Coach Ambereen delivers a short coaching monologue about how ego prevents sincere apologies. She argues that a larger ego causes externalization of blame, justifications for mistakes, and insincere apologies; she urges listeners to "check your ego" daily and gives a family rule: apologize only when you're genuinely ready to take ownership.
Resonate well with you. Okay. The one thing I want you to remember is our ego plays a huge, huge, huge role when it comes to an apology. Okay? The bigger the ego, the less likely you are to apologize. I'll say that again. The bigger the ego, the less likely you are to apologize. Why? Your ego is that voice inside of your head which tells you that you're better than. Better than this situation, better than this person, better than this problem, that all of this has nothing to do with you. So you kind of take everything that you've done and you put the blame externally, not internally. Externally. And that's what our ego likes to do. It likes to make you seem like you're superior to whatever it is that's going on in your life. So I really want you to tune into that. I want you to check your ego, and I want you to check your ego all the time, every single day. There are moments in our lives where we let our ego ride and then we become people that we're not happy with. And the longer that you let this go, the more miserable you're going to be as a person. I'm not saying that it'd be condescending or to be rude. I'm saying there's a reality check. The longer that you let your ego run, the more miserable you are going to be as a human. Why? Because there's a disconnect between your heart, your soul, and the person that you're becoming. You know, you can be better, but not if you let that mind and that ego take over to make you seem like you're better than the rest. Okay, So a lot of times you'll be in a situation and position where you know you made the mistake, but you'll justify it. When you justify your mistake, an apology is not going to happen. If it happens, it's not sincere. And in my eyes, if the apology is not sincere, I don't really even need it. That's a role that we have in our house with my kids and I that apologize when you're ready, when you know it's genuine, when you know that you made a mistake and you're ready to take ownership of it. Without that, it's just words coming out of your mouth.
