Ashok Gupta introduces 'Kyle', an inner-child example, to explain that many life events have the potential to be traumatic. He describes a spectrum of experiences — from mild neglect and single painful criticisms, through repeated developmental invalidation and bullying, to more severe forms of abuse — emphasizing that trauma can vary by degree and repetition.
So what we're going to do, we're going to introduce you to Kyle, the inner child. All right, so this is Kyle. And Kyle, as she grows up, experiences certain events. And it could be said that the vast majority of events that we experience aren't necessarily just on their own traumatic, but they have the potential to be traumatic. Okay. And so there are certain experiences which people go through which are on that scale of potentially being traumatic. And on one end of that scale, for Kyle, she may have experienced neglect where she may have had a caregiver, a parent perhaps, it may have been a siglit, a sibling or a teacher who didn't show her the care and respect that she, she expected herself. And that may cause some very, very mild trauma, that kind of neglect. And then along that scale, it can actually move to things which may be one off events, you know, maybe a criticism which ran very deep into that person. And then further along the scale, there could be what we call more developmental trauma where someone had repeated experiences of not feeling validated for their emotions or were criticized or put down. And a lot of these types of trauma experiences tend to involve putting down not feeling loved, feeling neglected, not feeling like your self esteem is being supported right through to then potential bullying. And then at the other end of the scale, different types of abuse. And all along those scales, those experiences are potentially traumatic for Kyle.
