Coronavirus: Fear, Focus and Forecasting - Part 1

Hey everybody, it's Brendan. And this is a very special episode and week I'm going to do here on the Brendon show for you to help you deal with all of the stress and realities of the growing coronavirus pandemic. I know that it is creating a tremendous amount of unease, a lot of fear, a lot of anxiety, and yet it is also always in any chaos or crisis, there is an opportunity to explore how we're living our lives, how we manage our mindset, how we act and what new habits we can begin. And I really believe that this could be an incredibly empowering process. As much as everyone is also very scared, obviously coronavirus is a very real threat. The COVID 19 illness is scary. And we are seeing worldwide major action. We're seeing travel bans, we're seeing all the news every day changing 24 7. And sometimes when all of that is going on, we must decide to set our own emotional center. We must choose our focus very carefully. We must assess our own habits and try to enact the most positive and healthy ways of living that we can, both mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically. And, and so this episode I thought would really potentially change your life. Now here's the context. I did a two hour training with our coaching clients on this topic the other day. Cause it was so many people are experiencing so much stress and anxiety, but they also don't know how to think about forecasting their business or forecasting what they should be doing in the next three, four weeks. Even amid all of this, you know, all these unknowns. And so I've never actually released a full training from our or coaching group, but I thought, you know, this one would be the one. And so many people wrote in and said, Brendan, I really could you put this in a format I could share with my family, I could share with my friends, I could share with my team. Because this is ultimately about developing a real mastery mindset even amid the chaos, uncertainty and fears of life. So I know you're going to love this session and I'm actually going to go way, way deep on this one. So this is a longer episode. This is going to be, as you can see, a much longer episode. But please make sure you share this with all of your family, all of your friends, all of your team, anybody who is dealing with this coronavirus situation in a way in which, you know, they wanna be more positive about it. They wanna not get trapped and pulled into, you know, complete fear and chaos, thinking they don't wanna be pulled into more anxiety on top of everything else we have going in life. So please do me a favor. Would you share this episode far and wide for me? I rarely ask for that, but I think this would really serve. And also I want to do something even more for my podcast community here for you guys. And that is many of you know, I actually have a full course called the Wellness Masterclass that we've previously sold between 100 and $200 depending where you find it. And I decided for a whole podcast community and all my email subscribers, I'm actually just going to do a free gift right now of my Wellness Masterclass to the entire world for a free seven day trial and part of our courses program. So many of you know I have a courses subscription where I release two brand new courses every single month that help you stay on your A game and develop self mastery. And in there is the Wellness Masterclass and I thought, you know what, I'm just going to do a free trial. I'm going to give the Wellness Masterclass the entire thing. It's not going to be one of the things where you log in and there's like part one, you can watch it and then you got to pay for part two. It's like, no, I'm going to do a free trial for the Wellness Masterclass right now to my entire global audience. And that free trial, you got seven days, you can go in, watch the whole dang course. You could probably binge watch the whole thing in, you know, a couple, I guess, probably two, three hours. You can have family night and watch the Wellness Masterclass. It will teach you about your energy. It will teach you to assess your whole life. It will talk about the mindset of a healthy life from how to develop clarity, to dealing with overwhelm and stress, to how to cultivate joy, to how to activate your physiology, to how to be more present and purposeful, how to develop that self discipline. So you stay to your wellness practices and develop the greatest health of your life. That is my Wellness Masterclass and I'm actually giving it away free right now as part of our trial. So go in, check it out if you love the program. Awesome. If you stay with us and every single month I'll release two brand new courses to you in our personal and professional development vault. And I know that could really change your life. Just go to HPX wellness.com that's HPX wellness.com if you're new to my community, HPX stands for the high performance experience. So just go to HPX Wellness and that will take you directly to the free trial where for free you can access the wellness masterclass. My entire class, we used to charge 100 or $200 for. Right now for free. I'm doing it for my whole global community. I really believe mastering your mind and your body right now couldn't be more important. And that is the wellness masterclass. You can get it for free@hpxwellness.com now with that, let's jump into this full episode I'm calling coronavirus fear focus and forecasting. I hope you enjoyed this session and if you do, please again share this far and wide because this is gonna get your mindset right. To deal with this pandemic in a healthy way, to adjust your attitude, to take back control of your mindset, your thoughts and your feelings, even as you're doing whatever is necessary to protect your family, your loved ones, your team and their health. This is incredibly powerful. Thank you for listening to the Brendon show. Please share this episode and now enjoy this session. Hey, everybody, it's Brendon Burchard. And welcome to your HPX coaching session. This session, my friends, as you can imagine, is taking place in a historic moment in which I've probably never done a live cast where I really believe it was so desperately timely and so desperately needed. So I appreciate you being here today to work on your own personal development, to really strengthen yourself for these moments and these times of chaos. I know that many of you are literally joining us from around the world. So if this is your first time with us, please do me a favor and log in down below in the chat roll and just give us a shout out where you are watching this livecast from because I certainly know that we have. Well over half of my audience now is worldwide and so I know I'm addressing today a global audience dealing with the coronavirus pandemic. I know as well that there's a lot of uncertainty out there and with uncertainty often comes fear. And as fear sets in, we often start trying to project and forecast the future. How are going to turn out? How's my family going to be? What are we going to do with the business, with the career, with the family, with the community? There's a lot of energy in the world right now. And so the fact that you would take a little bit of time to strengthen yourself, to find your center, to work on your own personal and professional development here in HPX coaching, I honor you and I cannot wait to address you today. Over the last 72 hours, we've all witnessed an incredible turn of Events as the World Health Organization named the Coronavirus COVID 19 a pandemic. And that has set off an incredible turn of events where we have seen schools canceled and shut down, you know, sports teams canceling seasons. We have seen literally governments instituting travel bans. And we have seen a growing, sort of a growing energy of hysteria and fear. And I know that amid all of that, it is very easy to lose your center. It is very easy to be pulled into that and to allow the world situations to cause an extraordinary amount of internal stress and strife. And I want to address you today in that context. So it's actually a little bit of a different format today. I don't have any visual aids. It's just going to be me talking with you through 10 principles and practices that help me deal with fear mitigation, that help me deal with how do I forecast and deal with my life in a time when everything seems so chaotic. And I really believe that's important for you as principle number one, practice number one. I've been sharing with you for years that the ultimate mindset switch that happens for us in our life is when we go from self oriented, selfish, when we go from concerned, stressed, freaked out, and all these emotions that take over us into adopting what I call the role model mindset. When we adopt the role model mindset, we immediately through that frame make different decisions because we recognize people are watching. You know, your kids are seeing how you're dealing with the stress. The co workers are hearing your messaging, they're seeing it. Your friends are noticing the tone and the temperament in which you are enacting right now. And we either add to hysteria and we either add to panic, or we choose to be stable. We choose to be the role model. We choose to be the persons who are centered amid the chaos. I don't pretend that is easy. I just pretend and let you know that that's necessary. It's not about what's easy in life. It's about what is necessary to be healthy, both in mind, body and spirit, and to project and to demonstrate strength and centeredness and calm and patience when everybody else is freaking out. Now, as I'm doing this broadcast live, there is no doubt that there is plenty of reason to be concerned and there's plenty actions that we can all take to protect our health and to protect the health of our global community. There is nothing about this broadcast that's going to be political. There's nothing about this podcast that's going to complain. There's nothing about this broadcast that is going to blame. What this is going to be is a very proactive way for you to learn how to deal with fear in your life and a responsible way for you to forecast how do you continue with your life and your goals at the same clip or even faster when there is chaos. Because that old yin and yang, where there's chaos, there's also opportunity. It is absolutely true. And right now, there's an opportunity for you to be a role model for those in your community and your family. There's an opportunity for, yes, you to grow your career at a time when everyone else is hunkering down and freaking out. And there is an opportunity for all of us to learn as global citizens how to be more proactive, responsible, caring, and compassionate. So I don't have notes today other than my 10 practices in front of me, and I've got my phone in front of me so that I can give a shout out to all of our friends joining us from around the world. You're working on yourself at a very important time. And I really believe that, that by adopting the role model mindset right off the bat with me today and say, oh, let me change my orientation right now. I've been a participant in the drama. Let me now step into how do I want to set my own emotional tone and my own emotional reality as I deal with that which is in front of me and must be dealt with, Right? Because what most people do is, I don't like that. And they don't even deal with it. So they avoid it, they hide, they lie, they pretend it's not there. A role model goes, it's there. Let me honor this reality by facing it. Because what happens is when we avoid what is necessary in our life. Let me say this again. When we avoid what is necessary in our life, we betray our own truth. We betray our own mind. We betray life itself when we avoid that which must be dealt with. So there are things we all have to deal with in protecting our health and our families. We'll talk about that. But I want to make this sure that this is not just a live cast for dealing with the coronavirus pandemic, but rather at a broad, principled level of fear and a broader level of how do you deal with chaos now but the future? And so I've been sharing this because I know people are logging in from around the world and I see you down below. I want to thank you, Manisha, for being here. Thomas. Yosmari. Andre. Tracy. Leah, Karina. Joe. Tina, Ann. I see you, Jasmine. What's up, Laurie. Hi, Alex. Hey, Blenda. Thank you for being here. Hey, Stephan. Thank you for being here. Vinay, Patrice, Susan, Karen, Ashley. I see you. We've got people from all over the world, as you've seen, logging in down below. We got people from Germany, California, Florida, Rhode Island, Montreal, Denver. Yep. We got people right in the hot zones of Seattle and Italy. Right here online with us right now as well. We've got people from Maryland, Argentina. What's up in the house. We've got people from all over Latin America. I'm seeing, actually, we've got people from Southeast Asia. We've got people from Manchester, uk, From Alberta, Canada, New Jersey, Hawaii. Oh, my gosh, guys, we got Puerto Ricans in the house. What's happening down here? We've got friends from North Carolina, Texas, Washington State, Maine. Oh, my goodness. The list goes on. I see you. Jared. Hi. Christina from Florida. Hi, Karina from Germany. Thank you for being here. I appreciate you, Beverly, for being here. Hi, Irina from New York. In the house, we've got Deborah from Seattle. We love you. We see tons of people from all over the world. Anaheim, Connecticut, but also out there in Australia. I see here, Thailand, Boston, Hong Kong. Omg, ladies and gentlemen, global community. As a global community, how are we going to set our emotional tone in this chaos? How are we going to find our strength and our center and project goodness and compassion at a time when it is desperately needed? How are we going to hold the line in our businesses so that we don't overreact and going one direction when we ought to be in another? How do we manage all of this? Today is my joy to talk with you about this conversation. Now again, as people are logging in, I'll set the context as we're dealing with the coronavirus pandemic worldwide. In the last 72 hours, we've seen here in the United States the closing of travel and instituting travel bans from Europe. We have seen Disneyland and Broadway close. We have seen literally thousands and thousands and thousands of actions to shut down, to cancel, to protect. But more importantly, as many of you know, we have seen around the world over 100, probably 50,000 serious cases of coronavirus. We have seen death. We have seen an incredible amount of. Of hysteria that goes along with that new thing out there. And we've seen the market crash at levels that has not happened since 1987. So literally levels more than what happened on 911 here in the US global markets. We have seen a tremendous amount of things happen in the last 72 hours. And I know how easy it is to get pulled into that. So please take some notes. Today I'm going to share 10 principles and practices that with you that I really believe will serve number one most important one. Number one, I said already adopt the role model mindset, but that's an overall principle. Let's jump into some specific mindsets that really help me. Number one is the decision that I will always be the one to remain centered amid the chaos. It is a decision. It is a commitment. It is something you can guarantee about Brendon Burchard. I will be centered amid chaos. And I have worked on myself and I have taught myself that for pretty much 25 years. I've worked on that at a very steady pace. When everyone's freaking out, I take a bunch of deep breaths. I connect with my breath. I make sure that I'm keeping perspective. I do simple things to protect my mind, which I'll talk with you here in a moment about. But ultimately that decision to I will be centered amid this means for me that I will choose the emotional tone and my attitude as I am dealing with uncertainty or chaos. And this propagates well beyond what's going on right now in my life. You know, many of you have been to my events and I hope many of you, if you were at hpx, shout out for your energy. Just over a month ago, it's hard to believe we were all together in San Diego with, you know, 2,500 plus people celebrating life and vibrancy and connection and meaning together. But if you've been to my events before, you see how large they are. Every event, something happens. You know, when we get people from all around the world traveling for four or five days, we're all together and oh my gosh, there's always something's going to happen. You know, I remember years ago I was doing an event and a person in the back of the room had a seizure and literally they fell out of their chair and on the ground they started having a full physical reaction to the seizure as well where they were shaking and it was terrifying for the people around them. And I was kind of at the beginning of my career and I saw it happen. It was almost in slow motion. And could you imagine you're on your stage, I mean, put yourself there, you're in front of hundreds or thousands of people and all of a sudden somebody is falling over and having a full seizure in front of the whole audience. The whole audience literally starts looking back, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God. People are standing up. Oh my God. Oh my God. Total panic sets in the room. And I remember standing up there and I have this on video where at first my first reaction is like this kind of like shocked just like everybody else, like, whoa. And then I kind of look over and instantaneously in my mind I go, Brendan, you have to be in charge here. I didn't want to be in charge. I had to be in charge. And my mind immediately said two choices here. Join the panic or stay stable and strong and present and connected with what's really happening. And so that decision, I'm going to stay centered amid this made me immediately also decide I need to center the audience. So I asked the entire audience, I just announced, I said, everyone sit down. And everyone just kind of looks, I said, sit down. And everybody, they sit down. And I said, please sit down. Because your panic and your chaos right now is not serving the energy of this person who needs healing. Sit down, be quiet, everyone. Please close your eyes so my team can address the situation. Please close your eyes and let's put some positive energy and prayer in the room for this person who needs our attention right now. They don't need negativity and fear in the room. Let's put some love and prayer. Let's do a little, let's send some energy. So please close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and remember, you can choose to contribute good energy to the situation. And so I had everyone close and their eyes, take a few deep breaths and meditate or send prayer back to this person as my team was clearing that row and getting to this person so that when the paramedics would arrive, that person could be removed. Now here's the deal. I knew I had like 20 minutes at least before we could get a paramedic, probably at that spot in the seminar. And I thought, how am I going to buy 20 minutes? I mean, people are going to start freaking out. And I realized, no. If I set the emotional tenor in this room on purpose, and if I ask of others to find the best within themselves, if I ask of others to take a breath, if I ask of others to be responsible for the energy they are projecting into this space, if I ask of that, and if I demonstrate that we'll make it through this moment, and that might not seem like a big deal, but I really believe the energy in that room either was serving this man as he was having a seizure or was making it worse. You know, imagine here he is having this unbelievable, stressful, life threatening situation. And if all around him Everybody is screaming in chaos. The body feels that, you know, the body and the mind feels the energy of what is around it. And so if that is true, let us all be responsible for the energy we are projecting right now. I've seen friends hop online and something's happening. And what are they doing? They're contributing to the chaos. They're posting snarky comments. There's sarcasm, blame, vitriol, anger. And I'm not here to say that we can't use our social mediums to contribute to an argument or to make a case. But every word has a tone to it. And the tone that we are setting in reply to chaos either furthers the chaos or it levels it. And the more of us who choose to be even tempered, thoughtful, caring, compassionate, you know, the values that we would all hope to have as a global citizenry, the more that we will judiciously take action in a thoughtful way. That's the hope. And whether you believe that or not, I hope that you'll hear this first. Practice. Your family needs to see you centered, calm, strong and assured in chaos. Otherwise, we are passing down panic to another generation. It's sad, in my view, that we have a world that is so connected, so potentially capable, so well informed, and yet we still have people who overreact. Now, I'm not saying right now in a global pandemic, that overreaction isn't something you would anticipate. But there's a difference between overaction, as in taking action to overprotect, like doing something useful to shore up things, versus an emotional overreaction of fear. You can deal with really difficult situations without the negative range of blame, vitriol, hate and anger. Now, I know I'm preaching to the choir, but I'm just here today to touch base with you. You can set that emotional tenor. Let's all do a better job at that. Principle number one, stay centered amid the chaos. Let me just give you some just simple things. The way that I do that I know there'll be. Today's gonna be very. Sometimes it'll be big idea. And then we'll just drill it down on how I personally do it. Let me give you a couple examples of how I'm doing it right now. To stay centered amid chaos, you also have to stay a little distanced from chaos even as it is happening. I'll give you an example of how I'm doing it. And many of you guys know I have four major companies that I'm either the principal in or one of the Principal investors in. And for me, like lots of different teams around the world and obviously you've seen here we have a global community. Well, for me, because I'm constantly being hit up on this phone by people from literally around the world in this current pandemic. And people count on me to advise their companies and advise their careers. People are scared. So what do I do? I don't engage the chaos all day. Instead, I work my plan. And many of you already know how I do that with my morning routines. My morning routine doesn't change. Still. Stay steady, wake up, center my mind, plan my day, open up my body. But I also do simple things. Right now, right now, listen, I'm not checking in my phone every 10 minutes because right, guess what you want to do in chaos. Refresh. Refresh, refresh, refresh, refresh. But every time you hit refresh and every time you scroll, don't forget, forget. It takes emotional and mental energy. And if. Refresh, refresh, refresh. Chaos. Bad news, bad news. Bad news, Bad news, bad news. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Just think about that for a minute. You're hitting the oh, my God button all day when you're refreshing in chaotic news times. And that is creating the panic and the stress inside that is freaking you out. So as an example of simple things that I do, I only check in on the news twice a day. I would say news at noon, right? I'm going to get through my morning. I'm going to make the magic happen. I'm going to move my projects forward in the mornings. If it's news that I need to know about, that affects me dramatically and locally, trust me, I'll hear about it. My friends or my wife or somebody will let me know via text. But I don't check in on the news because nothing's going to change for me in dealing with the news until around noon. And I know people say, well, what if this is canceled? Or that's canceled? You'll hear it from your family, you'll get the news. But I don't check into the major media. I don't check into social media multiple times a day. I don't check into. And I'm talking about what people are doing right now. They're hitting refresh by the minute, by the five minutes, by the time. How many of you are guilty about this? How many of you have been addicted to refreshing in the last 72 hours? Right? It's easy to do that when there's chaos, but that's also the most Important time not to do that for your own psyche, right? That's the most important time to separate yourself from chaos versus what do you do. Reconnect to it every 30 seconds. Think about what that does. You cannot. Doesn't matter how conscious or intelligent or brilliant or meditative you are. If you check into, oh, my God, bad news 24 7, there is no human that. That does not start to shape your emotional reality. No human alive. The Dalai Lama couldn't do it without feeling that emotion, if that's what he did 24 7. And right now, that's what we have people doing. And so I think what is necessary is to stay absolutely informed. But realize not a whole lot is going to shift in periods of time throughout the day. Now, I know it depends on what you do and how you respond in your career and where your family is and all these things. No question. No question. So here's what I suggest to you. To stay centered in the mid of the chaos, you choose how much you check in. You choose. And then at a conscious level, I'd say back it up a little bit. So however you're like, I gotta check 20 times this hour. But I'm like, okay, I appreciate that feeling and that concern. So let's just back. Could we check in just five times in the hour so you can actually get something done? So please don't think I'm saying don't be involved or don't be informed. I'm saying don't let the chaos eat you alive. Because listen to this statement. Chaos inside grows as checking in on the outside grows, right? The more everyone's freaking out, and the more you listen to all of it, the more it infects you. Because there is also another contagion going on right now. And if you've studied neuroscience with me for a while or you've been with me in this community for a while, you know how much we talk about emotional contagion. Energy spreads. And the real pandemic right now is emotional contagion where people are losing their center. It's like, listen, we can act without losing our center. We can act without spreading fear. We can act without the anxiety. Like the stuff that I have to take on on a daily basis. If you saw it, you'd be like, oh, my gosh. But I choose not to address it with anxiety. I choose to be in center of my emotional reality, the chooser, the captain of the ship. And I just want you to be that observer of how you've been dealing with this and choose to Stay centered amid the chaos. I do things like keep your morning routine. It is so important right now, that is stability in an unstable world. Don't overly engage what is happening. Don't contribute to the negative energy in any way. Even if you want to trust me, when I do check in, I want to say, you idiots, oh, my gosh, what's happening over here? Don't be that person. It's not going to help your spirit or your soul. I promise you. Be the person who's centered amid the chaos. If you like this one, give me two of those down below because we've got to engage this. If you can communicate something to your kids, teach them this principle. If you can talk with your team, teach them this principle. Let's be the ones who are steady, strong, centered, even as we take responsible action. Lord, hallelujah. Can I get an amen on a Friday? Number two, big idea. And this will be so simple. And I promise we'll go even more advanced. We'll get into very. You know, I know some of you are here and you're really excited about the forecasting. We'll get to that stuff, too. But number two, I would love to just be brief on this one. I have a personal rule. Don't complain. Do not complain. I can describe my reality of the many things I'm doing without complaining. I can vent and I can share and I can describe without the emotional tenor and tone of complaining about it. Because your mind is listening to your mouth. And when you start saying, oh, I gotta deal with this, and oh, damn, your body goes, oh, my gosh. And your body reacts to that and your body drops more cortisol. There's no question. Did you know the tone that you use in your speaking activates and can activate whether or not you're dropping dopamine, serotonin, oxypressin, or I almost said oxytocin. That means something. But it's like, we can have that or vasopressin. That's what I was going after. We can be in that place where it's like our tone can actually release good energy, good hormones inside. But what happens for people is your tone can also release more cortisol, the stress hormone. So listen how you describe things. I'll give an example. My main man, Ricardo over here, knocking out this live cast for us. He's been so key in all of our video production this year. My main man, my first videographer in Puerto Rico. We're just kicking some butt together. He came in today, and I just totally described What I'm going through. I was like, yeah, boy, was. You know, we were just chatting and I was sharing about my last 72 hours. Yep. I had to do this and this and boy, this is going on. I had to talk with lawyers this morning and I had to. But it wasn't like, oh, my job. There wasn't that energy. Because if you're in that energy, if I was in that energy this morning, I couldn't serve you right. Well, the more that you complain, the more you put yourself in an emotional energy that doesn't allow you to serve your kids, doesn't allow you to serve as a role model with your team or your community. I know you know this, but please, right now, we are in a global pandemic and an election year. Omg, is it time to complain? So really pay attention to complaining. You're the only one. But let me give you an HPX coaching point right now. I want you from now on, the rest of this year, the rest of this year, every night, as you evaluate yourself, and I hope you do, use your high performance planner at the end of the day. Evaluate yourself. Give yourself a scorecard on the high performance habits. Or if you don't use a high performance planner, make sure every night you have a scorecard somewhere of how you did, of values that are important to you. Maybe some of the values that are important to you are. Did you demonstrate love today? Were you patient with kids? Did you, did you stay focused on your work? Whatever it is? Everyone should have a nighttime scorecard to be able to look back at the day. And the more we do that self evaluation, the more we gain self awareness. I want you to add Team HPX right now, all of you guys, from now on, every night, the rest of this year, I would love for you to add a simple thing. Add a scorecard of complaint. Did I complain today? Score of one to ten. Ten. You were a little brat, baby. And one good job. You know, you kept the complaints to a minimum even when you had reason. Because isn't it true? We can all say, I have reason to complain. Oh, my spouse didn't do this. And then they closed the school and then he said this on the television and then they did that and we still don't have the test and oh my God. And just completely complain. It's like, okay, there's a difference between complaining and making an argument that moves the needle forward. Okay, I'm not saying we should engage, but if you engage, make an argument that moves the needle forward versus just talking out Your mouth. And I think you know the difference. I can't judge it for you. This is why I'm asking you to keep your own scorecard. You know, I'm hyper aware of it this year. I'm hyper aware there's so much nonsense and vitriol online and social media that I'm like, okay, am I complaining? Because it feels like you have to gauge. Have you complained more in the last three months than you complained in previous years of your life? That's a reality check for many people right now. And once we check into that, it's like, okay, so that's a simple one. I just want to get that one out there because I think it's really important. So, again, for those who are just joining us, this is a broadcast where I'm going to talk about fear mitigation and forecasting. And so point number three is about fear. And my practice about fear is just simple. Understand where fear comes from. Always know when you feel fear or you sense fear. There's only three reasons that that thing is showing up. And once you can tap into those three reasons, and I promise you, there's only three reasons that fear happens for us. And soon as we realize that, it's like, oh, now there's only three reasons. In a certain context, the first fear that we all have is the primal physical fear, right? If something is chasing us, or in this case, we're scared that we could die from a pandemic. That's a certain type of fear. That is impulsive, right? Something chases us and boom, that immediately drops. It's reactive. The amygdala fires, and there is no conscious ability. But almost 99.9% of the time, there is the conscious ability to react to fear. And that's where these three things come into play. Remember, there's only three things we fear. Number one thing that we fear is loss. The pain from loss. We fear we're going to lose our health, we're going to lose our business income, we're going to lose our relationship with somebody that we love. We're going to lose steady work. We are going to lose the comforts or the certainties that we enjoy today. Loss pain is the primary fear driver for most people. And so if you're having a lot of, like, anxiety right now and you can place it to I'm kind of fearful. And we dig deep. One of those reasons is you're scared to lose something. And anytime we get scared to lose something, we must do a perspective check. We have to say, really, did I lose it? Have I already lost it? Has the process of loss happened? Have I lost it in the past? We must just get perspective. But also we have to flip everything. Because the nice thing about fear on the other side of it is also confidence. It's like two sides of a coin. So if loss, pain is the fear on the other side, we could say, oh, could there be a gain? So mitigate the loss by saying, oh, I'm scared I'm going to lose this. Have I lost it yet? Have I lost it before? Is there any reason to believe I'm losing it or going to lose it? Just do a reality check on the loss. But at the same time give more mental and emotional energy to the other side, which is okay, are there things to gain here? Because if you can take a fear into an opportunity, you've achieved a certain type of Zen in your life. Really. I mean, if you think about a lot of the Eastern philosophy of that Yin and Yang or that chaos and that opportunity it really comes from, where are you going to put your mental and emotional energy? I actually really believe, if you thought about it, this could be an opportunity for you to improve your health and your immunity. This is a great time to check on your diet. This is a great time to deal with stress better. This is a great time to ensure that you are capably managing your meditation, your exercise, your diet, your sleep, your stress routines. This could actually be a time in which you strengthen yourself versus just feel fearful and go about your normal life. I think that's really important. I think that's really important. So where is your energy there? My energy right now is completely on optimizing my energy is. I mean, if you walked out on my counter right now and saw all the HPEX supplements you know, that got going on, all the things I'm doing to exercise, to walk. Like, I am absolutely making sure every day right now I am meditating twice a day. Right now, twice a day. Like I'm just not missing. I'm doing it in the morning and then for me, around that 4:30 time, I'm making sure at 4:30 every day I either meditate or I nap for 30 minutes straight, just depending on how my body is feeling, just to recover, to enter the evening strong twice a day. I'm doing that major reset for my mental health twice a day. So you got to pick up your mental and physical health routines. Because if you're so scared right now, you're scared of getting sick, right? So let's optimize our health. Second Thing people right now are. I'm so scared, Brendan. I'm going to lose business. The economy is crashing. I've lost, you know, I've lost a lot of, like, my 401k or my index funds. I'm dropping business. I'm have to cancel events. I'm in real time losing business and funds, Brendan, and it is scaring me to death. And I'm here to say I get it. And it's happened to you before and you're still here. You think this is the first time you've lost money? I bet it's not. This is the first time a major client cancel on you. Bet it's not. This is the first time you didn't know what the next quarter of income looked like. Hell, no. You remember when you couldn't pay rent? Who you talking to? Come on. Sometimes when we are so fearful about business and career, we forget where we came from. You have survived lack. You have survived scarcity at epic levels in the past. So don't think that you can't handle it before. Part of something we'll talk about here in a few practices is the ability to go into time zones when people are in a panic. When people are in a panic of the present, you use perspective to say, how'd this go in the past? Where were my strengths there in the past? And what are the opportunities in the future? And let me apply some strengths to the future. And so when you're feeling loss, concern for business, for income, for funds, just keep perspective. Yeah, that might be happening right now. Address it. Use it as an opportunity to learn about the market, to learn about investing, to learn about getting new clients. Like, right now, I'm like, oh, what do I need to do to grow my virtual services of my business right now? Great, great. Time to study. Instead of going, oh, my God, it's happening. Turn on Netflix and let's just drink wine and hide. I just go, oh, let me study. Let me retool. Oh, my gosh. Let me take command of this fate right now, baby. Let me deal with this by learning. Either I'm going to disengage and complain, or I'm going to engage and learn. And that's what I'm doing right now. I'm like, all right, how do those online models work in this way and this way and this way? Oh, and what was the best way? I did this before in the past and this before. It's like, it's not that I'm not noticing that things are happening around us or that We've been impacted by the stock market or by the concerns or the realities of travel bans. I get that guys just like you. So are you engaging and learning? Here's the test. Here's the test. And I want you to be honest with this because again, I'm trying to be your friend tonight, but I'm also your coach. So my best moments as a coach is when I challenge people with ones that kind of smack you up in the face a little bit. And let's just do the test. How much learning did you do over the last 72 hours versus consuming? That tells you how you're handling this right now. How much learning did you do versus consuming? And what I mean by that is consuming social media, consuming news, seeing what everybody's saying, seeing what everybody's doing versus going, holy crap, you know what, honey, our index funds might be affected. You know what? Our business might be affected. You know what? Things might be canceled here or that thing might go on here. Let me pull away from the checking in and let me learn how to do better right now. This is why I honor you guys as a community. You're here to learn how to do better today. This is why I love you and why I honor you. Because you know how many people are not engaging personal development right now? You know how many people are falling to their base impulses? But you're here, you're doing the work. So you know what? Count this hour and this next hour together as you know what. You're learning time instead of your consuming of drama. So what have I been doing the last 72 hours? I've been tooling up. I was up literally last night, 12:30am learning and going back and studying some notes to see, oh, how do I do this online thing over here? Because let me amplify that. Because if I'm concerned of. If you're concerned of loss over here, you'd better amplify something over here. Make sense? So what's your plan? What are you amplifying over here? If you're going to deal with loss over here, that is facing it, that is dealing with it, that's going for it. So three things that we fear. Number one, loss, pain. So I've told you some ways to mitigate that. Number two, we fear is what I call process pain. Process pain is another way of saying hardship. We fear the difficulties because we fear, like the difficulties of the emotion we're going to feel, but also the difficulties of our capabilities. I don't like the feelings of it, and I Don't know if I'm capable for it. Right? That's called hardship or prostitute. That's why I'm always telling my audience, you must learn to honor the struggle and not fear it. Take the struggle that is in front of you. Don't hate it. Don't complain about it. Instead, honor it as something that is true, as real right now that we must deal with. And it is something that we can engage in an honoring fashion in which we can grow and become stronger or that will make us weaker. And I think right now people are really scared of the hardships. Oh, my gosh, I'm going to have to go to Costco and buy some toilet paper today. I'm like, okay, yes, maybe that's real, but really, you can handle getting in a car and going to Costco to get toilet paper. Really, that much energy about going shopping? You've been shopping every day of your life. Why are you so freaked out about shopping now? Oh, well, I might. You know, the crowds are going to be crazy. You shopped at Christmas. Well, I might go shopping and it's crazy and I might get sick. You've gotten sick at Christmas, too. The odds of you getting seasonal flu are like, infinitely higher than you getting coronavirus. And I'm not saying that coronavirus isn't more deadly as a percentage, but as a possibility. And a potential. Getting a seasonal flu or dropping dead from heart disease or getting cancer or being in a car accident on the way to Costco is way more likely than you dying from coronavirus. And I'm not minimizing. I'm just. That's stat, that's facts. It just means in the context of what I'm sharing with you is you've dealt with hardship before, you've dealt with things before. You get to choose. You know, all the news made, and a bunch of my friends were telling me, because I live in this world here where, you know, one of the great heroes of American cinema, Tom and Reed Wilson Hanks, have been diagnosed with coronavirus. And they happen to be in another country while they're dealing with that. And, you know, he did a post of saying, hey, you know, there's no crying in baseball. Which is kind of brilliant, by the way. It's like, listen, he's dealing with it the best he can. Are you going to hate the hardship and the struggle, or are you going to bring a little bit of humor to it and just deal? I encourage you to just deal. Okay. When you have fear of process pain, it's because I don't think I can emotionally handle that. And I don't feel like I'm capable. You must remind yourself and keep perspective. You've actually already dealt with something similar and you have been capable in managing it before. Right now, the process. Oh, it's going to be hard. Run my business. Yep. And guess what? It was super hard your first couple of years in your business too. What's the surprise? See, part of honoring the struggle is anticipating the reality of it. Like, I'm. I'm surprised that everyone right now is so surprised. I'm like, oh, why was everyone so surprised? You never read a book about a stark stock market crash. You never watched a movie about, you know, things you haven't studied. Health, like, what's. Why is everyone so freaked? And I'm not saying there isn't something new here. I'm just saying you can anticipate your reactions. Your reactions. That's what I'm talking about. So the third thing that we fear, first one is lost pain. Second one is process pain. Third one is outcome pain. I'm scared of what's on the other side of this. The end result. And here's what we do, and this is really important. People do this all the time. People jump to worst case scenario and they go to catastrophizing. But worse, they go to ruin and death. Why is everyone so scared right now? Their fear is about an outcompane. Death or ruin. I'm going to die or my business and my career are ruined. Right. That's what they're worried about. Like they go to the ultimate end. Total catastrophe. Don't be a catastrophizer. Do not be. My father in 2009, was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia. He was healthy the week before, went to the doctors, did some tests. They're trying to figure out what's going on within that day. They gave him seven days to live. Seven days to live. Now imagine two really qualified doctors tell you, you're gonna die in seven days. That's heavy. And the ability for the mind to embrace that as fear and go, oh my God. And to immediately assume death or ruin. My dad, God bless his Soul. Being a 20 year veteran of the United States Marine Corps was like, I'm gonna engage this. I'm gonna beat it. That was it. That was it. I'm gonna engage it. I'm gonna beat it. I'm gonna fight it. I'm gonna do everything possible to win here. And if I don't, at least I know I did everything possible. So Instead of catastrophizing on what might happen in the ultimate of ruin, you go, what must I engage here to do? The absolute everything I can. And that will allow me to sleep at night going, you know what? I'm giving my best right now instead of hiding. I'm giving my best right now instead of waiting for ruin. I'm engaging this. I'm building, I'm taking care of myself. Whatever it is you need to do. That perspective. And I want you to hear this today because I'm never, ever addressing you guys as someone who thinks I have everything figured out or as somebody who doesn't realize that many of you know this stuff already because common sense is just not always common practice. But more important, I know you're a role model. So what if you could teach your kids or teach your team? You know what? There's three things we fear, loss, pain, process pain, and outcome pain. You know, I'm scared to make this decision because these reasons. You're feeling this because of these reasons. So I'm addressing this to you today as someone recognizing that you are a role model in your community. And maybe you can have an active conversation about fear and teach them. You're scared of loss, you're scared of hardship, and you're scared that things won't turn out well, they'll be ruinous. So here's a way to mitigate that and to think through that in a different way. And I think if we could do that with our families right now, just start at home, have the conversation about how people are feeling and about their fear. Have a conversation with your family and your team. Are you staying centered and are dealing with fear in an active, proactive, positive way? If we could all just do that as a community, I think things could really, really improve. Okay. Really improve. Now, I'm going to talk about here in a moment. I know I'm going pretty fast. I'm only on point number three here of stay centered amid the chaos, don't complain, and recognize what fear is. But I'm going to talk about something that you guys submitted in advance, which is how do you deal with stressful situations? So in a moment, my team, we pulled out from the vault one of my favorite trainings I've ever done on stressful situations. And then we're going to come back and I'm going to talk about the steady Eddie and the steady 80, my steady 80 rule. And so enjoy this best of the vault. We'll come back, we'll talk about my steady 80 rule and then we'll talk how do you about minimum, how do you minimize downsides? How do you maximize upsides and opportunities? How do you choose opportunities? And then we're going to go into a little bit of framework of how do you do forecasting right now? How do you forecast for your business? How do you forecast for what's happening in your community or your country? We'll talk about how we think through things as responsible, thoughtful people. And I think you're really going to enjoy the second half of this baby today. And of course, we will end by doing some q and a with you today, which I think is really important. So thank you for being here and working on yourselves. We're going to play the best of all, how do you deal with stressful situations? And then we'll come back and talk about the steady 80. In the meantime, please post down below a lesson that you liked so far today because we're just getting warmed up. So log in down below. Let me know where you're from because I'm going to be looking at it and start submitting your questions because my team will start gathering them right now. Play that video, guys. People ask me, brendon, how do you deal with stressful situations so you don't freak out or have a ton of anxiety and fear leading up to them because maybe you have a big public speaking engagement coming up or maybe you have that test at school coming up or maybe you're about to have that difficult conversation with somebody that you wanted to say something to them but you've been holding back and you know it's going to freak you out when you go to tell them the truth. Whenever we're in situations that we know are going to bring us stress, it really is on us to prepare our absolute best so that, a, we deal with them well and we can actually enjoy the experience or go through the experience without freaking out. But b, we don't freak out the energy of everybody else because in all of the storms of life, it is our job to be the calm amid the storm. But that's hard and that takes skills and that takes training. So I got four big ideas for you in this Brendon show. Episode number one, always anticipate and ask others how to deal with stressful situations. I know that's a no duh one, but most people do not do that, right? You're about to go take your first SAT test ever. What do you do? Well, you study, you study, you study, you go and you take it. But that's gonna be A stressful situation, why wouldn't you first anticipate, wow, that is gonna cause a lot of anxiety for me. The days before the day of, I'm gonna be freaking out waiting for my scores. Why would you not ask people who've already taken it, what did you do the day before the test to calm yourself down, to get yourself ready the day of the test? What did you do when you went in there? Did you have a certain breathing pattern? How did you calm yourself down? What did you tell yourself so that you could deal with the situation? Right. Same thing. You're about to go have a difficult conversation with your spouse or your partner, the person you love. Why wouldn't you ask other people who, you know, be like, hey, I'm about to have this difficult conversation? Have you ever had a conversation like that? Oh, what did you say? How did you bring it up? Like, the idea that so many people in this world go into every day bumbling into it. I feel sad for them. They're living a highly reactive life, and they're setting themselves up for incredible failure. Because if you don't anticipate the emotions that you're going to have in stressful situations, I promise the situation is going to win, not you. So always anticipate. Okay, this is going to be hard. This conversation, this test, this day, this thing. It's going to be hard. Anticipate, it will be hard. Now, who has gone through it before? Who I can ask how they dealt with it. That's the first strategy. Second strategy, I need you to make a pre, during, and post stress management plan. Huge phrase, Brendan. I know. But what I think is, okay, if I'm going to go have that difficult experience in my life, I'm going to plan, really plan the day before, the day of the and the day after, I'm really going to think through it. So let's say you're going to have that difficult conversation with somebody you love. Okay. The day before, I'm going to say, okay, well, the night before, I'm going to ask myself these questions. I'm going to rehearse it a little bit. The morning of, I'm going to breathe, I'm going to close my eyes. I'm going to visualize it going just fine. Everything's going to be fine. If they say this, I'll say that. In other words, I'm going to roleplay it in my mind over and over and over again during the day. And then afterwards, oh, how would I follow up with them to make them feel good? How Would I follow up or what would be my next right steps after that? Right. I have a friend right now who's just an unbelievable professional rock climber. And this person was going to go climb one of the hardest climbs in the world. And I said, man, that would terrify me because I hate heights. How did you prepare for that? He says, oh, well, you know, my regular routine is like this. I said, yeah, but what do you do the day before? And he had like five or six things he did the day before to get himself mentally and emotionally and physically ready, including doing a lot of mobility training, a lot of breathing and calming activities, a lot of visualization, going over his notes about where each hold was. It was unbelievable. The day of that morning he got up, he went through a very, like, basic routine. He'd been running for weeks and weeks and weeks and weeks. But he added on other little elements, too, that he knew he was going to do in advance, including like, calling his spouse and saying, I love you, honey, because he's about to climb up a mountain. And then the day after, because here's what we often don't think. Stress has a longer shelf life than we think. What I mean by that is, let's say you go do something that's really stressful, that energy carries with you the next day. So what can you do the next day to calm yourself down? For example, many of you guys have been to my seminars before out in the world, right? Maybe you come to High Performance Academy or HPX or Influencer or one of our big programs. And I know that delivering that training, it takes four days of my life. I'm on stage for anywhere between, you know, seven to 14 hours a day, depending on the event. And standing up that whole time, delivering that seminar is one of the hardest things I do in the world. Well, guess what? I got to plan my stress management after it, because after it, my adrenals are all blown out, I'm exhausted, and I'm thinking, okay, I got to recover from this. So I plan my recovery well in advance of that situation. So what can you do before, during, and after to put yourself in a good place so that you can really deal with the stress? Number three, I do need you to visualize and role model over and over and over again. I know I referenced this a little bit when I talk about what to do during the stressful situation or the day of. I think it's incredibly important that if you know you have something stressful coming up, that you visualize it over and over and over. Again, that you play it in your mind over and over and over again. But here's the difference, okay? Fear mongering, or worrying is thinking about it and seeing it go bad every single time. Visualizing is seeing you show up. Confident, capable, doing a good job. Confident, capable, doing a good job. I want you to. Every single time. Visualization should be a positive thinking exercise where you're seeing the situation and you're seeing yourself handle it well, but you're also noticing the things that are difficult. What if they say this or what if they say that and you're kind of like scenario planning. If she says this, then I'll say that. If he does this, then I'll do that. But keep the momentum going and visualize the thing all the way through. Right? My friend, the rock climber, he doesn't just visualize, you know, the start of the climb. He visualizes the entire climb until he's standing on top of the rock and their success. So I want you to visualize the entire scenario. What most people do is they visualize a little bit of the scenario. They feel anxiousness and worry, so they stop visualizing or they catastrophize. They start seeing it going bad, bad, bad, bad, bad. And they never walk the entire thing through. I want you to walk the entire thing through, see the entire thing, and force yourself to see it going well. Force yourself to see it going well. Force yourself to see it going well. Then I want you to pair it with role modeling. I want you to call up a friend, call up somebody else, you know, say, hey, I'm about to have this conversation, or I'm about to go do this thing. Can I ask you some questions and try this out? Sound it out, act it out, explore it with other people? There's very few things I do in my life that I haven't already talked with somebody through. Right before my meetings or my conversations, before all my online courses, I'll sit down and I'll literally try out the words on people. What do you think of this? What do you think of that? And I'll get feedback from them, and that makes me think more deeply about it. And when I think more deeply about it, suddenly the stress isn't so. Like, front of house. Because in my mind, I'm already prepared. Like, preparation can get rid of a lot of stress, but role modeling puts you in that actual environment where you're doing the thing. Then when you show up, you're like, wow, my mind has seen in this a thousand times. I've already talked it and acted out. Let's go. And now it's not so stressful. Fourth, big idea. Enroll your friends. If you got something coming up like your SATs, your ACTs, a TEST, create study groups. Don't go it alone. Create a study group of some friends where you guys create a regular schedule where you're studying and you're getting ready together. Right? That camaraderie of things. Same thing. If you're gonna go run a marathon, it's gonna be this big scary thing. It's your first marathon ever. If you've been running with a group of people they know by science that no doubt you will perform better and less anxiously because you've prepared with other people almost everything you do in your life, you should think, how do I enroll friends or find peers to do this with them so I stay on the journey. When you have friends or others involved, we know from social sciences that you're more likely to stay committed, stay consistent, and succeed. But guess what? We're in a society of selfies where we only think of ourselves and we only, like, because we're scared to ask for help or be vulnerable and say, I don't know. We do everything ourselves. And everything I ever do, I literally sit down. Here's my goal list. Anytime I write down goals, I don't just write down, when's it going to happen? What's my next step? You know, what's the deadline? Instead, I also write next to it and I say, who can I enroll with me on this goal? Get people enrolled with you in your goals. Get people enrolled with you so you can role play with them. Ask, participate, go through it with them. It's not so scary. I know you know this if you've ever been to, like, the county fair. I'm from Montana, so we always have the county fair. And there would be these big, huge, scary rides. When I was a kid, I never went on a ride by myself as a kid. Never. Once I go grab my buddy, like, hey, you're coming on with me. What, are you kidding? I'm not going to. He didn't want to go, I didn't want to go. But when we said, let's go together, we got on that zipper, we got flipped around and kicked around and we loved it. And we only did it because we did it together. You will face greater stresses and greater fears when you go at it together. I hope this serves you, my friend. I want to thank you again for being part of our HPX community. I love having you guys here. HPX stands for the high performance experience. It just means, you know what, there's another level of life experience available to you when you prepare, when you think things through, when you challenge yourself to be your absolute best, when you show up each and every day and you say, I'm going to be vibrant today. I'm going to be connected with other people. I'm going to make a difference. And I know that's why you're here. So thank you for being here. Make sure you subscribe Share this video with somebody going through a stressful situation today. I'll see you next time. Okay, y'. All, I hope you enjoyed that video from our Vault about how do you deal with stressful situations? Because I really believe that when you take into account these things, I know that this is a conversation, you know, like the visualizing and the role modeling that are really important right now. Because, yes, we're in this pandemic and this scary situation, but are you still waking up and visualizing something positive for your day? Are you visualizing something that's good for the next couple weeks, the next couple months, the next year? Or are you only trapped in the chaos and the fear? See leaders rise above that and they look further out, and that is what you must do right now. So I know as I played that video from the Vault about stressful situations, it was about a broad range of stressful situations, not just what we're dealing with now. But that's what I want this training to be about for you. I want it to be not just. I think that this, obviously the pandemic right now gives us the example and gives us the rationale to have this conversation. But I hope it's applying to a lot of different parts of your life, too, because maybe you've been even before the pandemic, maybe you're stressed in your career as you transition from one thing to another or there's stress in your marriage or there's stress in life. I hope that that video helped you give that bigger perspective. Because if we don't do those simple things of enrolling our friends in a good community of people, of planning how we're going to deal with the stress of just anticipating and learning from others, then we're in challenge. I mean, even last night I was texting with some friends in Italy and saying, okay, you all are further along in this. How are you dealing with it? I was talking with friends in China and saying, okay, you've been dealing with this longer than we have here in the US at heightened levels. What did you learn. How did you approach your daily life, your week? What change? What should I anticipate is coming? Those simple things really do help. So I hope that you enjoyed that video from the Vault. Hey all, I hope you enjoyed part one of my coronavirus session, Fear, Focus and Forecasting. There's a lot more to go obviously, but obviously this is a long session so I wanted to be able to give it to you in two separate parts. Please. If you found anything useful in this, would you please do me a favor and share this episode far and wide. Just copy it right now, text it out to all your friends, your family, your team and let's get this conversation going that we can take back control of our emotional center even in chaos and times that are very fearful. For those of you who love this conversation and you would really love some more resources, I am giving away my Wellness Masterclass to the entire world right now for free just for the next seven days. So go to HPX wellness.com that's HPX wellness.com I'll have the team forward that directly to the Free Order form to join us for the Wellness Masterclass form for free. You'll learn about energy and motivation management. You'll learn about all the things mind, body connection. You'll learn about stress relief, dealing with overwhelm, cultivating joy. You'll learn how to activate your physiology. You'll learn to tap into your purpose but also learn to develop more self discipline. That's the Wellness Masterclass and you get it free right now on trial@hpx wellness.com I'm sending love, I'm sending healing, I'm sending energy. I'm sending extraordinary hopes for you, your loved ones and your team's health, well being and productivity through these difficult times. As my wife Denise always says, every single day you can choose to be ordinary. And right now that means reacting in fear, feeling all this scared feelings all the time, checking in too much, getting all frazzled 24 with every single news release. Or you choose to deal with it, to face it, to be real about it, but also to adjust your attitude and to do everything you can to optimize your health. As Denise says, you can choose to be ordinary or you can choose to be extraordinary. So my friends, please go out there today, share this episode and be extraordinary. It.