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Can You Reason With A Narcissist? | Ashok Gupta | Gupta Program |

8 Nov 2021 · 1 min

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Ashok Gupta answers whether a narcissist can be reasoned with from his personal experience. He says it is often difficult because narcissistic strategies give the person little incentive to change; sometimes only separation and consequential feedback produce impact. He emphasizes there is a spectrum of narcissistic traits (no single fixed type), allows for possible mutual understanding in some cases, but advises that if repeated attempts to reason fail one should prioritise personal healing rather than trying to change the other person.

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Can a narcissist ever be reasoned with? Ask Bill. You know, I can only give my personal experiences in this particular area. So now I'm answering from a personal perspective. I have had those types of personalities that have appeared in my life, and they can be very difficult to reason with because, remember, when the strategy is so powerful, why would they want to reason with you? They have no benefit in reasoning with you. And sometimes the only impact that it has is if there is actually a separation from that person so they recognize the consequences of those actions. But, you know, I would certainly say, never stop trying. You never know. Each. There's no such thing as a narcissist. There is a whole spectrum of people with narcissistic traits. So there can be possibilities for mutual understanding and acceptance and healing, but it can be tricky and difficult. And sometimes I'd actually say, why do you want to reason with them? If you've tried and you haven't been able to reason, focus on your own healing. And that can be much more powerful rather than trying to change somebody else. We can't even. We find it hard to change ourselves, never mind another person in our lives.