't want anyone to. To share. If there are things I want people to know about my life, I will go ahead and let you know. Other people know, so on, so forth. And so it's like this. This cycle. And I thought, yeah, I can see that. Definitely, you know, I will give you the right to be upset. I will give myself the grace to say, you know what? You made a mistake. So very quickly, I responded back and I said, hey, listen to me. I will take full ownership of my mistake, and I really, sincerely apologize for hurting you. That was not my intent. However, this, I think, is the key. And the key is I said, I cannot go back and change the past. However, I will wait for the future when your heart is able to forgive and let go and move past this now. All of the pressure that I would normally have on myself to say, oh, my God, I feel so bad. I'm just a bad person. I'm so guilty. I did this wrong. I hurt her feelings. I messed up her mojo. I shared something personal. I'm not that person. The. The self talk that kind of just will take us down. Right? What I did is, like I said, I got it. I made a mistake. I'm human. I'm gonna let you process, and I'm gonna let you forgive me when you're ready. And I actually was okay with that. And, you know, the reason why I'm producing this content is to let everybody here know when we make mistakes. Yes. Should we take ownership of that mistake? Yes. Can we undo our mistake? No. Many times you can show them through actions that there's a change of behavior so that that mistake won't repeat itself. Or it could be something as simple as you own up and you do something differently. Right? To let them know that, hey, you know what? I messed up. So the next time that I meet this person, it's all love, it's all game. We'll definitely meet them with a whole lot of, you know, heart, tons of love, and, you know, hugs and kisses. And then, of course, reiterate for my own self, not for her sake, for my own self to say, you know what? I'm sincerely apologetic for that mistake. And if you, me, and all of us can stop the self talk, which is taking us down for the things that don't go as perfectly as we planned, even if we have the right intention, because you are not me and I am not you, that grace is so necessary for us to move past the difficulties of our lives. Okay? So do, let me know. Drop in the comments below. What is that one thing that you need to let go of to be kinder to yourself? Or what are you going to start saying to yourself to be just a more joyful, grace, graceful, kind, loving being to you for the things that don't go as planned. All right, sending you a ton of Emergi as always, filled with just energetic, pure, positive, loving vibes. This is X Mom signing out. Bye.
