Coach Ambereen shares three strategies for parents of teens: lead with curiosity instead of judgment, stop taking emotional outbursts personally, and hire a coach. Around age ten, kids shift from seeking approval to navigating hormonal changes that make emotions unpredictable.
If I were to ask you who is responsible for your life, you would say you are. But a house filled with teens says otherwise. I know, I know, I get it. I've got 3 in the house that I am responsible for, and you're probably thinking, huh, is she still smiling? Don't worry, I will share my secrets with you as long as you keep coming back. Follow or subscribe to receive my tricks on how you can survive with teenagers in the house. When my daughter turned 11, a version of her showed up that I didn't know. And this version is a lot of times what my clients would talk about. So what did I do? I got curious, and I expect you to do the same. She was blunt, direct, emotionally tangled. And the more that I began to lead with curiosity, the easier those preteen years got. And I expect you to do this. I expect you to do the same. The lead with curiosity. Cynthia and John came to me when they had a 14-year-old and a preteen daughter. They felt like they had lost their children. Well, that's because until the age of 10, our kids' number one desire is to make us happy, until they learn that there are hormones which they cannot understand. As a mother, of a 17-year-old, 15-year-old, and 13-year-old, I felt like I had done the deep meaningful work it took to navigate this difficult territory of the teenage years, which is why I really felt like I was the best family-driven coach for the Johnson family. Now before I continue, I want to know, does this resonate? Drop in the comments, let me know, do you have a teen or a preteen in the house? Now, I did tell you I'll be sharing secrets with you, so here is the second one. Wait, are you thinking that you missed the first one? Here it goes again. Hire a coach. This, for me, was the number one tool that supported my own well-being and even my mindset. Coaching taught me secret number two. Which was stop taking things personally. You see, your teens, your little beings who are growing up, have no idea why they have an avalanche of emotions that they cannot contain or even understand. So what coaching did for me is revealed, hey, go ahead, talk it through, stop taking things so personally, because when I was able to push back and kind of start to be an observer, I realized that I could be a better mother for my kids. When Cynthia and John stopped taking things personally, they once again reclaimed control of their weekend and not the emotional state of their teens. They no longer felt like their weekends were being hijacked by the turmoils of the little people in their home. Now, at the top of this call, I had asked you to get curious. Why? Because curiosity leads to change, which leads to growth. Now, for all of you curious parents out there, I am offering a free exploration session. So click on the description, click on the link in the description to claim your spot because Thoughts are limited, and I'd love to explore what's going on in your home. Until next time, sending you a ton of umberji and a whole lot of goodness. Take good care of yourself now. Bye!
