Best Of: Developing Momentum

Hey, my friends, it's Brendon Burchard and welcome to a best of edition of the brendon show. These best of episodes feature training that I have done live, sometimes online to tens of thousands of people or live on stage where I was speaking on.

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Well, you hear me talk about many.

Of those concepts in these special episodes here. These are my best of trainings only and exclusively right here on the Brendon show. So I hope you enjoyed them. Please note that as you hear me speak in many of these, you'll hear me reference something because sometimes I'll have been training live or on video or on stage or through a broadcast. So you might not be able to see something I'm suggesting or motioning to or maybe even drawing out on a flip chart or motioning towards on a presentation, but you'll get the gist of it. So make sure you bust out your journal. Just take some good notes here because this is really valuable insights on the mindset or the strategies that you need to adopt in order to improve your life. And if you want to go and get more content like this, but much more deeper and have more of an interactive relationship with me in this type of training, make sure you join our high performance monthly training program. That's our monthly subscription program where I go live with you and our high performance students every single month and I train on a new topic or a new piece of research that we've created from the high performance institute and I train on that and then I do q and a and actual live coaching, interactive coaching with people every single month. That's called high performance monthly and you can Access it at Brendan.com monthly. That's Brendon.com for B-R-E-N-O-N.com monthly to get deeper dive training similar to this. So if you like this, you would love that training program. But without further ado, let's jump in right now to one of the brendon show's best of trainings.

We're going to talk about why is it so hard to change but what you can do about it. I'm going to tell you about the fails that people usually have in their lives, the fears that they're struggling to come over and the frustrations that block them. And then I'll tell you, how the heck do you get over all of those things? So we'll be talking about your habits, we will be talking about the relationships you need to create to support you in your dreams. We'll be talking about where you suck, where you're good. And let's start thinking about this year in a big way. My job in high performance training is always job 1. Raise your ambition and your disciplines that are possible to make those ambitions come true. Today we're gonna go into a very, very mindset and habit driven session for you so that you can understand where do most people fail? When you set a new habit or a new goal and you're like, I'm ready to crush it, or you start the first of the month and you're ready to go and then you lose momentum. Why? It's usually because of one of these reasons we're gonna train about today. Okay, Number two, why do people get stuck so often? They're often stuck in the four fears. They don't know how to overcome them and so they kind of just sit, wait, don't act or become a jerk. And now they're struggling to get ahead and then they get frustrated even if they can not do these things and overcome these things. So many people get so frustrated because of these four things that they ruin relationships, they stop their momentum, they take too many days off watching Netflix. They get in that place where they're just so worked up emotionally with anger or regret or resentment or vitriol that they're not able to maintain the absolute positive energy and emotions required to succeed. And you know this to be true, right? If you've ever studied from me, with high performance, I, I'm here to tell you you can achieve more. But you don't have to freak out about it because it doesn't have to come at the cost of your health. It doesn't have to come at the cost of your well being or your relationships or your time with your family. I mean, I know a lot of you guys are stressed, right? So many people are like, I'm stressed, I don't know what to do with it. Or, you know, I started off the year so excited and now I'm already like burned out. What am I going to do? And just so you know, that's normal. So calm down, stop hating yourself and let's have a positive session today where you really think about what's important to you in your life right now, how you really want to feel, how you really want to contribute, how you really just want to experience the best possible life. You know, we all call it high performance living in my training. And high performance living just means that you feel full engagement, you know, presence in this moment, that you have joy in your heart and in your soul, and that you are confident in your ability to deliver, in your ability to show up, in your ability to make your difference. If you got full engagement, joy and confidence in anything you have, that's what we call high performance living. This one specifically is a mindset for momentum. So in your journals, write it down, big capital letters. Momentum, baby. Let's get it. This needs to be the year of momentum and breakthrough for you. Okay? So if we're going to make that happen, we got to get at it. We really got to get at it. So what's the challenge? Well, the challenge is it's hard to have a positive mindset when so often you fail to do some basics and when so often you get stuck in your fears and when so often you get frustrated with yourself. So this is the session today. We will also be covering today. How do you take an idea and move it into massive action quickly? Because I bet this time of year especially you got big dreams, you have big hopes. You think, oh, I'm going to change this or I'm going to do that, or I'm going to chase that dream in my small business or start a business or in my career, or I'm going to make this pitch. Finally, you probably have something you really want to move forward. So we're going to talk about both the mindset and the actions required on a daily and weekly and monthly basis to allow you to do that. How is that for the longest winded opening in the history of high performance training? I thought that was pretty good. It was a good run right there. I thought it was a lot of wind, but, you know, hey, we're here and now. Let's get going. Four fails. What's the reason most people don't get the momentum necessary to move ahead? Okay. And I really want you to think about this. Gauge yourself right now on what level of momentum you feel you have in your life. Let's say one out of ten. Okay. One, you don't have any momentum. Like, matter of one, you're dead. Basically, you're dead at one. Okay? You're dead. You're not moving that's total blockage. Okay? 5. You're doing pretty good. You're clipping ahead, taking some actions on a daily basis. 10. You feel like you are absolutely crushing it, okay? You're absolutely disciplined, focused, motivated, making it happen. Where are you? Okay, now, as you think about that number range, maybe in your journal, write it out. Momentum, baby. I ask you, right? Write that down. Momentum, baby. And then score yourself. Are you at a 3, a 4, a 5, a 10? And whatever your number is, don't get upset at yourself or your spouse. Don't kick the dog. Whatever your number is, that's the number, okay? Our job is to say, well, how do we increase that number? How do we get a little better at that? Okay? That's what we're going to be talking about today. Now, here's my first proposition to you today, and that is, I believe that whatever that number is on momentum, there is a reason for that. When people don't get more momentum or they set a habit or a goal, and they say, I'm going to achieve that, but they don't. I believe one of the main reasons why is this. First fail. People fail to see beyond now. They fail. They see their current circumstances right now. They go, oh, my God, I got bills to pay. Oh, my God, I got in that fight last night. Oh, my God, I haven't done work for three months, so why would I do it now? They get stuck because all their vision is stuck now. And I know this from even high performers, very successful people who I've been able to be blessed to work with, whether I'm working with an Olympian, literally a billionaire, or having the opportunity to network, associate, coach, connect with some of the most extraordinary people in the world. One of the things that I always have to do in the conversations with them is move their mindset and their conversation pattern from today to the future. Because what's the opposite, if you are stuck in today and you don't believe today can change that, you're going to be right here all the time, that this is just the way you are, that this is just what. Your income is always going to be the same. You're never going to make any more money, you're never going to impact more people. You're never going to get out of that argument pattern, and you're just focused on that. That quickly leads to upset, hurt, turmoil, negative emotion, and ultimately to depression. Because, you know, what's one way to help somebody move out of those bad emotions? You start moving them towards their future again. Give them something to look to that inspires them, that challenges them, that makes them want to be something more. And this is what I tell people all the time. You want more momentum in your life? Start expecting something from yourself again beyond what is today, right? Cause maybe you're already good. You're like, bren, I'm watching this. I got my thing down, homie. Maybe that's where you're at. But sometimes your next level is expect even more of yourself that have that truly that hunger inside, that higher standard that says, you know what? I want my life to be so significantly better. And then when you say that, don't get depressed or upset because what people say, I want my life to be so better, but it's so bad. Look at all these things. And all they do is they're focused on today. See, they're failing to see beyond now. I want the big dream, but it sucks now and then. They spend hours thinking about how it sucks now, and they're like, I wonder why I can't get motivated. Because if you spend hours thinking about how it sucks now, you will generate the negative emotional reality that will keep you stuck in that now. It is our job to look beyond the now, right? Yes, be fully engaged. Yes. Be fully present. But if you want momentum, you need to raise your ambitions. And when you raise your ambitions, you stay stuck right there. You see that person, feel that person, be that person. You're there, not here. And it is so hard for people to learn that. And I don't say that flippantly. It was same thing for me, you know, I was in a place in my life just like I'm sure you have been sometimes in your life, where I didn't like who I was, didn't like how I was showing up, didn't like how I was treating the people around me. Hated myself for not having any finances. Hated myself for not feeding myself more, you know, nutritionally balanced, good meals. Hated myself for seeing all my friends doing better than me. Hated myself for seeing other people in the industry doing better than me. Like, we all have that stupid comparison thing that we do or that stupid limiting thing that we do to ourselves where we put ourselves down, and the only breakthrough is going to come from seeing beyond it. So here we are at the beginning of the year. You know, lots of people have big visions for the future, but, you know, by day five, ten, the first month of the year, they take their eyes off that big resolution, that big dream, and they're back in the now. And they go, yeah, I had those hopes and dreams, beginning of the year. But you know, this is what it's about. And then here's the tell. Listen to the words. This is their failure. They're always talking only about now. Like you get around them. They only talk about the frigging weather. They only talk about, you know, everything that's due now, everything that's challenging them now. It's always just a conversation about, oh, here's what's in front of me. I guess it's always listen to the words. Literally, it's the words, the communication pattern in their mind. Their mindset is coming out their mouth and it's coming out their mouth all over you. And it's just like complaining about all these things now. Or even if it's not complaining, it's only seeing what is here. So they only talk about this project, they only talk about this email, they only talk about this medical report. They only talk about what's going on right now. And I always hear that and I go, that person's in trouble. How can you maintain momentum if all you do is acknowledge what is right here, by the way? I'm not saying that it's not important to acknowledge what's here, to discuss it, to engage it. I'm just saying if you don't also see beyond it and live into a higher truth for yourself, live into that future you, despite where you've been yesterday, then you're gonna get stuck. My job is to make sure that wherever you are right now, you can see tomorrow, man, you can see next week, that you start putting in your vocabulary dreams again, that you start putting in your vocabulary a year out, five years out, 10 years out, that you can see in your mind yourself on that rocking chair at the end of your life, rocking back and forth, talking with your family and your friends about what you've done in your life that you're proud about, about the things that you are grateful happened for you, about the amazing, bold, crazy fun adventures you had in your life. Even if today you're aware, like maybe I was one point in my life, I was stuck in a 454foot, tiny little apartment. I was super broke. My bed was in the closet. Because in San Francisco, California, they called a junior one bedroom. That means it's a studio where most people put their bed in the closet. So my bed is in the closet, my clothes are hanging above me. I'm literally sleeping under the clothes rack in my apartment. And it was a tough time. All of my money going to my rent, trying to figure out how to just buy groceries, trying to figure out how to just, do I buy the bus pass for the month or not? Because I might run out of money. Like, stupid things like that that I had to deal with. And I'm sure sometimes, you know, or you've been in that place too, where finances are a big drag on you. And what happens is when you don't have enough money, it's very, very easy to get stuck only here and to stop dreaming because you're so desperate in the moment. And nothing screws people up like scarcity and fear and frustration in the moment, preventing them from seeing the bigger picture. You know, what's the bigger picture for you now? What's the next level for you now? And I want you to see that next number two is they fail to feel the consequence of now if it was maintained. What do I mean by that? Notice the first word and write this down. Double underline this one, baby. Double underline this one. Feel. They fail to feel the consequence, right? They're sitting down with their second order of pad Thai and they're not thinking, wow, I'm going to feel like hell tomorrow. Because in the moment, it feels good even though it's bad behavior. And yes, I have been guilty of that. I'm a pad Thai kind of guy. But listen, that's the challenge that people have. They're not only seeing the future, they're not feeling the future consequence. Like, I remember when I was bankrupt, literally bankrupt, and I was thinking, this is the very beginning of my career. I had no idea what I was doing. Back then, there was no kind of programs like an experts academy that teaches you how to do what my career is. I had no idea. And so my challenge was I couldn't really see what to do. But I remember feeling that consequence. I thought, if I don't figure out these finances, and I let myself feel the consequence, I let myself. It was okay. Most people, they'll do anything they can to avoid pain, and thus they also avoid feeling the consequence of poor behavior. Does that make sense? Instead of feeling the consequence of poor behavior and imagining their life turning out crappy, well, that'd be scary. So they just avoid the future, stay in the comfort of today, and don't feel the consequences of not turning it around. Even though they'll say, I'm in pain, I feel so bad. No, no, no, no, no. You just feel bad about now. You're not feeling that. Look, if you don't change five years from now, you're going to feel much worse. Just like Tomorrow morning, that second pad tie is going to kick your butt. They don't feel the consequence of not doing what they know they should do. Does that make sense? Like, I bet you have a list of five things you know you should do, right? And people do that all morning. They write down the to do list and they think about it. But if you've got that one to do, that is carrying over from Monday to Tuesday and Tuesday, Wednesday. Do you have any lists? And there's that one line item that keeps coming over day to day and week to week, like the carryover to do. I call it. Do you have any carryover to dos? You know what the problem with that carryover to do is? You have not yet felt what happens if that doesn't happen. So it's easy to swipe it onto the next day's to do list. Swipe it on the next day. There's no consequence. Just swipe it along. Just keep swiping that to do list in the future, because you're not going to. Holy crap. If I don't do that, the dominoes are going to start to fall. If I don't do that, tragedy's coming. If I don't do that, I won't be where I want to be. If I don't do that, I won't get that respect or that income or that thing that I'm really, you know, I'm passionate about having. And people do that all the time. And I know you know what I'm talking about here, but I also think that they fail to feel the consequence of the good things, too, right? So let me go back to me in my public speaking career, when I'm thinking about standing in front of arenas, I'm like, who am I to stand in front of an arena, right? But I could feel it. I could visualize walking out, kind of like the super bowl athletic teams. Walk out of the tunnel. I could walk out of the tunnel and I could feel it. I could feel the nerves of it all. And I could feel myself walking up on the stairs, literally feeling a step onto the stairs, walking up onto the big stage. And I could feel all of the anxiety of it all. And I could walk up and I could feel myself, literally, I know it sounds weird, feel myself saying the words. Like, I could feel how my face felt as I said those first words at a big speech. I could totally feel that. And then what? I could feel the roar of the audience after I finished my speech. I could feel it. I could feel what happened when I walked off stage, and I felt that rush of having done my mission despite my fears. I didn't not feel the fear or not feel the anxiety. I allowed myself to feel it all, and then I felt the reward afterwards. Does it make sense? Your vision of your life must have feelings associated with it, Otherwise it's just kind of mental projections. And a lot of people have mental projections, but that's why their mental projections don't become habits, is because they haven't felt that yet. Right? You don't create any habits in your life until there's feeling and emotions attached to something. Trust me, you can intellectualize all day long. I'm going to do these goals, I'm going to start this new habit. I'm going to do these things. But if you don't feel the consequence of not doing those things, you won't set the habit right. Almost all of your lack of discipline, and this is not being flippant with you, it's just being honest. Almost all of your lack of discipline comes from the failure to feel the consequence of not being disciplined. It doesn't matter to you? In other words, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if I'm not disciplined. I know I said I'd go to the gym. Doesn't matter. You're not feeling that fatigue that you will feel five years from now. You're not feeling that horrible body you'll have five years from now. You're not feeling that sense of just like, I wish I'd taken care of myself. You're not allowing regret into your life. Because as we will hear, one of the major fears we have is regret. So you just avoid it. And now you avoid the workout. And your life is a life of avoidance. There is no high performance life with a lot of avoidance in doesn't happen. You got to get rid of the avoidance. You gotta allow yourself to feel again like it is the most important thing for you to get back in touch with your emotions, both here in the moment, but also your emotions for the future. Like, I know a lot of people have never felt anything in the future before, and I feel so sad for them because I'm like, boy, the future feels good. I mean, the future feels really good. Why would you not want to fantasize and dream and hope? And I know why you wouldn't. Because you're scared one of these things will happen, or you've been on the road long enough and you think, well, Brennan, this is my reality. And so you're not allowing yourself to feel the future Feel the future, man. It will change your life. Every morning that I wake up, part of my little simple thing that I do when I'm thinking about the strategic projects I'm working on. I mean, at a very, like, I know, like an engineering type mind, like, I've got my clear list of, like, here's the major projects I'm working on. I allow myself to feel those projects and get excited about them, right? It's one of my first questions in the shower every morning, is what could I be excited about today? And even if I got to make something up every morning, I'm going to start in the emotion of excitement for the day. Even if I have to generate it, even if I have to dream of something fake, it doesn't matter, because I know if I can start from a place of enthusiasm, I'm in a place of power. Make sense. That's feeling everything I can about the day. But feel the future. Write it down in your journal. Write it down. Feel the future. Double underline that. Put a star. Draw a unicorn or a happy face, whatever your thing is. Bust out that purple marker. Go crazy. Get the purple marker. You're going to go nuts. But make it clear. Feel the future. Number three, what else do people fail at? They fail to do the research. I want to lose. We want. I want to lose weight. I want to lose weight. I can feel losing weight. I can see myself thinner. It'd be great. But then they go, gosh, I wonder what would be a healthy diet. I wonder what would be the best workout routine? And what do they do? They go, watch one YouTube video and they go, oh, well, I guess. I guess I can't do that. I'm like, no, no, you want to be a high performer. You do your homework, and you do your homework daily. Every day. Every day you're trying to learn, trying new things, testing things out, measuring things with that scientific approach that every day you're doing your homework. What worked today? What didn't work today? Do you know how many people I know don't ask that question at the end of the day. You know what? More people at the end of the day go, what do we watch on Netflix? Than ask, what worked today? What didn't work today? I mean, sometimes you just gotta get high. Performance is about the fundamentals, discipline, common sense applied over and over and over and over again. So at the end of the day go, what worked today? That's research. It's a scientific mind. It's saying, hmm, where am I? Where do I want to go? What's working, what's not working, and noticing what's working and amplifying that. But you got to start with doing the homework for your dreams. You know, when I began, I went to seminars and bought courses and read books on how to write books. I went to speaking classes on how to speak. I read everything I could about people.

In my industry or great leaders in.

History who I could learn from from their communication patterns. I started reading a book a week when I was 19 years old, which is like a big dream of mine. And I'm now at, what, 20 plus years later, I'm in my 40s and I've read a book a week and I've only missed three weeks. I get one week. If I'm honest, there's been four weeks now. But I don't count that week because there was, you know. Well, it's none of your business. I just didn't count that week. But anyway, I've been reading a lot of books because I'm always doing homework. I think it's important. All research or all homework, it's got to be diligent and consistent. You don't do it once and then forget about it. Just like you don't go to grad school and you watch, you know, you go to four classes in the first week and then you don't come back again. You gotta stay in class, man. Stay in class. If you leave your growth to randomness, you'll always be stuck in the land of mediocrity. Doing your research means designing your curriculum.

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