What Lies Behind An Avoidant Attachment Style?

There is this style that we or personality trait that we develop as an adult that came from childhood which is in relation to our attachment style, attachment to parents or caregivers. And if we felt that actually we're on our own, we've got to take care of ourselves, then we have what they call sometimes an avoidant attachment style. In that avoidant attachment style, we feel that actually people can't be trusted or I can't really rely on people around me, including family members, therefore I must become self sufficient. And therefore if I reach out to people and I try to help, allow them to help me, it will end in a bad situation because they can't be trusted and can't be relied upon. And that becomes a personality trait. It's called the avoidant attachment style. And then as you say, part of that journey is reattaching to people in a safe way. To say, not so much reattaching, but actually allowing ourselves to be open and close to people around us, knowing that actually we're not alone, we're not in our little silo. No man is an island, as they say. We are social beings. We're designed to connect with those around us. And that's a beautiful moment you're experiencing there of letting go of that avoidant resistance style and coming more towards an open style. And that is a journey that's part of the journey as well. And yes, absolutely, that can be a part that you put on the mind map to say, hey, there's a part of me that is resistant to connection or trust in people around me. Let me speak to it, let me soothe it. Saying that might have been the situation as a child, but we are now updating that. And as an adult we can create these safe, loving connections where people are.