Coach Ambereen teaches a 90-second reset technique for marriages: write a question to ask yourself, pause, take three deep breaths, then answer it. The goal is to shift from reacting to responding in moments of conflict.
What if I told you that in 90 seconds you can reset to be a better parent and even a better partner? I know what you're thinking, sounds too good to be true, or maybe she's lying. As a family-driven coach, my intention is to provide you with effective yet simple tools that you can apply to making your family development a priority. Listen until the end to learn exactly what this simple 90-second tool is that you can apply every single day. If you've been following me or watching my content, you would know Small shifts done over the long haul create positive well-being not only for you but also for your family and relationship. The keyword there, long haul, which means you've got to be intentional with the way that you're showing up and also be consistent to make sure that in 90 seconds you have the tools that you need and that are available to you and for you to really reset the way that you are showing up as a parent and also as a partner, to be the most remarkable and wonderful version of you. Don't go anywhere yet. This is when it's about to get really good. Let me ask you this: what's the difference between reacting and responding? Comment down below, let us know what you believe the difference is. Let's take it a step further into the next layer. What is the differentiator between reacting and responding? I often ask parents I work with to journal on these questions, and the insight is very similar. In one, you're just being automatic without thought, and in the other, you're being proactive, you're being mindful. Let's take it a step further. Wouldn't you agree that as a partner, you're kind of stuck in the same loop, arguing about the same thing with the same end result? Why? Because you've stopped taking responsibility and you've just been operating from reaction mode. As a coach, I am paid to push you to elevate your growth, to shift your behaviors, and let go of the narratives that are no longer supporting you, your marriage, your family, your kids, your home. How? By reminding you of the power of just the pause, which gives you choice. It gives you an opportunity to show up differently. So you can reset in less than 90 seconds. Continue watching so we can explore the steps on how you can make this effective tool something you take back and actually implement in your home. Here is the power of coaching. What is one question you can ask yourself when your kiddos are not listening or when your spouse is being disrespectful? Step 1: Write that question down. Like, right now, write it down. Step 2: When you see that things are getting difficult, when you're feeling frustrated, anxious, angry, irritated, I want you to take a pause. Step 3: Add 3 intentional, nice, long, deep breaths. Something like this. Now, step 4, answer this question, this specific question that you just wrote down, in the moment where everything just feels reactive. What are you doing? You're completely shifting the narrative and taking back choice and ownership to show up differently. You're resetting in 90 seconds. Recalibrating to show up as the best and a better version of you as a parent and even as a spouse. Now, I've created a tool. Why? Because most of the times parents and even spouses will say to me, "I know what to do, I just get caught up in the moment and I'm just reactive." Yeah, well, welcome to life. Oftentimes This is where the shift and the support is needed. So what have I done while making sure that I can be there with you through this difficult time? I've created an AI clone, a tool customized just with you in mind. Click the description and go ahead and talk to my clone. Talk to that AI, which will give you guided, personalized support on what can be done to really break the pattern and stop reacting. So in 90 seconds, you can reset and be the best version of you. Why? So you can make your family development a priority. Now, with that said, sending you a ton of umberji and a whole lot of love and light until next time.
