Ashok Gupta presents a four-step brain-retraining technique to release unconscious emotional patterns: Find, Feel, Forgive, and Forget. He uses a 'piece of paper' analogy to explain how to tune into hidden resistances before letting them go, and clarifies how this differs from trauma therapy.
If I say to you, throw away that piece of paper. Let it go, right? You'll say, well, what piece of paper? I can't let something go that I'm not holding. So now pick up a piece of paper. So let's say you pick up a piece of paper that's on your desk right now or your notebook, whatever. Now you're holding it in your hand. Okay? Now when I say let it go, you say, okay, now I'm holding it. I can let it go. And that is the case with our unresolved emotions or our patterns which are there operating in our unconscious and aren't in conscious awareness. The purpose of that first part of the accelerator is to tune into that which is unconscious. So we have to pick up the piece of paper first. So now we pick up the piece of paper. It's the four Fs, isn't it? So find it. Yeah. Secondly, feel it. And remember, we're not saying that we do this with traumatic memories or traumatic emotions. That is work to do with a therapist or a coach. Is everyone clear on that here? We're talking about these types of thought patterns and resistances. So we find it, we feel it. Yeah. And, I mean, these Fs are kind of rudimentary in that sense. The purpose of then the retraining and letting it go is to get your brain to forget the pattern. Did you know that what retraining is at some level is a forgetfulness of your old pattern? That's what retraining is actually doing. This is perhaps a piece of new information for some of you. I think I mentioned on a webinar series a few webinar series ago, Retraining at a neurological level is forgetting the old pattern. It's forgetting how to do it. You know, do you ever have that thing where you. You have an experience and you suddenly think in a certain way? I'm trying to get think of a good example here. Let's say it might be a fear of something. It might be a fear of a social situation. So you keep thinking, I've got to go into that social situation. I've got to meet new people. But I'm scared. For whatever reason, I have some fears coming up, and you're in that state of being. And then a year later, let's say, for whatever reason, you're no longer scared of being in that social situation. And you sometimes say to yourself, I can't imagine feeling scared in that social situation. I wonder how that felt. I can't even feel it. What you've done. There is. You've forgotten the pattern in the sense of your brain can't recreate it. And therefore, in a similar way, you look back and think, I don't know how I used to feel like that. And sometimes when we have a good period in our symptoms or our breathing or our meditation, we can sometimes think, I felt like that two weeks ago, where I was really worried about my symptoms. But I just can't feel that right now. Doesn't make sense to me. And that's what you're doing, is you're forgetting the pattern. So you're finding it, you're feeling it. One of the ways we might forget the pattern is forgiving the pattern. Because sometimes there can be some forgiveness of ourselves, forgiveness of others, forgiveness of symptoms, but as ultimately you're forgetting it. And therefore, that's why in the accelerator, we tune into it first. And another analogy is, say when you're gardening, what do you do when you're gardening? Sometimes there's a weed. So what do we want to do? Just grab that weed? But no, we're taught to go to the roots of the weed. So we dig to the.
