Ashok Gupta (speaker) asks why some people appear resilient to trauma while others are deeply affected. He cites twin studies showing that even siblings raised in the same household can have different outcomes due to small environmental differences (friends, coping mechanisms) and emphasizes three protective elements: external support, empathy, and internal resources/coping. He cautions against self-blame and frames these factors as shaping whether an experience becomes mildly versus severely traumatic and persistent in the brain.
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Why do some people move through life seemingly unaffected by trauma, whilst others are deeply impacted? Now, this is a really fascinating question. And they've done twin studies and various other studies where people have been brought up in the same environment by the same parents, in the same household. And yet one person may go on to develop developmental trauma or severe trauma, and another may not. And there can be many different factors that can impact on that. It can be that even those small differences in upbringing, because there are different ages of the siblings, can make an impact. But even in twin studies, what we know is that there can be small different changes in our environment, whether it's different friends or it's different coping mechanisms. That can mean that one of the twins is more affected by trauma than the other. Now, that doesn't mean we blame ourselves. It is what it is. We were a child, we didn't know what we were experiencing or how to move through it. But certainly it can mean then that others have the. Remember those three things, the support, the empathy and the resources. So the support and empathy are from outside of ourselves. And maybe some person, when they go through trauma, have more of that support. And then thirdly, resources, what internal resources do we have to manage those challenging situations to stop them from just becoming mildly traumatic to then severely traumatic, and then staying as a legacy in the brain?
