How to Visualize and Attract What You Want in Life

Get ready, because everything is about to change. There's a new way of living life and doing business that will blow your mind. This is a podcast all about the timing of life and the timing of success. It's what we call the Right on Time life. And you are listening to the Right on Time podcast with Amber McHugh. Hey, hey, Amber McHugh here. Welcome back to our first episode of this year. I am so pumped to be diving in with you. It took me a little bit to return in 2023 because I eased into this new year. Then I found myself moving fast and furious, like, oh, okay, I gotta slow it down just a little bit. Which I have also done so already in less than eight weeks into this new year. I've dialed it up, I've dialed it down, I've throttled and I'm checking myself as I work towards my goals. You know, there's this frenzy that comes with reaching the end of the year. We've got a lot going on at year end. We're creating plans, we're reflecting. We may be holiday shopping and spending extra time with friends and family and pausing to celebrate and reflect all good things. In addition, setting your goals and creating those plans also a very good thing, because we know when you set goals and you create a plan to reach those goals, you are indeed more likely to move toward the place that you want to go. But why then? Why do so many people start to trail off from reaching and working towards their goals so early on in the year after setting goals or resolution, however you feel about that? I personally like them. I approach them uniquely and differently, but I like them. Listen to the stats, listen to the stats. Maybe you heard these before of those who make New year's resolutions, after one week, 75% of people are still at it. We've lost 25% though. After two weeks, the number of people still at it drops to 71%. After one month, drops to 64. After six months, drops to 46%. So after six months, just half of people, I actually thought it was February. So it's like continually dropping the closer and closer and the further we move throughout the year. And we hit the end of the next year and we're like, well, didn't do that again. And as I was thinking about this and as I'm thinking about me moving towards my goals and I'm thinking about where I am headed and what I want to do and how I want to shift things in my life this year. By the way, even if you love your life, Right now, like I do, there might still be shifts that you want to make because we're growing and we are evolving and we're learning and we are absolutely changing. And I think it's really important to consider the shifts you may need to make to reach the goals you have in mind for yourself this year and for your life. Because we come with an identity, right? And what's an identity? A set of beliefs that you have about something about yourself. And psychology Today explains, identity is the memories, experiences, relationships and values that create one's sense of self, right? So think I'm an early riser. Maybe you're not. Maybe you're the night owl. Maybe you're a shopaholic. Maybe you're a business owner. Maybe you embrace identity of an author or a writer or a mother or a homeschooler or single, right? Whatever that identity is, we have phrases that we attach to it, and we have beliefs that go along with each of those things, stories that we're telling ourselves, right? Statements that we make about a person with that identity. But there's something key here in the Psychology Today. Quote, the identity is the memories, experiences, relationships and values one creates their sense of self. Memories from the past, experiences from the past and who you are may not be the same person that you are becoming, who you have been, who you are. Those memories, those experiences that got you where you are today may shape your identity, your existing identity of yourself, but they may not align with the person, person you are becoming. Take, for example, this is something I've been playing with myself. Take, for example, the identity that I have as a business owner. I played with this idea. I am clearly a business owner. I own at present three business, three independent, distinct businesses. Three businesses. I'm a business owner. But I played with this idea the last couple of weeks that what if I didn't identify as a business owner? I am a business owner. But what if I wasn't so attached to that? What if so many of my beliefs and my way of being was not wrapped up in that of having the identity of a business owner? Now, there are certainly other identities that I have. I wrote some of them down here. I'm a mom, I'm a wife. I'm a writer. Questionable some days, questionable. But I want you to ask yourself, what are these identities that you have for yourself? You probably some probably occurred to you as you were listening and as I was rolling off some of those identities. And I want to invite you to ask, who am I as a mom, as a wife, as a business owner, whatever those things are for you. But I flipped it and I asked who am I if I do not identify, identify as a business owner. And I embrace a different mindset, mentality, life, way of being more so. And I'm sharing this with you not because I have all the answers. I'm sharing this with you because this is part of the journey I'm on right now as I step forward to reach my goals this year. What they are doesn't matter. But I've realized that, right? And you know this, we know this. But I was settling into this even more. I'm going somewhere different in my future. And all of those memories, those experiences that I've had in the past are shaping my identity now. But they're not all going to be behaviors, mindsets, beliefs. I want to bring forward to the future. You've heard it. What got you there won't get you there. But how do you shift? How do we, when we're in the middle of that space, go from that past identity to the one we are becoming? And this is in fact something I am experienced with because I've shifted many times over the years. And you have two, by the way. I, for example, have shifted from single mom to not a single mom, to mother of one to mother of three. From corporate, right? Someone who is working the corporate ladder and the nine to five to a business owner to more of a solopreneur to owning multiple businesses with a team, right? So we do make these shifts. But how do we make these shifts? And this is what I am also, like I said in the middle of and as I was going through this, I thought through and I want to invite you to ask yourself this question as well. If we can change our identity like you have over a period of time, we can systematize this and we can make this easier on yourself. So if you too are in the middle of an identity shift, maybe you're going from a freelancer to a larger company. Maybe you're going from a six figure business owner to a multi six figure business owner and you see that path for yourself this year. Maybe you're going from a business owner to not a business owner anymore. Maybe it's something in between. You're going from someone who doesn't get movement in I call my exercise movement. I've got some resistance in my head to exercise, so I don't even worry about going there. But maybe you're going from someone who doesn't get movement to someone who does get daily movement. That was an identity shift I had to move through in the last couple of years. I used to get a lot of movement, then I didn't for all sorts of reasons. And I wanted to shift into someone who got movement on a regular basis, but I did it in a whole new way. So you've gone through these identity shifts before, and now I want to invite you to get very intentional about shifting some of your beliefs, some of your behavior, some of your ideas so you can shift into this place that you are going this year, the next three years, the next five years, the next 10 years with a little bit more ease. So got some strategies, like I shared that I was asking myself these questions, right? Who am I as a mom? Fill in the blank on your identity. Who am I as a shopper? Who am I as a baker? Who am I? Right? What are these identities that you have? And start to play with them a little bit. And I want to invite you to try on new ways of being. I call this try it on visualization. So visualization in and of itself is powerful, and we're going to this.