Coach Ambereen discusses mutual respect in families, drawing on her experience with disrespect toward women in Pakistani culture. She argues for challenging traditional norms and setting boundaries so future generations grow up in respectful environments.
Elevated due to elevated day to you, me and every single person out here listening. Thank you so very much for joining me. I am Coach Umbrene, your family driven coach, which basically means my niche, my people are family, which I think is everybody. So thanks for tuning in and watching. I love to provide little tips and insights as to how we can become better as a family. Really pour into those relationship that matter to us because believe it or not, can't escape them. And the only thing is our family is a relationship that we don't get to choose. We don't get to choose where our brother is, our sister is, our mothers and our fathers. However, they are the best fit for us and kind of what we need in our lives regardless of the difficulties that we're going through. And today I do look a little emotional. I was watching some inspirational content that led to some tears pouring. So just being completely born authentic here with you, which is something I encourage every single one of us to do, is to really tap into our superpowers by being ourselves. And today's one is, today's insight is a little tough one. So in our culture, and by all culture, I mean in the Pakistani culture, it's very typical and very normal for women to be disrespected. Whether it be you're a girl, whether you are a sister, a wife, a daughter, even sometimes a mother, you know, you get disrespected by men and sometimes the brothers will disrespect their sister, the fathers will disrespect their daughters, and it's like a cycle that doesn't really stop. However, it's not specific only to our Pakistani culture. It's something that happens across many different cultures here. Even in the US I think those things will even happen here maybe not so significantly because there is a lot of knowledge and a lot of upward thinking and, you know, kind of the ability to choose our own lives. So I've been running into the challenge first for a little bit now and I haven't talked about it because it does take a lot of courage to really just bring this up into your attention is I've also felt a lot of disrespect, you know, from many men in my life. And kudos to say that, you know, men, just a lot of these traditional men just feel like they are better than just because they are men. However, I know that's not true. And it takes a lot for me to just say and vocalize that I'm not going to tolerate that behavior. Not for myself, not for the sake of my children. Because as I start to put up with things, whether it be somebody being rude, somebody being unkind, somebody insulting me, somebody degrading me, somebody telling me I'm not enough, I'm passing that on to my kids. And what the breakthrough was, although this individual in my life is somebody who is a lot older, somebody who sort of speak, I have to respect because I am that person, because I've been raised to be that person. I don't need to tolerate it. So what am I going to do? I'm going to have a very difficult conversations and really set expectations, letting them know what's acceptable and what's not and why as well. Right? Like, hey, just letting you know that, yes, I've tolerated your disrespect for a very long time. I won't be doing it anymore. This is the change of behavior I'm seeing. And the reason why I think the breakthrough was I don't want my sons to treat any other women like that. I don't want them to say and think that, hey, mom tolerated all of it. People mistreated her all the time. They disrespected my mom all the time. And she just stood there quietly, just still smiling and being happy and being positive, which is beautiful. Like, not to say I'm not going to be that person. However, it gives them, like, an authority to say, I too, can do this. And that's something that I will not be okay with. So here I am giving myself the courage that I need to vocalize as an individual that something's got to change because they're not changing, you know, naturally by themselves. So it's time to level up, to elevate and to really pour in the best of who I am. So that way I can be the most amazing and miraculous ex mom, you know, like, to my kids. So that way my daughter never has to face challenges with her brothers or with her partner or with her grandfather or anybody else because I did something different. I challenged the status quo. And that's something I'm learning that I love to do more and more with. That said, sending you a ton and a ton of umbergy. A whole lot of goodness. This is your ex mom signing out. Keep tuning in. Thank you so much. Love, love, love you showing up and doing the work. Bye now.
