Coach Ambereen shares a bedtime argument with her son about a backpack he didn't want to buy. She realized insisting on being right damages the relationship and your own self-respect. This week, pick one conversation where you skip the argument entirely.
Understanding day to you Hope today you are able to take moments to kind of make sense of this puzzle of life that we call it. I actually wanted to share something super personal today, and I thought maybe it could benefit you as a parent, you as a grandparent, you as a friend, or even as a partner. You know, often there are times when we're having a dialogue with somebody and we've kind of made up our mind of what we're thinking and what we're expecting and what we're wanting. And so kind of friction keeps happening. Often, like, they say something, we see something, they say something, we say something. And gets to a point where in your mind, you're frustrated, you're irritated. And it all stems from this place of not trying to understand and accept. So yesterday I was trying, you know, my kiddos go to bed, and we do, like, a little conversation before they go to sleep, and we read our. Our prayers, and we kind of prepare our mindset to go into bed. And my son was just adamant about talking about a backpack that he bought that he didn't like and that he was kind of forced to buy. And I was like, I remember the story very differently. I remember you wanted that backpack of all the other backpacks that were at the store. And he said, yeah, I don't have much of a choice, and blah, blah, blah. And this conversation is just kind of prolonging, and I hear my mind saying, just stop it. And so I tell him, hey, bud, we're just going to kind of end this conversation.
And then he loops me back in. And if you're a parent, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. Like, they just know how to suck you back in. And you're like, I was almost about to leave. So here I am unraveling on, you.
Know, this whole conversation all over again. And he's like, can you listen to. Understand. Can you listen to what I'm saying? I'm telling you this. I'm like, yes, I understand that. But at this moment in time, these are just things. You're so focused on things, and once you have those things, they don't matter anymore. And his point was, yes, it never mattered from the beginning. And my thing was, well, the backpack mattered to you until now. Maybe you want a new one, right? And so when you're in these moments with anybody, including myself, I think it's really important to listen to our mind when it's chattering with us, when it's telling us to kind of stop and pause. And the one thing that I've learned more than anything is I don't always have to be right. I don't have to have the last word. I don't even have to make sense to the other person. And by using that I don't have to be right kind of let your ego go, the guard goes down. You know, I don't have to make sense to them. They don't have to really accept my mindset, my views, my opinions because they're mine and not theirs. And just knowing that not having the last word, I actually start to increase the self respect that I have my own self and maybe in the eyes of other people. And so on this beautiful day of understanding, I hope you're able to just shift and pivot. Even if it is one conversation this week where you tell yourself that you're not going to argue just for the sake of argument. With that said, sending you a ton of umbergy, a whole lot of goodness, tons of love. Take good care until next time. Bye.
